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AIBU?

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to not want friend to steal my baby name? Long irrational rant.

98 replies

BibiThree · 14/11/2007 15:25

Okay so I know I probably am being unreasonable, and it's not technically stealing, I'm just really, really irrationally annoyed by her at the moment.

She's always been v v competitave, especially when it comes to the children, what mine have, hers have to have as well, and ususally better, what mine do her kids have to do as well, first and better etc etc.

Anyway, before dh and I even decided to have children, we had a boys name, just one and in the last 10 years it's been the ONLY boys name we have ever agreed on. When I conceived dd1 I told a few people the girl and boy names we had, including friend. The boys name isn't common and I can't imagine it's ever been common around these parts. Anyway, she was pg at the same time and shortly after our name conversation started telling people if her baby was a boy she'd call it the name I loved. When I teasingly said she'd stollen it off me and that's what i was going to call my baby if it was a boy, she insisted she'd always liked the name and was always going to use it. We both had girls.

We were recetly both pg again, I had all girls, she's due shortly and we suspect she's having a boy and is going to call it my name. So much so, she calls him that already. We won't be having any more children, dh has had the snip, so I won't ever need to use it, so why I am so bl**dy annoyed about this?

I really feel like she's stollen my boy's name. Someone kick me up the bottom please.

Ta

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SquiffyonSnowballs · 14/11/2007 15:54

Oh custo, what a fab idea

I hear that Rats are the ultimate must-have pet these days...

expatinscotland · 14/11/2007 15:55

and then Scottish people laugh at such folk, lemon, because they can tell it's poncey and fake .

the names we chose for our girls are Gaelic.

expatinscotland · 14/11/2007 15:55

i really like custy's idea! particulary because dogs live for ages, a reminder to her for years and years!

Tommy · 14/11/2007 15:58

lol at custy's idea - I would definitely go for that. There isn't anything else you can do is there?!

SoupDragon · 14/11/2007 15:59

Definitely get a dog. Fabulous.

lemonaid · 14/11/2007 16:01

Is it still poncey and fake if have Scottish grandparents (not all of them, admittedly, but those who aren't are largely Irish) and a Scottish surname? I did veto anything outrageously Scottish on grounds of potential accusations of fakery, admittedly. I love your DD2's name, for example (at least, I think it's your DD2 -- the one the midwife more-or-less named) but wouldn't use it (although, come to think of it, there is a W London MNetter whose DD has the same name and it's never struck me as OTT in her case).

lemonaid · 14/11/2007 16:02

Am loving the dog idea, mind...

MerryAnnSinglemas · 14/11/2007 16:03

I toyed with Flora for a girl as we have Scottish surname (and genuine Scottish FIL) it would have sounded wonderfully romantic

codslovechild · 14/11/2007 16:03

yes

Dior · 14/11/2007 16:08

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Ilovenutella · 14/11/2007 16:11

Ha - my brother married a Katie which happened to be the name of our dog - it caused a few problems, especially when a friend referred to Katie looking a bit old and tired (meaning the dog....) How we LOL!

Defo get a dog....... !

Mommalove · 14/11/2007 16:13

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minouminou · 14/11/2007 16:52

even better - get a parrot - 60-odd years!
think up some choice phrases to teach it, too.

QueenBhannae · 14/11/2007 17:05

I have two brothers of the same name as my parents seperated and reproduced with others obviously with no concern for my mental wellbeing
YANBU I would be peeved too.

mm22bys · 14/11/2007 17:07

YABU, sorry. Names are personal, and if you really like a name, does it really matter if somebody else uses it?

Honestly, she sounds like the one with the problems. Sounds like she can't have any individual, unique thoughts.

What do they say, imitation is the sincerest form of flattery?

Mommalove · 14/11/2007 17:10

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VictorianSqualor · 14/11/2007 17:11

I think it's rather rude, my friend called her daughter Tamsin, a few months later her sister had a daughter and called her Tammy, I know it always really upset my friend.
It's just not polite.

pyjamagirl · 14/11/2007 17:14

We lost a baby girl 9 years ago and I was very close to a woman at the time.
2 years later she fell pg and insisted she was going to call it my DD's name ,as her DP loved it.
She had a boy and is no longer my friend

QueenBhannae · 14/11/2007 17:14

Mommalove- we get round it as I am mixed race and they are not so I have a totally un-pc black and a white

QueenBhannae · 14/11/2007 17:15

Disgusting pjgirl x

VictorianSqualor · 14/11/2007 17:17

Aww pjgirl, thats just not on, A friend of mines daughter was stillborn and though quite a few of us loved the name when pregnant we would never have used it.
I am still unsure of one of the names I really like for my baby if it is a boy, a friend of a friends baby died at birth and had this name, and I havetn seen either of them for about two years since moving towns, but it still makes me slightly uneasy.

expatinscotland · 14/11/2007 17:17

if anyone names their boy child Luis-Alfredo i'm out for their blood .

pyjamagirl · 14/11/2007 17:18

Yes but karmas a bitch .Two weeks after her son was born a close friend of hers called her DS the same name she had chosen.
How she ranted!!

QueenBhannae · 14/11/2007 17:24

I might have that on our list for next time expat to go with Bruno lol

emzzzzz · 14/11/2007 17:25

I would be pissed off too!!

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