To think hairdresser shouldn't have done this?

[nancywhitehead]

Had my hair done yesterday for the first time since lockdown. When I first went in the hairdresser was holding her phone up like she was taking a picture of me, I didn't say anything because I wasn't fully sure she was taking a picture or just checking her phone if you know what I mean?

But then once I'd had the colour done she stood there again behind me with her phone pointing at my head. I asked "are you taking a picture?" and she was like "yeah, don't worry, it's just the back of your head, it's just nice to be able to see the before and after you know?" She said it in a way that made me feel it would be really unreasonable to be uncomfortable with it, so I didn't say anything else.

But AIBU to think she shouldn't have taken my photo without asking me??? I was a bit shocked at the time so didn't say anything but now I'm a bit annoyed about it... I don't really want my pic posting on the hairdresser's facebook page even if it is just the back of my head?

It’s the back of your head, unless you’ve got some really out there hair cut then you won’t be recognisable. I can’t get the angst. People will see the back of your head all the time.

My hairdresser usually asks first

It's very rude to take someone's picture without asking. She definitely should have asked if she was going to post it on social media but even if it was just for her own records, she shouldn't have taken your picture without checking that you were ok with it.

I hate having my photo taken and this would have made me feel very uncomfortable.

I recently went to a beauty salon for a treatment.
Later at work my friend sent me a screenshot of my own face with my eyes shut that had been put up on the therapists fb page!
I don’t have social media for very good reason, I felt my throat tighten and had the worst panic attack I’ve suffered in a few years. I really can’t believe in the times of GDPR a business would be so incredibly stupid.

@mn81987

@NoProblem123 🤣🤣🙄🙄
Just say no then instead of being a dickhead about it

Lol - you do know that was a joke right ?

It is just respectful for them to ask. If they asked, I would say yes, if they didn't and just took photo's in the OP scenario I would tell them they couldn't use them. It might sound like being awkward but it's just reminding people about respect.

She absolutely needs to ask permission to take your photo and also ask if it's ok to use on social media. It's the principle of consent here! I agree with a PP it's about women's autonomy over their bodies and the images of themselves.

I've seen friend's photos on my hairdresser page and from the sort of side/back shot, I've recognised them even if it's not a full front face shot so it is possible to be recognised. What if someone doesn't want to be on social media (for example, has escaped domestic violence and wishes to be safe) and then the hairdresser sticks their photo up, indicating a likely area they are now living in. Not good.

You need to speak up though Op. Never let someone else set a boundary for you that you're not comfortable with.

I am not on facebook or Twitter or anything similar. I’d rather my image wasn’t either. 🤷‍♀️

Up here it tends to be a back and side view. Even with masks on I’ve recognised a few people.

It wouldn’t be for me. Even though my transformation would be like changing a claggy sheep fleece into skeins of silk and the most amazing testament to their skills.

My hairdresser did this to me too, I don't mind when the result is great but I was mortified when she posted a before and after and the lighting in the before was so off that it made my hair look orange when it definitely wasn't. I do love when people on her account say how beautiful the end result is though.

Mine did this and didn’t ask, if you can’t be recognised I don’t see the problem. In fact, I thought it was nice to see the before and after, as it was so desperately needed doing!

She should have asked, but it’s not something that would bother me. It’s probably how she advertises her work on Instagram or Facebook.

My hairstylist often does this but always asks, he shows me the picture and asks if it ok to post to his social media.

My hairdresser took a pic of the back of my hair at my first appointment after lockdown, I think in a OMG way so she could see the difference afterwards, I wasn’t bothered as it was pretty bad!

It’s a huge thing at the moment, and my hairdresser posted me without me realising, a huge no from me. I don’t want me or my house shown. Of course they should ask your permission first.

My hairdresser sometimes takes a photo but she always asks me. I am always happy for her to take one, but I would find it intrusive if she didn't ask first.

She should have asked. Its just basic manners.

@PeteWicksSexyPirate

I recently went to a beauty salon for a treatment. Later at work my friend sent me a screenshot of my own face with my eyes shut that had been put up on the therapists fb page! I don’t have social media for very good reason, I felt my throat tighten and had the worst panic attack I’ve suffered in a few years. I really can’t believe in the times of GDPR a business would be so incredibly stupid.

That's appalling!

If she is using it for promotional purposes you should have signed an image release form. It is covered by gdpr and should be removed if you request it.

It would have been polite to ask but maybe she assumed you view her social media and know that she posts before and after shots. You can message her and ask her to take it down. Just say she took you by surprise.
I think you're partly annoyed with yourself - that you didn't assert your boundaries once you realised what was happening.

I’m not sure it’s legal. Data privacy? I assume you didn’t sign a consent form, even unknowingly? The client shouldn’t have to “assert boundaries”. The hairdresser is clearly wrong here, if not legally.

She really should have asked. And you really should have had the balls to say 'Please delete that; you didn't ask and it's not OK.'

She definitely should have just asked if you would mind!

The photo would not bother me, but that's not the point.
She should have asked first and explained what she would do with it, and given you a proper chance to say no (not just say 'I'm taking a photo, hope that's OK').
I'd be far more annoyed about the not asking than taking the photo.

This happens when I get balayage. It's a bit awkward!

I had this happen a good few years ago. Another stylist came over and said let me take a photo after the cut was finished, I had no idea why until I saw it on the Facebook page!

I don’t do Social media in anyway shape or form so to not ask permission really got my goat!

The only thing was the stylist that cut my hair totally fucked it up ( both front and back) and it was and inch longer on one side at the back as she’d cut it over the chair rather than have me stand up. I didn’t notice how bad it was until I got home. Then I saw the pictures and you could see how uneven it was.
I went back to complain about the cut and the fact I didn’t give permission for them to take and use my picture (even though it was the back of my head) and told them to take pictures down. They offered to fix my hair but I refused to let them near it and went to a highly recommended salon to fix it. (Should’ve gone there in the first place!)
The first thing that the new stylist asked me if it was it done by a trainee as it was that bad!