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To not want to sleep in an adjoining room?

85 replies

Madeshead0105 · 02/05/2021 22:40

Just checked into a hotel and we've been given a room with a locked (obvs) door to an adjoining room.

This absolutely gives me the totally gippy fits. 🙄

Irrational, I know, but I'm a terrible sleeper at the best of times - I'd be fit for nothing tomorrow after an anxious night's not sleeping.

The hotel were lovely and swapped us straight away, surprisingly the hotel is quite quiet Sad

But AIBU to feel like this? DH thinks I'm bonkers and with him in the room (big rugby player) I should be able to relax and sleep soundly.

OP posts:
RedHelenB · 02/05/2021 22:41

Your ah is right. But you've swapped now so don't give it any more headspace.

Takemetothebar · 02/05/2021 22:43

Completely biz

Takemetothebar · 02/05/2021 22:48

Posted too soon! Completely bizarre. You’d be fine, with or without your DH. It’s locked!

Icancelledthecheque · 02/05/2021 22:49

Yeah, you are bonkers. They’re not getting in.

I always seem to end up with them when I travel with work and it’s never been an issue!

Cheeseandlobster · 02/05/2021 22:49

Sorry but aibu. The room is flexible to cater for all situations. It was locked because you and dh are a couple rather than a family needing adjoining rooms. If you go somewhere like Butlins, most rooms have this set up. Even if the door was unlocked, most people would not want to walk into your room so its fine. If you were alone though I would say yanbu

3Britnee · 02/05/2021 22:50

So what if it's locked. What if the axe murderer on the other side picks it in the night?

Yanbu op, and I normally find most shite on here over anxious bollocks, but I wouldn't have slept in that room.

cabingirl · 02/05/2021 22:52

Those doors are double doors and both have a lock so you can't get into their room and they can't get into yours.

If you are okay with the door to the corridor being in your room it's bizarre to feel weird about another door which is basically the same.

ChaToilLeam · 02/05/2021 22:54

I don’t like those rooms because generally the noise insulation between them isn’t too good. A snorer in a neighbouring room can keep me awake.

OhRene · 02/05/2021 23:05

Probably bonkers but I completely get it. I have a weird.... thing... where I cannot sleep in a room when there's strangers just on the other side of a door. When I had DD1 I was stuck in hospital for over 3 days and I didn't sleep a wink. Not so much as a five minute nap. I just couldn't. And this wasn't even a ward as my local hospital has private suites for everyone.
I eventually had midwives really telling me off for not getting any rest and I think it's the only reason I was discharged. It was all over my notes how I was always awake.

I can just about sleep in a hotel but if I hear people in the corridor that's me wide awake for hours, unable to get into sleep mode because it makes me feel vulnerable. The weirder thing though is that at home or at family's houses? I'm well known for my freakish ability to nod off in about a minute in a bed. DH has even timed me from saying goodnight to me snoring away happily.

NancyPickford · 02/05/2021 23:06

When we stay in hotels I ask DH to sleep on the side nearest the door, so that the mad axeman breaking in will get him first, and he always says, “ah, but what if climbs in the window?”
I don’t like those rooms with the adjoining doors either, just make sure my side is locked, up I wouldn’t ask to change rooms.

NancyPickford · 02/05/2021 23:07

Bah, typoes galore!

Fiftyand · 02/05/2021 23:10

I didn’t think hotels were open yet?

Also I agree with @cabingirl
If you are okay with the door to the corridor being in your room it's bizarre to feel weird about another door which is basically the same.

Elouera · 02/05/2021 23:12

YABU to think that the double adjoining door is more dangerous than the single corridor door! Confused

You do realise that its natural to not sleep well away from your own bed? I read that it takes a few nights for your body to fully relax and not be on fight/flight mode at night due to the changes in room/bed etc. To think that the locked, double door is the reason though is bonkers!

EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 02/05/2021 23:14

why is it any different to the door opening to the corridor?
(except the mad axeman would have to get through the entry door to the adjacent room, and the interconnecting door, rather than just the entry door to your room). Hmm

user1471604848 · 02/05/2021 23:16

I hate adjoining room too, and would never stay in one again.
The reason for me is noise transfer - the doors generally are not sound insulated, so you can hear people moving around in the next room/ hear conversations and snoring. It makes me feel like I'm sharing a room with them, so there's no way I'd be able to relax and sleep.
It's one of the things I ask when I check into a hotel (along with not being beside the elevator or ice-machine).

CharlotteRose90 · 02/05/2021 23:17

Nope not a bloody chance or if I did I’d move a wardrobe or something in front of the door. I hate rooms like that . You should be able to lock them yourself from both sides.

campion · 02/05/2021 23:22

Not bonkers at all. As others have said,you get noise from the next room.
I've asked for another room in the past when this has happened and would always do so.
Is the hotel in the UK as I thought they weren't open?

Fuckitsstillraining · 02/05/2021 23:24

Its the noise that would have me looking to move, in fact I now even hate going away with my husband because of him snoring, at home we have separate rooms for that reason. Last time we stayed in a hotel I ended up on the floor of our little private hallway with the spare duvet under me and a sheet and towels over me because he was snoring so much. The idea of having to listen to the neighbours would drive me nuts.

Nelia5 · 02/05/2021 23:33

Wait ? Hotels don’t open until 17th May ?

HoppingPavlova · 02/05/2021 23:35

Another who doesn’t get it. Most hotels have this set up to provide flexibility for families, groups who want to stay in adjoining rooms with choice of access (my DD and her friends always request this with hotels). How is a double locked door between rooms any different to the single door to the corridor? Can you normally sleep with the door to the corridor locked or same issue?

Honeyroar · 02/05/2021 23:38

I hate adjoining rooms. You can hear everything. I can’t relax at all in them.

MarkRuffaloCrumble · 02/05/2021 23:38

I said YABU due to the mad axe murderer, as they're no more likely to break in from the next room than from the corridor surely, but having read about the noise issue with those rooms, YANBU to swap rooms.

steff13 · 02/05/2021 23:41

So what if it's locked. What if the axe murderer on the other side picks it in the night?

The ax murderer probably wouldn't pick the lock; he has an ax. But an ax murderer could just as easily break down the door from the hallway as he could the adjoining door.

BestOption · 02/05/2021 23:43

Where abouts are you?
If you're not making the most of having a big rugby built DH - can I borrow him please. I'd find his presence comforting.

cheeseislife8 · 02/05/2021 23:47

Rationally... yabu, it was locked and your DH is with you.

For me though, yanbu, it would give me the willies