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To not want to sleep in an adjoining room?

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Madeshead0105 · 02/05/2021 22:40

Just checked into a hotel and we've been given a room with a locked (obvs) door to an adjoining room.

This absolutely gives me the totally gippy fits. 🙄

Irrational, I know, but I'm a terrible sleeper at the best of times - I'd be fit for nothing tomorrow after an anxious night's not sleeping.

The hotel were lovely and swapped us straight away, surprisingly the hotel is quite quiet Sad

But AIBU to feel like this? DH thinks I'm bonkers and with him in the room (big rugby player) I should be able to relax and sleep soundly.

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minniemomo · 02/05/2021 23:47

@Nelia5
I'm guessing not in England? Or they have opened illegally which I've heard of.

Hotels can't legally open until 17th May unless it's for work or essential trips like health appointments or funerals, a few have used this loophole. I think welsh hotels are open?

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Madeshead0105 · 02/05/2021 23:47

The door to the corridor has a change on it, so that's an extra layer of protection.

I also take a door wedge. But only one, perhaps two in the future, in case we are put in similar situation in a hotel with inability to move us.

I guess, yes, it's somewhat to do with noise transfer not necessarily talking about snoring that's adds to the anxieties and inability to relax fully.

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Madeshead0105 · 02/05/2021 23:48

Chain not change Hmm

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GreyhoundG1rl · 02/05/2021 23:49

How does the room next door differ from the corridor outside in terms of safety, op?

GreyhoundG1rl · 02/05/2021 23:50

You should probably camp in future. You're not cut out for hotels.

AnnaSW1 · 02/05/2021 23:52

@Nelia5 they are open where I am in London. It's allowed.

Jarstastic · 02/05/2021 23:56

You’re being irrational. You’re not even on your own.

What’s a “gyppy fit” - if it infers what i think it does you are rather unreasonable generally!! I hope it doesnt Confused

OwlBeThere · 03/05/2021 00:04

@Jarstastic it’s just an expression like heebie jeebies. What do you think it’s referring to?

It wouldn’t bother me but if you felt weird and the hotel were accommodating then no harm done!

Chococrazy · 03/05/2021 00:05

I stayed in a room like that once. The family on the other side got up at 3am, made a cuppa and were shouting at each other as obviously going to catch an early flight or something. Noise was really noticeable as the door is not as insulated as a proper wall! I would ask to move if I ever got one again.

GreyhoundG1rl · 03/05/2021 00:07

If they shouting you'd have heard it through the wall anyway. Hotel rooms aren't soundproof.

Jarstastic · 03/05/2021 00:07

[quote OwlBeThere]@Jarstastic it’s just an expression like heebie jeebies. What do you think it’s referring to?

It wouldn’t bother me but if you felt weird and the hotel were accommodating then no harm done![/quote]
Like it could be about gypsies, the way ‘having a paddy’ is rude about Irish people.

RampantIvy · 03/05/2021 00:09

[quote AnnaSW1]@Nelia5 they are open where I am in London. It's allowed. [/quote]
Why are the rules different in London. We can't book a hotel in Newcastle yet.

OwlBeThere · 03/05/2021 00:11

@Jarstastic oh I see, I don’t think that’s the origin, gippy fit at least when I’ve heard it is a g like in go, not the g in gypsy.

onlymyselftoanswerto1 · 03/05/2021 00:17

Not being unreasonable. Had to sleep in one once (asked to be moved but hotel was full in pre-covid times) then had to listen to my neighbours having an argument and noisy makeup sex afterwards 🤮 Never again, would've preferred the axe-murderer tbh!

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Madeshead0105 · 03/05/2021 00:17

@Jarstastic

You’re being irrational. You’re not even on your own.

What’s a “gyppy fit” - if it infers what i think it does you are rather unreasonable generally!! I hope it doesnt Confused

Means fits of nausea AFAIK
To not want to sleep in an adjoining room?
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Operasinger · 03/05/2021 00:18

I get it @Madeshead0105

LostBlanket · 03/05/2021 00:18

No you are not being unreasonable. I was given one of those room on holiday once and for two nights, for hours it felt like they were filming porn. I heard literally everything. Because it's a door, you hear more of that shit compared to a brick wall as the door has gaps at the bottom and not properly sealed like a wall.

Goldieloxx · 03/05/2021 00:19

How do you cope with the door that opens into the corridor or the fact that the staff have keys to your room? I'd suggest avoiding hotels if you are that paranoid

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Madeshead0105 · 03/05/2021 00:20

@BestOption

Where abouts are you? If you're not making the most of having a big rugby built DH - can I borrow him please. I'd find his presence comforting.
He's rather a breathe loudly type chap. And he emits heat like a fricken hot potato.

Still interested? Grin

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Madeshead0105 · 03/05/2021 00:23

@Goldieloxx

How do you cope with the door that opens into the corridor or the fact that the staff have keys to your room? I'd suggest avoiding hotels if you are that paranoid
The staff having master keys was always a massive anxiety inducer to me.

I carry a wedge with me (door not shoeWink) but am always comfted by the presence of a 1970s chain on the door.

And surely an axe murderer would take heed of the Do Not Distrrb sign on the door?

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FrankieFox · 03/05/2021 00:23

I’ve traveled a lot since I was a child and this is very common in big hotels. It’s never occurred to me to worry about it. As a PP said hotels have to be flexible to keep rooms filled. Now my own children aren’t babies anymore we wouldn’t stay at a hotel that didn’t offer adjoining rooms. But I can see if you’re not used to it you might feel weird and since the hotel wasn’t busy I’m sure they were happy to move you. It’s also been a long time since most of us have slept away from home so perhaps you are feeling that.

So YABU but no harm done since the hotel was quiet anyway.

Mylittlesandwich · 03/05/2021 00:34

I never used to mind this but after a memorable trip to Paris for my 21st I now usually ask for a non-adjoining room. We had a loud rendition of one french couples intimate endeavours that went on for hours. I didn't know enough french to try and describe it to the front desk and ask to be moved so we just put the telly on until we were confident it was over.

JackieTheFart · 03/05/2021 00:39

The last time I slept in a room with an adjoining door, the women next door got up at silly o’clock to blow dry their hair before they went on holiday, I had a hangover as I’d been to a party. One in particular just shouted over the noise of the hairdryer.

Other than that, I’d prefer not but acknowledge it’s unreasonable.

Last hotel I stayed in (stayed there loads of times for work) the door didn’t have a chain. Now that made me paranoid.

Tippexy · 03/05/2021 00:59

Hotels aren’t open yet.

Why are you surprised it’s so quiet OP? Hmm

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Madeshead0105 · 03/05/2021 01:04

Ahha that part of my OP was meant to read as sarcasm,

Didn't pull it off did I?

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