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To not want to sleep in an adjoining room?

85 replies

Madeshead0105 · 02/05/2021 22:40

Just checked into a hotel and we've been given a room with a locked (obvs) door to an adjoining room.

This absolutely gives me the totally gippy fits. 🙄

Irrational, I know, but I'm a terrible sleeper at the best of times - I'd be fit for nothing tomorrow after an anxious night's not sleeping.

The hotel were lovely and swapped us straight away, surprisingly the hotel is quite quiet Sad

But AIBU to feel like this? DH thinks I'm bonkers and with him in the room (big rugby player) I should be able to relax and sleep soundly.

OP posts:
3Britnee · 03/05/2021 08:13

@Fiftyand

I didn’t think hotels were open yet?

Also I agree with @cabingirl
If you are okay with the door to the corridor being in your room it's bizarre to feel weird about another door which is basically the same.

It isn't because the corridor door is public. The room door is not and someone could spend as long as they like picking the locks etc without being seen. They are not the same at all.
JeanClaudeVanDammit · 03/05/2021 08:15

If you are okay with the door to the corridor being in your room it's bizarre to feel weird about another door which is basically the same.

Yeah that. Unless it’s on noise grounds which I could understand.

Original poster
Madeshead0105 · 03/05/2021 10:30

Some of these comments about noise transfer just confirm my anxieties Shock

OP posts:
DadsTrilby · 03/05/2021 10:35

Hotels are open in Wales and have been for a while...

DadsTrilby · 03/05/2021 10:35

And in Scotland, too.

DaphneDuBois · 03/05/2021 10:41

Bit unfounded. I have chronic insomnia but this wouldn’t be the thing keeping me awake. I mean, you have a door leading onto a corridor. Surely that’s much more risky than the odds that your room just happens to be joined to the room of a criminally minded person with a picklock tool?

Sciurus83 · 03/05/2021 10:42

Sorry mate you are indeed bonkers

ElphabaTWitch · 03/05/2021 10:57

No way. You’d hear everything through that door. It’s bad enough being in a hotel with the loudest couple talking all fucking night and laughing like donkeys, would be much worse if there was only a door between you. Those rooms are really for guests who know each other eg mum dad and kids in the other room. I would have thought they would space the guests out where possible unless it’s fully booked.

Boomshakkalakka · 03/05/2021 12:35

I wouldnt like it but probably wouldnt move rooms because of it

Sosigsandwich · 03/05/2021 12:36

A door wedge?! Is it really worth goings way if it makes you anxious enough to take a door wedge? Surely the point of a hotel is to relax and be looked after.

sunflowersandbuttercups · 03/05/2021 12:41

@Tippexy

Hotels aren’t open yet.

Why are you surprised it’s so quiet OP? Hmm

Hotels in Scotland and Wales are open as normal. Not everyone lives in England.

And hotel stays in England are allowed for a limited number of reasons - work, or your home being uninhabitable are just a couple of examples.

Honeyroar · 03/05/2021 13:16

@Sosigsandwich

A door wedge?! Is it really worth goings way if it makes you anxious enough to take a door wedge? Surely the point of a hotel is to relax and be looked after.
I was an air stewardess for over two decades. I can tell you loads of stories about people walking into locked rooms because they’d been checked into the wrong room. I walked in on a bloke in the shower once! A door wedge isn’t a bad idea.

I had an adjoining room that had a group of girls on the other side. They came in from a club at 2am and decided they might as well stay up and party in the room because they had to check out at 6am for a flight. It was in America, I’d just come in from a long flight and there was a huge time change. I ended up getting up in the middle of the night and changing rooms. I’ve also had someone shouting and aggressive on the other side. A colleague had one where there was a guy beating his wife next door, he had to get security to rescue her.

Nowadays if I see an adjoining door when I walk into a hotel room I go straight back to reception and ask to have a different room. They usually grumble and say they don’t have one, but eventually find one if you stand their ground.

flippertygibbit · 03/05/2021 13:20

It's the same door as the one to the corridor surely?

WiddlinDiddlin · 03/05/2021 13:24

@CharlotteRose90

Nope not a bloody chance or if I did I’d move a wardrobe or something in front of the door. I hate rooms like that . You should be able to lock them yourself from both sides.
Eh..

You can - if you book a room and adjoining room or you and a friend book adjoining rooms, you get keys for BOTH the doors, they are double, one your side, one the other side and you both have to unlock your respective doors to access the adjoining rooms. Its actually quite a pain in the bum!

The chances of a hotel with adjoining rooms on offer having wardrobes you could move is pretty much nil.

Honeyroar · 03/05/2021 13:35

@flippertygibbit

It's the same door as the one to the corridor surely?
Yes they’re just as secure, as the pp mentioned there are usually two doors. It’s just noisier as the doors in hotels never seem to go to the floor. It used to be wafting the days when you could end up with a smoker in one of them.
dancinfeet · 03/05/2021 15:47

I totally get your concerns. Have had this where the door locked at one side but not the other. The family in the room next door to us on holiday once, their little boy unlocked the adjoining door and wandered into the room, followed quickly by his mum who grabbed him and apologised, and backed out still apologising and locked the door behind her. We went to lock our side too, only to find that our side did not have a lock. Complained to reception and they moved us. I didnt like the idea that they could access our room when we went out.

AllThatisSolid · 03/05/2021 15:54

Well, YABU on two counts:

daftness re door, and why are you travelling overnight?

eurochick · 03/05/2021 16:22

That's crazy @dancinfeet. These doors usually lock from both sides.

When I travel alone for work if I get one of these rooms I tend to put a chair or suitcase in front of it, so someone would make a racket if they tried to come through in the middle of the night.

Looubylou · 03/05/2021 16:27

This happened to my sister and I in a very old hotel in America. You could hear everything said and even see when they walked past the door. We were on a tour and the older couple next door had our surname and were from our coach. We suspected the hotel thought we were related. You did the rightthing- it was a bit awkward.

Nelia5 · 03/05/2021 19:04

@AnnaSW1. I work in hotels in London and hotels are not allowed to open until 17th May, except for essential business travel which requires proof on check in.

Honeyroar · 03/05/2021 19:09

@eurochick

That's crazy *@dancinfeet*. These doors usually lock from both sides.

When I travel alone for work if I get one of these rooms I tend to put a chair or suitcase in front of it, so someone would make a racket if they tried to come through in the middle of the night.

I think they do a few rooms without locks on one side so small children can’t lock their parents out.
bonbonours · 03/05/2021 19:15

Another one here who can't see the difference between a locked door onto the corridor and a locked door onto another room.

Honeyroar · 03/05/2021 19:18

@bonbonours

Another one here who can't see the difference between a locked door onto the corridor and a locked door onto another room.
Even after many of us have recounted stories of loud noise or people actually coming into the room through them? People don’t tend to have loud sex in the corridor outside your room, for example, but they do in adjoining rooms...
AnnaSW1 · 03/05/2021 19:23

@Nelia5 yes. I said they are open ( not all) but they are allowed

Welshmaenad · 03/05/2021 19:44

Adjoining rooms never bothered me until I was staying in a hotel in Bristol on my own in one. Next door were a group of males - they were quite loud all evening - I was just sitting quietly eating room service snd listening to an audiobook - and in the early hours of the morning they started trying the door and rattling the handle. It woke me up snd scared the shit out of me. They did it several times, and I couldn't go back to sleep. Obviously it didn't open but I didn't know what their intentions toons were, and whether they could force their way in if they really put their mind to it.

I absolutely would never stay in one again. Unfortunately some hotels (including this one) only have an adjoining room option for their disabled adapted rooms, snd it puts me in a position where I have to choose between accessibility and feeling safe.

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