Sister-in-law Nickname for me

[cinemacurious12345]

My sister-in-law let slip that her and her boyfriend sometimes refer to me as a gross skin condition because it sounds similar to my name. I actually changed my name to that voluntarily because of negative connotations with my birth name. She's actually a therapist so I was shocked she even told me this. AIBU that this bothers me? It feels mocking and mean spirited and I feel they've been laughing at me behind my back. I do wish she'd just not told me - they could have had their fun and I'd never know.

That’s just mean to tell you that. I assume she’s not a great mate that’s inviting you into the joke?

Like eczema/Emma?

She sounds like a nasty cow, whatever it is.

That is so hurtful.
Don't just let it fester with you.
Let her know asap its absolutely unacceptable to call you this and you'd like her to stop doing it, either to your face or behind your back.

Yanbu it’s pathetic really from an adult

What a dreadfully mean and nasty person she is. How awful to tell you something so unkind. I wouldn't want a therapist like that!

Yes. She's horrible. However this says more about her than it does you. You need to rise above.

‘Wow, I’d never have told you what we call you’.’

@Voomster953

Like eczema/Emma?

She sounds like a nasty cow, whatever it is.

yeah basically, though my name isn't Emma. Sorry to be vague - don't want to out myself lol

@ThePawtriarchy

‘Wow, I’d never have told you what we call you’.’

haha made me laugh thanks!

"Well that's funny that we're admitting to nick names..yours in cunty mcCunt"

That is really mean. Try not to let it bother you, though it would make me feel differently about her 💐

That's horrible. All the more because you chose your name.
Worra bitch

the nasty ill mannered being.
I bet she thought she was funny.
So sorry for you

It depends whether you want to leave it be and not say anything or tell her how it's made you feel? Message her and ask that she doesn't use names like that for you and suggest she keeps any further negative comments or opinions to herself. Set a boundary before she thinks you're up for being her punchbag. She sounds like a knob, sorry you experienced that.

Tell her you were called that at school, so it's triggering, that should shame her therapist self into silence

I agree with candycane57. Message her and put her straight. And perhaps your husband should speak to her and support you.

YABU for “gross” skin condition. How do you think people with skin conditions are going to feel being described by gross? You sound as grim as each other.

Call her your psoriasister-in-law, that should shut her up.

@MaskingForIt

YABU for “gross” skin condition. How do you think people with skin conditions are going to feel being described by gross? You sound as grim as each other.

Exactly what I was going to say.

I think she sounds very childish and any retaliation will probably delight her
I'd blank her from now on and I'd anyone asks you why, including her , I'd sat because I think you are nasty . Don't give her headspace , she's an idiot

“Ha, well it’s nicer than what we call you” then walk away and let her drive herself crazy wondering what her nickname is.

How on earth did you find this out? How did she tell you?

Thanks guys you've given me a laugh about it 😂

She’s a proper cow.

Ignore her OP.

That’s a very immature and nasty thing to do.

My dh put weight on when he was at a low point in his life. His db delighted in telling dh that their df had remarked that dh was fat.
It really hurt dh.
The jokes on him now though as dh is slim again and dbil has put lots of weight on.
However, we don’t mention his weight because we’re not that unkind.