Sister-in-law Nickname for me

[cinemacurious12345]

My sister-in-law let slip that her and her boyfriend sometimes refer to me as a gross skin condition because it sounds similar to my name. I actually changed my name to that voluntarily because of negative connotations with my birth name. She's actually a therapist so I was shocked she even told me this. AIBU that this bothers me? It feels mocking and mean spirited and I feel they've been laughing at me behind my back. I do wish she'd just not told me - they could have had their fun and I'd never know.

@MaxiPaddy

Seriously? You come on here looking for pity for your hurt feelings over being called a name, and then call people with skin conditions that have actual reasons to be triggered gross?

Maybe she makes fun of you because she thinks changing your name is pretentious and obnoxious (and stupid).

tells someone off for calling people names in response to being called something they don't like. Calls person names in response to hearing something they don't like. Accepts moral high ground trophy

Call her your psoriasister-in-law

As someone covered in psoriasis for almost all of my life - please don't do this 🙄

And yes - gross is also not on.

She sounds pathetic. I'd only speak to her when I absolutely had to going forward.

Life is too short to spend it around little people.

Sorry, OP, no moral high ground trophy for getting a taste of one's own hypocritical medicine.

@MaxiPaddy

Sorry, OP, no moral high ground trophy for getting a taste of one's own hypocritical medicine.

I think you've missed the point OP was trying to make there...

Perhaps. I'm tired and irritable.

I have Psoriasis, conditions such as psoriasis, eczema and others aren't gross, theyre incurable and very much not wanted.
I myself burn up have a lot of pain and am also at risk of arthritis thanks to my 'gross condition' which appeared overnight after a very traumatic birth, and whilst no it wouldn't be nice to have a nickname based on a skin condition just because it's similar in sounding to your chosen name I don't think you should of labelled skin conditions as gross.

A teacher I work with said she calls one of the students “toothpaste” (not the actual word) as it sounds similar to her name. The word itself isn’t horrible but I feel like it’s mocking someone’s name and it’s just an unkind thing to do (especially to their face). Your SIL sounds like a child when they call someone Billy the Willy or whatever.

@cinemacurious12345 so do you intend to apologise to all the polite people who’ve called you out for using such a horrible description or are you just going to be snarky to the person who was as rude as you were?

Yeah I lost sympathy at the "gross" part, too. Whatevs

I don’t love the word gross either but I do have a verruca that I’ve probably described as gross too.

Someone who suffers from a severe skin condition isn’t going to describe it in a positive way and if OP just said skin condition then it could be something minor like sunburn or a rash but she’s getting the point across that the SIL is being offensive.

Yes, we need to know what the condition is OP, before we decide if you're being unreasonable to call it gross. I'd let you off if it were scabies, for example. Nobody relishes the idea of tiny, burrowing mites.....

If it's leprosy and she's called herself jeprosie then I think there's justification for calling it a gross skin condition that's similar.

Anyway no YANBU because you can't un-know that unkindess.

Perhaps you could ask her if her behaviour is professional misconduct.