To love my dog more than my baby?

[happydays2021]

To be fair he is a very amazing dog. He is always there for me and knows when I am feeling down. My 5 week old just eats, cries, screams and poops and I don't feel like I know him at all.

Yabu.

Bit weird.

Newborn stage is very hard, you are literally getting to know each other.
They don’t do much tbh other than what you say, it gets easier though 😊

Sorry... YABU.

Yes, YABU.

Bad pregnancy or birth OP?

Perhaps you are confusing different types of love.

You know your dog better.

If you are worried about your bond/feelings about your baby it's always worth a chat with your GP about pnd etc.

Also kind of yabu.

@OnlyFoolsnMothers

Bad pregnancy or birth OP?

Oh yes. Big time. Quite traumatic actually.

YANBU. I love my dog more than my husband! Joking.
It's a different kind of love, though isn't it.
It will get better with your lo and your heart will soon feel like it could burst with unconditional love 💘

How old is your dog?

You’ve probably had years to get to know him and he you. Your 5 week old has only just learnt to breathe air instead of amniotic fluid.

Lots of learn ahead, which, I’m sure will make you more interested than you are atm.

Your 5 week old won’t always just do the things you’ve talked about in your op. Smiling will come soon.

Have you spoken to anyone about how you’re feeling?

I'd say yanbu right now tbh and you shouldn't be shared for feeling that way. You've just been through a huge life changing event and your hormones will still be all over the place.

Shamed*

It will change, OP. You are probably too exhausted. Hope you have some help so you and baby can relax and just enjoy each other company.

Might be time for a chat with the health visitor OP x

YANBU.

At all.

Your dog is someone you know really well, theres a two way relationship there, theres communication there.

Your baby currently is just a huge demand and stress with nothing back right now, particularly if the right hormones didn't kick in yet, if birth or pregnancy were traumatic, if they are a particularly hard work baby (I mean I know they are all pretty full on but some much more so than others!).

It should change as things settle but if it doesn't, speak to someone who can offer you help, rather than shaming you on here!

I feel mean now for saying it’s a bit weird. Apologies. I agree with speaking to the HV.

It can take time to get to know your baby, they don’t do much to start with but as time goes on you get to know each other better. Are you able to care for your baby?
Babies can be so tiring to care for, don’t put so much stress on yourself to feel love yet. As long as you are meeting babies needs then you are doing a great job

I love my dog more than anyone 🤣🤣

It's not at all unusual to not get a rush of love for your baby, it's not uncommon not to feel it for a long time. One poster on here the other day, said the first time she felt it, was when she left her toddler at nursery for the first time.

Don't put yourself under pressure it feel 'weird' 💐

YANBU. At all. I get it. I remember when my first baby was born and I couldn't understand why anyone loved their child more than their husband. I just didn't get it. It takes time to bond and love your baby, I think often the first weeks and months of care are all about duty. Two years on and I would kill my husband to save my son the love I have for him is intense and indescribable. But that came with much time.

YANBU, it can take easily 3 months to bond properly with a baby (I think a lot of the PPs have been thrown by your dog comparison.)

Are you Ok though? If you are feeling wobbly go speak to your GP.

I am glad you have a lovely dog, but your baby will become much more of a person in the months to come and as he does you will bond. But if you are at all feeling down please talk to your GP.

www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/lhh3m6/if_you_are_a_new_parent_please_read_this_about/
I thought this was interesting (hope link works) but if you are worried, talk to your health visitor.

Yanbu! I love my dog more than anyone else, including my mum and DP.