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Nightmare neighbours

175 replies

RainbowBriteUk · 25/04/2021 20:43

I have been in my current property, a rental, since October last year. It's been a tough year. Redundancy, cancer and a few breakdowns. I thought I was finally settled in life.

NDN's, a man and a woman in their mid-fifties are noisy fuckers. They don't think anything of turning their telly up and every nice day they play music in their back garden so it's been a fair few weeks now. Also lots of shouting, DIY and generally being loud. Difficult when I am WFH and I would love to sit in the garden without their shitty music. However, for the sake of a neighbourly relationship I say nothing. They get pissed in their garden which is fine but become very loud. I've said nothing so far.

Today, I was trying to work. I was irked that they'd had their music on fairly loud since 10am in the garden. They then turned it up. I calmly went out and asked the man to turn it down as I was working and on a work call and the music meant I couldn't hear properly and concentrate and thanked him. It went down for a few seconds and then he turned it mega loud, put the speaker by my back door (fence seperates) and it's still on now.

I have had a few difficult years in rentals so finally hoped I had found somewhere to settle :( I have emailed the agency to let them know what happened but I am scared this is going to be it for ever now. He's going to do stupid things in retaliation. The music has been on very loud for going up to two hours now. Surprised no other neighbours are going off their head.

I have also found out he's been in trouble with the law for carrying an offensive weapon so quite shook up now. What can I do?

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Youdontknowwhatyoureonabout · 25/04/2021 20:53

Move. The type of person who turns music up, when you have politely asked for it to be turned down, isn’t someone you can reason with.

Other people aren’t challenging him on it because they don’t want to be subjected to his behaviour directed at them. It’s a shame, in these situations, that all neighbours don’t band together and put this type of person in their place but the simplest thing to do, and safest thing for your sanity, would be to move.
So sorry you have found yourself next door to someone like this Flowers

marthastew · 25/04/2021 20:56

I'm afraid I agree with the other poster. You can't ch age these kinds of people. They enjoy being at odds with people. They sound awful.

SunIsComing · 25/04/2021 20:58

Complain to the landlord and move.

PyjamaFan · 25/04/2021 21:01

Move. As you are renting you can move relatively quickly and easily.

WorriedMutha · 25/04/2021 21:02

Move and be grateful you don't own this house as it will be hard work to shift if you get into a dispute with neighbours. Sorry you are going through this. There really should be better means of community enforcement for this kind of antisocial shit.

Biancadelrioisback · 25/04/2021 21:03

In all fairness, he probably didn't think you'd be working from home today as it's Sunday, but turning the music up once you'd asked him to turn it down means he's probably an arsehole.

Hopefully you can find somewhere else soon

Original poster
RainbowBriteUk · 25/04/2021 21:03

I think my contract was for six months til 15th April. As I haven't agreed to any renewal yet with the agency, I can get out in a month can't I?

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RainbowBriteUk · 25/04/2021 21:04

The music is still on. What if it's on all night? :(

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PyjamaFan · 25/04/2021 21:06

Start looking at new rentals online!

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RainbowBriteUk · 25/04/2021 21:11

The music is deafening. What if they've gone to bed and left it? x

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annie987 · 25/04/2021 21:11

Yes if you haven’t renewed your contract, it’ll be a month’s notice.
If you can afford to move, I’d give your notice now.
Nothing is worth putting up with that for.

Singingwiththepain · 25/04/2021 21:15

Call the police if it carries on past 11pm.i think that's the cut off when it becomes the definition of antisocial.

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RainbowBriteUk · 25/04/2021 21:16

They will know it's me though who called the police then the reprisals might be awful

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Biancadelrioisback · 25/04/2021 21:17

Tell the police that then!
Say you're reporting something and you feel unsafe to do so, or at least ask advice

Tangledtresses · 25/04/2021 21:20

Hopefully it will rain soon... or maybe you might need to water your garden??
That will put an end to it

NorthernMC · 25/04/2021 21:22

You either report to police or put up with it and move ASAP. I’d put up with it for today given his history.

Biancadelrioisback · 25/04/2021 21:22

Good shout....do you have a sprinkler?

0gfhty · 25/04/2021 21:24

You need to move out. Thankfully you don't own it and it's not worth it to deal with these people

murbblurb · 25/04/2021 21:25

England - check tenancy, but if you didnt sign a renewal after the fixed term expired then yes you can go in a month, timing relates to your rent payment day.

Even if the pig next door rents there is nothing their landlord can do, two years to eviction at the moment.

There is no 11pm cut off btw. It will take months to enforce any noise reduction. Get on Rightmove and put an end to this. It's not fair but it is how things are.

bringbacksideburns · 25/04/2021 21:26

Get moving asap. Showers forecast later in the week.

What horrible people they sound!

OnePotato2Potato · 25/04/2021 21:34

I’ve read so many threads on horrible neighbours in the last few days. Feel really sorry for you OP. I would say it’s a good thing that you’re renting as you can make a swift exit. If you owned the property you’d have to declare any disputes with the neighbours if you get the police involved. I really wish there was better law enforcement for this kind of anti social behaviour. Decent people shouldn’t have to put up with it.

user1471538283 · 25/04/2021 21:40

It is outrageous and bullying. Even if you were not working you are entitled to peace.

I would move as soon as you can and tell the letting agent why. Loud music is so intrusive and upsetting. In our city the council is next to useless and currently just send an advisory note which does nothing.

This bloke needs to grow up. Its unbelievable how selfish people are.

Original poster
RainbowBriteUk · 25/04/2021 21:42

Thanks for all your replies. It's time to move. I really love the house but it's not worth the stress.

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RainbowBriteUk · 25/04/2021 21:43

The music is still on and is driving me insane. It's so loud and in the garden. Other neighbours must be livid.

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OliveToboogie · 25/04/2021 21:44

I would cut my losses and move I know its not fair but some battles you can't win. BTW they sound horrible

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