To only serve vegan food at my wedding.

[inthewest]

My partner and myself are both vegan. We want to serve an only vegan menu from an excellent vegan caterer. I know people aren't a fan of "fake meat" and we've deliberately chosen to not have anything of that sort. Our menu will include many options and will cater to allergies and dietary needs such as celiac. The food is delicious, is very "us" and reflects us as couple.

We have had pushback from my partners family. Adult family. I'm fully prepared to cater for children but not adults. Our thinking is that it's one meal.

Do it. Vegan food is fantastic when it's done well and most people don't have it often or aren't good at cooking it so think it is going to be lentils and hemp from the 70s or similar. You might convince a few people. Also, if people are fussy, chips are vegan, aren't they?

It was delicious abs speaking to guests a while after, some didn’t even notice that it was vegan!

This is called politeness!

@YellowScallion

My wedding cake had three tiers, one gluten free, one vegan and gluten free and the last one stuffed with enough cream to sink a ship.

The last layer wasn't gluten free? There's no way I'd eat a cake where the entire thing wasn't gluten free. It worries me that even caterers don't understand about cross contamination

You don't have to stack layers of cake together. In fact you can even have three cake serving stations. I thought it would be rather rude to kill my sister at my wedding.

I'm not vegan but one of my favourite restaurants is vegan and everyone I know who was initially sceptical loves it as the entire menu is absolutely delicious. I would personally love it as long as the food is good. Bad food is a problem whether or not the menu is vegan.

It’s really funny how many people still can’t conceive of the very occasional meal without meat or dairy.

My mind is honestly blown by this. Who are these people?

I'm not vegan, but I would enjoy that. It's just one meal! Your wedding, your choice!

My partner and myself

The only things you’re unreasonable about is this terrible (ungrammatical and pretentious) phrase.

And announcing to your family that you’re planning vegan food as if it were virtue signalling.

If the catering is good enough, no one will notice that it’s vegan ...

My mind is honestly blown by this. Who are these people?

And why is macdonalds the answer. I mean that's high fat high sugar high salt highly processed greasy crap. It tastes vile too How that is preferable to freshly prepared plant based food.

It really is snobbery and unnecessary panic and ignorance l. I mean the burger bun is probably vegan as are the chips and they eat that. I mean the burger itself is like 2mm thick.

@WeAllHaveWings
I've never had vegan meal I've enjoyed.
Perhaps you could try to learn to cook?

The best vegan cooking leaves me cold.

You probably have never tried really good vegan food. And I bet you eat plenty of decent naturally vegan food every day without realising it.

Sorry but this just isn’t true. First of all, I’ve gone to some very highly rated vegan restaurants and not enjoyed my meal. Ever. My sister is a vegan and a cook and one Christmas the lavishly prepared food was so unpleasant to me that I cried with hunger in my room later. And secondly I don’t eat vegan food every day. You think everyone eats like you but they don’t. Apart from some fresh fruit and a little veg on the side of meat or mixed with carby dishes containing milk, egg or butter, I don’t eat any vegan food.

Husband and I are vegetarians. We did serve meat at our wedding but if I'd do it again i would make it 100% veggie. I was worried about what the meat eaters would think but in the end most people tried some of the veggie dishes as well (it was a buffet) and said it was delicious.

If you do want to placate the meat eaters, what we've been trialling at work events is to make all catering vegetarian/vegan by default, but meat eaters can request meat under the 'dietary requirements' options. It's surprising how few people request meat when they have to opt in, rather than have it as the default option.

First of all, I’ve gone to some very highly rated vegan restaurants and not enjoyed my meal. Ever.

You’ve never enjoyed a plate of well cooked vegetables/pulses/grains? What’s so magically unpalatable about them?

Have you invested your food issues? Not enjoying a single meal without meat is pretty limiting.

@ConstantlyChanging

The best vegan cooking leaves me cold.

You probably have never tried really good vegan food. And I bet you eat plenty of decent naturally vegan food every day without realising it.

Sorry but this just isn’t true. First of all, I’ve gone to some very highly rated vegan restaurants and not enjoyed my meal. Ever. My sister is a vegan and a cook and one Christmas the lavishly prepared food was so unpleasant to me that I cried with hunger in my room later. And secondly I don’t eat vegan food every day. You think everyone eats like you but they don’t. Apart from some fresh fruit and a little veg on the side of meat or mixed with carby dishes containing milk, egg or butter, I don’t eat any vegan food.

That would be my worry, that guests wouldn’t like it and be hungry. Weddings are already usually very long without adding in being hungry.

I never force my preferences onto guests, they aren’t me so I cater for them as per their own food choices.

Your day your way. End of.

I've never had vegan meal I've enjoyed.
Perhaps you could try to learn to cook?

That’s rude. And also just not true.

To me vegan food just tastes like it’s trying hard to taste like it’s got cream, butter, cheese etc in it and failing.

Your wedding your choice of course, but I'd be gutted to go to a wedding and the menu was entirely vegan. For me one of the best bits of the wedding is the food and I would not look forward to it at all.

I'm not vegan but have friends who are, I have always enjoyed food they have provided. I'd never expect them to provide meat. I think anyone saying they wouldn't go to a wedding where the food is vegan doesn't deserve an invitation and is showing their ignorance when it comes to vegan food.

@ConstantlyChanging

The best vegan cooking leaves me cold.

You probably have never tried really good vegan food. And I bet you eat plenty of decent naturally vegan food every day without realising it.

Sorry but this just isn’t true. First of all, I’ve gone to some very highly rated vegan restaurants and not enjoyed my meal. Ever. My sister is a vegan and a cook and one Christmas the lavishly prepared food was so unpleasant to me that I cried with hunger in my room later. And secondly I don’t eat vegan food every day. You think everyone eats like you but they don’t. Apart from some fresh fruit and a little veg on the side of meat or mixed with carby dishes containing milk, egg or butter, I don’t eat any vegan food.

I think you need to get s grip if I'm honest.

This is called politeness!

Trust me, when it comes to expressing opinions on vegan food, that's the first thing to go out the window.

I am impressed though. 25 pages and only one post from the OP.

OP, it's your wedding. Why would you allow something for your wedding you don't agree with?

Have a vegan meal. If people don't like it, tough shit!

People would be ‘gutted’ to be presented with ONE meal without meat.

😂 😂 😂

This thread is insane

I don't think the problem is always adults throwing a wobbler about having one meal without meat or dairy. Not for me anyway. I'd be happy if the food was good but unfortunately my previous experiences of eating veggie/vegan foods have been dire.

I'm sure there are nice and delicious vegan meals out there but I'm yet to have one unfortunately and so yes I'd be thinking 'oh god, I hope it's not bland as hell'

First of all, I’ve gone to some very highly rated vegan restaurants and not enjoyed my meal. Ever.

You’ve never enjoyed a plate of well cooked vegetables/pulses/grains? What’s so magically unpalatable about them?

I don’t like the taste and a lot of the time I don’t like the textures. I do like some well prepared veg but don’t find it satisfying on its own.

Have you invested your food issues? Not enjoying a single meal without meat is pretty limiting.

I enjoy plenty of meals without meat. But they have butter, cheese, cream, eggs, honey etc in them. I’m not the one on a restrictive diet so I’m not concerned.

YANBU at all. It’s one day and I’m sure the food will be excellent. Yes you need to make sure you’re guests are happy but if they are going to be upset about no meat for half a day then let them crack on. I am vegetarian and have generally just accepted that at weddings and such there will be one token vegetarian menu item with little thought gone into it while all the meat eaters have plenty of choice 🤷🏼‍♀️ So I would be thrilled personally

@TheKeatingFive

People would be ‘gutted’ to be presented with ONE meal without meat.

😂 😂 😂

This thread is insane

They would cry with hunger and despair 🤣🤣