[quote littlepattilou]@Beseigedbykillersquirrels
Can't, or won't? They are both just preferences. Some people prefer meat/dairy with their meals, vegans prefer to not have meat/dairy with their meals. It's about enjoyment of the meals, isn't it? Vegans often quote that non-vegans can eat a meat free meal just fine, which of course is true, but it wouldn't necessarily be something they would choose or particularly enjoy. But they are expected to just put up with it so others may enjoy their preference as their enjoyment takes priority.
This in spades. ^
But if anyone DARES (on mumsnet) to say anything negative about vegans/veganism, and how they think some of them are selfish, for expecting non-vegans to accommodate them, but never budging an INCH to return the favour, they get called stupid, thick, foolish, and an idiot, and other demeaning insults...
Fact is, vegans DO often want things their own way, and never ever even ATTEMPT to return the favour. We know several vegans, so I am aware I am projecting somewhat, but they piss me (and DH) off so much, that we just won't go to their house for a meal anymore.
If we pop in for a coffee, we get that vile soy milk shite, which curdles as soon as it hits the coffee, and they never buy any biscuits in, or any non-vegan snacks. They don't have to fucking COOK or BAKE anything, just bloody buy something. And don't give me this 'it's against their beliefs' spiel, because I may just start to create beliefs of my own, that don't bloody suit them!
We have started to take our own milk, and snacks and biscuits when we visit any home of vegans, just so we don't bloody starve.
We have ALWAYS catered to them, by spending extra money on soy milk, and buying, making, and preparing vegan food. Extra money, and extra time, on giving our vegan guests what they want, with fuck-all given back - ever.
So as I said, we never have meals at their house now, and never invite them to ours for anything. Me and DH always insist we eat out. OR just have a coffee and take our own milk.
So yeah, maybe I AM projecting a bit, because I am sick to death of vegans wanting everything their own way, and never giving anything in return, because 'it's against their beliefs.' It's bloody rude, it's very selfish, and it's very unwelcoming.
As a few posters have said, have only vegan food at your wedding if you want, but don't expect all of your guests to be happy with it, or even want to come! And like it or not, a wedding is not ALL about the bride and groom; it's about making the guests happy and comfortable too.
And no-one is being a 'dickhead' about vegans. The ones who are speaking against them have probably had a bellyful of them, with their narrow-mindedness selfishness, and their entitled attitude.
By they way , the OP asked for peoples views, and I gave mine, and mine are just as valid as anyone else's, so to the posters, goading and insulting me, just bore off with your personal insults aimed at me. And you'll be wasting your time anyway, because I am done on this thread now, especially as the OP has not been back since her first post! 
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This is not normal!
Having read this, and your other posts on this thread, I really don’t think it is your vegan “friends” who are the problem!