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Does the novelty of living in a nice house ever wear off?

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Havanna1 · 23/04/2021 19:36

Before I start, I promise this isn’t a stealth boast, and actually, to a lot of people, our house won’t even be that nice.

We moved 2 years ago to a decent sized house with a big garden in a ‘chocolate box’ rural village. I feel so lucky every day when I drive home to live where we do.

However, I was sitting in the garden just now with a glass of wine, looking at the pretty (field) views, it was so peaceful, silent apart from birdsong and I just felt this overwhelming sense of gratitude.

I get it every time I drive into the drive and after 2 years I’d have thought the novelty would’ve worn off by now. DH said the same, that he feels so happy every time he gets into the drive, when he’s sitting in the back garden etc.

For those that live in pretty much their dream home in their dream location, does the novelty ever wear off? In 10 years time will we be pretty apathetic towards it all?

I worry so much that it’s all going to come crashing down so I’m really trying to enjoy it as I know I might not always feel as fortunate as I do now.

OP posts:

Roodicus21 · 23/04/2021 20:33

We've not been in ours long but I love the leafy road, a big long drive with mature trees and the back garden, wildlife and birds singing! I honestly don't think I'll tire of it. I'm so grateful we live here. Our last house was on a noisy main road so this is a dream come true.

TableFlowerss · 23/04/2021 20:34

4 bed detached house here and the novelty has worn off really. I know I’m lucky but I don’t walk in an think oh wow I’m so lucky.

If I could trade my personal issues for my house then I’d swap it in a heart beat. It’s just bricks and mortar at the end of the day. Health if loved ones is far far more important.

bridgetreilly · 23/04/2021 20:35

13 years in my tiny house and I still adore it. It makes me so happy.

crimsonlake · 23/04/2021 20:35

Would love to see photos of some these houses, post them please.

MrsGRamsay · 23/04/2021 20:36

@AgeLikeWine do not underestimate cows - they’re angry, very angry. Not only do we rip their calves from their tits (and kill males) to ensure we get their milk and feed offspring on powdered milk and continue to artificially inseminate cows to continue cycle . . . You’d be fucking livid too and plotting revenge. Watch your back and don’t take THAT shortcut through their field. Also, do you know it’s been scientifically proven that Cows are developing opposable thumbs on their hooves?*

I’d be worried . . . Very worried.

P.s Opposable thumbs may be a stretch but you’ve pissed them off

JaninaDuszejko · 23/04/2021 20:36

I think if your life changes and you need different things then you can fall out of love. I loved our first house (a 3 bed detached) so much when we bought it and thought we'd be there forever. Then we had 3DC and were desperate to leave because we needed more space. We've been in our current house for 3 years and love it but am aware that while we may love it now that may change in the future.

Skyliner001 · 23/04/2021 20:36

I am incredibly grateful for my house, and owning it out right. To have that blessing so young is incredible. I never tire of driving up to it. I always appreciate how lucky I am

dementedma · 23/04/2021 20:37

Upstairs flat here. i suppose we’ll live here until we can’t manage the stairs. dunno about after that. The garden is nice but can’t say i feel much else about it.

HmmmmmmInteresting · 23/04/2021 20:37

I'm almost three years in and still amazed I've managed to get a house like this. I feel proud pulling onto my drive and content when I'm sitting in the garden. I feel grateful every day, but especially on sunny days like these.

BoomBoomsCousin · 23/04/2021 20:37

I’ve lived in two “dream” homes (both very different). I would say the novelty wore off after a few years but the love of it didn’t. I still miss the first dream home even though I’m currently in the second and love it too (for very different reasons).

TableFlowerss · 23/04/2021 20:38

@crimsonlake

Would love to see photos of some these houses, post them please.

An totally identify yourself to people you may know irl. No thanks!

kickergoes · 23/04/2021 20:38

I don't think it's a strange OP. Humans can be greedy, we forget where we come from, we take things for granted. I've often wondered if the "specialness" of this house will wear off as I just get used to this lifestyle, forget those years of striving for it and aware that we could buy more now. I really hope I don't forget what a dream this house was for us for such a long time.

HmmmmmmInteresting · 23/04/2021 20:38

If I could trade my personal issues for my house then I’d swap it in a heart beat. It’s just bricks and mortar at the end of the day. Health if loved ones is far far more important.

This is true. Health is wealth. I hope you're ok

MissConductUS · 23/04/2021 20:39

Not yet. We bought a house in 2003 out in the woods, mostly bordered by a county nature preserve and we still love it. The cats can lounge on the deck and watch the forest. My biggest concern is that we'll soon be empty nesters as the kids finish uni.

TableFlowerss · 23/04/2021 20:41

@HmmmmmmInteresting

If I could trade my personal issues for my house then I’d swap it in a heart beat. It’s just bricks and mortar at the end of the day. Health if loved ones is far far more important.

This is true. Health is wealth. I hope you're ok

Thank you, that’s kind of you 😊

DragonflyInn · 23/04/2021 20:43

Three years in, and I just literally pirouetted down the garden after shutting the hens in for the night. A perfect spring evening and I cherish everything about where I live and how lucky I am.

Devlesko · 23/04/2021 20:43

There is something to be said for being appreciative of what you have. It's hard when you lose that, even temporarily.
I love being in the countryside, just travelling the B roads, free as a bird.
Been in a house since first lockdown and now for dh health reasons we can't leave anytime soon.
I'm claustrophobic, it's suffocating me, but we need to be here for the time being.
Beautiful house, that likewise many growing family would want, it's massive and me and dh are rambling round it. Well he's ill and lounging.
It could be the best house in the world but if it's not where you want to be it will never be home
It sounds absolutely beautiful.

pointythings · 23/04/2021 20:45

I've been in my house almost 23 years. Moved in shortly after I got married, brought the DDs home, watched my marriage fall apart in it as my husband turned into an abusive alcoholic.

I've spent the past 3 years making it mine - he's not visible in it any more. We've just finished the living room and now it's done. Over the past 3 years I've just felt better and better about this house. It really is home now for me, DDs and my foster son. I'm not sure that will ever wear off.

Madcats · 23/04/2021 20:45

We're 28 years in the same house and one neighbour isn't too far behind. I'm not sure that anybody would declare it a "dream home", but it really works for us. Our neighbourhood is lovely.

We quite enjoy going from 250 year old townhouse to "swanky modern" or "teeny cottage" when we go on holiday. I can reassure myself we'd be a disaster in a minimalist home!

Mumof1andacat · 23/04/2021 20:46

I love my 2 bed end terrace. Might not be grand, doesn't have much of a garden but I love it because its mine. Its symbolises hard work and determination. Me and my then boyfriend couldn't believe we had a place of our own to call home. So much better than living with the parents. Still get that feeling 13 years later!

HmmmmmmInteresting · 23/04/2021 20:46

We've not been in ours long but I love the leafy road, a big long drive with mature trees and the back garden, wildlife and birds singing!

The birds are driving me mad, they're so noisy! Everyone else in my house loves them, though, so I appreciate I'm alone in this

Nothing worse than wanting a nice lie-in after a late night and the little buggers are tweet tweeting all over the place 🙈

Foolintherain · 23/04/2021 20:47

I have a roof over my head. I don't feel the need to brag on MN about how wonderful and rural it is.

BlueDahlia69 · 23/04/2021 20:48

never

I live in paradise 🌸

mybonnieliesovertheocean2 · 23/04/2021 20:48

The one place that was my happy place was a council bungalow when I was a child. I loved that place and hated moving from it. My current house is in a very expensive location in London and probably considered sought after, village feel and lovely area for kids to grow up in. I feel very fortunate to live here however would make changes to the home in general to make it more to my liking. My friends have moved to a place that sounds like OP...it is lovely to visit, lovely little chocolate box style area but very wealthy area. However for me it is nice to visit but not where I would want to live.

Standrewsschool · 23/04/2021 20:51

Not so much the house but the area. Lots of lovely country walks on our doorstep or a short drive away.

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