AIBU to expect a teacher (primary) to know my DC DOB and congratulate on the day?

[LardiLaLardiLi]

My DS had a birthday today and his teacher hasn't said anything. I'm not sure if it's a done thing to congratulate kids in class on their birthday, though. It was when I was in school (different country). He said the school didn't know it was his BD today (he was there since nursery) and he said it didn't bother him, but he's quite shy and difficult to read, so I think he was hurt but wouldn't admit it.
WIBU to expect a teacher to say "Happy Birthday"? And would you drop a line to the teacher to remind them?

[AccidentallyOnPurpose]

[quote MouseInCatsClaws]@lastroloismine Yeah I would, in primary school it makes the kids day and if missed sends a message that the teacher doesn't really give a toss. But it's never happened to my kids, their teachers have been really great[/quote]
Well I'm the bestest teacher ever even if don't know birthdays and I have the cards/letters/notes to show it.

Actually got my latest on Monday, it made me tear up.

[LastRoloIsMine]

I am not joyless.

I go all out to celebrate my children's birthdays. I just don't expect busy teachers to centre my child because they were born and I would definitely not be disappointed or think less of them because they didn't. I have more respect for teachers than that.

Its pathetic that parents are demanding their child be treated as special simply because its their birthday. The message this sends is what makes me eyeroll.

[Cipot]

Our primary had a list. It's not hard.

[Bearnecessity]

When I taught I made it my business to know and to celebrate as a class in small ways, card, privileges, three cheers etc it is part of creating a caring community class culture imo and I am sad that some primary teachers don't feel the same now. Sad for your little one Op....

[Thatisnotwhatisaid]

This is actually bonkers . They have 30 children in their class so no, they don’t memorise their birthdays. If you really need it acknowledging send them in wearing a badge or something, ffs...

[LardiLaLardiLi]

Thank you all for telling me that other schools do celebrate birthdays and some in great style! I think a Birthday Walk would be a lot of fun. Maybe once a month for all birthdays 😂
I think for kids, especially in primary, it's really important to acknowledge their BDs. As an adult I never expect anyone except for the closest family to remember. I don't celebrate my birthdays.

[BikeRunSki]

@xyzandabc

Our school, all classes have the birthdays in the wall in each class and they do sing happy birthday.

However you're school obviously don't do this so there's no way I'd be messaging a teacher to remind them.

DD’s school has this in Reception. Once you’re older than 5 you have to shout about it yourself.

[Bearnecessity]

Dear God LastRolo wind yer neck in....it doesn't take much to acknowledge a birthday in a small way, it has got nothing to do with wanting to be the centre of attention and me..ism.

[OppsUpsSide]

They have 30 children in their class so no, they don’t memorise their birthdays.

It’s really easy to acknowledge the birthday of a child in your care for the best part of a year.

[Beautiful3]

The teacher wont automatically know. That's why I send mine in with a birthday badge and sweets to share.

[Happymum12345]

How old is your child? I find it extremely unusual for any child not to tell everyone it’s their birthday. They normally give me a count down before their big day. I’d be more concerned over their confidence of not saying anything.

[LastRoloIsMine]

Dear God LastRolo wind yer neck in

Wind in yours.

Why are you right and I am wrong?
Sorry are you one of those mums who's precious little darling must be praised for every tiny little thing including being born and if not then you post on mn to whine about it

[Gladimnotcampinginthisweather]

We used to have children's dates of birth beside their names in the register.
Are actual registers a thing of the past?

[Blindstupid]

OP .... why didn’t you take the sweets in today? You know, ON the day of his birthday?

You expect the teacher to know his birthday , yet you don’t remember it enough to buy sweets in advance?

Also, 12 children i his class for years? Where the heck are you?

[AccidentallyOnPurpose]

@OppsUpsSide

They have 30 children in their class so no, they don’t memorise their birthdays.

It’s really easy to acknowledge the birthday of a child in your care for the best part of a year.

There's a difference between not knowing a bday and not acknowledging it.

Like I said, I/we find out in various way . Just because we didn't wake up that morning thinking "great, it's Jimmy's birthday today!" doesn't mean birthdays aren't acknowledged , songs not sung or fuss not made.

[BendingSpoons]

DD is in Reception and they sing Happy Birthday to each child on the day. A birthday is a huge deal when you are 5! But I did send DD with a badge too just in case, and she was chuffed her friends saw it and said Happy Birthday.

OP I can understand your concern that your DS is potentially missing out as a result of being shy. Do you think he would enjoy the attention?

[MouseInCatsClaws]

LastRolo
Relax dear

[ElizabethG81]

I'm surprised by these responses, I thought it was a very basic primary school thing that the teachers would know the children's birthdays and would acknowledge them. My children's school has a big calendar on the wall with all the birthdays marked, and the children get a small present.

[Ilovemaisie]

How old has he just become. I have found Nursery/Reception/Yr 1 often have a 'when is my birthday' display - which is essentially a sneaky way of learning the names of the months (but not all schools do this). Past that age most kids would be all "Miss Miss Miss It's my birthday" when it's their birthday - up until age about 8 when they calm down a bit.
But this isn't something I would automatically expect a teacher to remember. They have 1001 other things to remember first.

[poppinpink]

I don't even remember my own two kids birthdays never mind a class full

[LastRoloIsMine]

Don't call me dear mouse it's patronising and misogynistic.

[ServedWithAReg15]

I work in a primary school and this is the exact kind of batshittery we are dealing with daily at the minute... covid has intensified it!

[Deedyn]

Thanks for making me laugh out loud!

[EarringsandLipstick]

@LastRoloIsMine

I am not joyless.

I go all out to celebrate my children's birthdays. I just don't expect busy teachers to centre my child because they were born and I would definitely not be disappointed or think less of them because they didn't. I have more respect for teachers than that.

Its pathetic that parents are demanding their child be treated as special simply because its their birthday. The message this sends is what makes me eyeroll.

It's. Just. Singing. Happy. Birthday. (Or similar).

If I come into work, and it's a colleagues birthday, I'll say 'happy birthday' and ask their plans.

It's not terrible if I don't. But it's nice if I do.

Equally, it's just a nice thing to do, if possible. In a small class of 12, I'm surprised it didn't happen. It's not awful or the end of the world.

But it's not as dramatic as you imply - I'm not suggesting the teacher should suspend all teaching & worship at the child's feet. 🙄

[ceeveebeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep]

I find it quite sad to hear done of the teachers responses on here. I’m glad the teachers at my DCs school are more caring about the children in their classes