AIBU to expect a teacher (primary) to know my DC DOB and congratulate on the day?

[LardiLaLardiLi]

My DS had a birthday today and his teacher hasn't said anything. I'm not sure if it's a done thing to congratulate kids in class on their birthday, though. It was when I was in school (different country). He said the school didn't know it was his BD today (he was there since nursery) and he said it didn't bother him, but he's quite shy and difficult to read, so I think he was hurt but wouldn't admit it.
WIBU to expect a teacher to say "Happy Birthday"? And would you drop a line to the teacher to remind them?

[CoffeeRunner]

DD is in Year 5. Ever since nursery class everyone's birthdays have been displayed on the wall of the classroom. Along with other dates of interest. So a birthday is unlikely to go unnoticed.

However DD's birthday is mid August so she's never there anyway!

[RosieLemonade]

We have an icon next to their names on the register on their birthdays so I always know for my class

[OnTheBenchOfDoom]

The primary my sons went to have a "birthday wall" in every classroom. A cupcake shape with a photo of the child on it and the date of their birthday organised by the month. Each month has a different colour cupcake.

They have a "monitor" who shouts out the upcoming birthdays. So you only need to check SIMS once, not every day for a date of birth. The teachers prepare new wall decor over the summer holidays, so take down the previous year's work, replace new things for the children to write on ie examples of all the words that mean "add" etc. The birthday wall is another one of these things.

[LardiLaLardiLi]

@Cadburydelights

Here's an idea, why didn't you whisper to the teacher or send them a message letting them know it's your DS birthday. Teachers have enough on their plates. They can't know everything

We don't see the teacher at drop off - it's at the gate and another teacher takes kids in. New Covid rules.

[RealisticSketch]

Not every child feels comfortable being centre of attention. And that's ok. It doesn't have to mean there is a problem.

[RuleWithAWoodenFoot]

I've got no idea when the kids in my class have their birthdays.

[AccidentallyOnPurpose]

DD's school has a fun policy. Birthday kid wears own clothes for their birthday. Everyone knows it's their birthday as soon as they walk on the school grounds. Very handy for all staff.

If their birthday falls in the holidays then they can wear non uniform on a day in the first week back and still get ALL the "Happy Birthdays".

[VashtaNerada]

YABU. When I get a new class I’m given a list of names with ethnicity, EAL and SEN, but never birthdays. Some children don’t like a fuss on their birthdays anyway so if a child mentions it (or is wearing a badge / brings in sweets) I get them to the front and we sing to them, but I would never proactively do anything if it’s not been mentioned. During lockdown I actively told children to let me know if they had a birthday so I could say Happy Birthday to them.

[EarringsandLipstick]

@LardiLaLardiLi

Wow! That was quick. So majority think it's crazy to worry about it. Thank you. I needed that perspective, I was wondering if I was being precious. Btw, it's a small class of 12.

OP (for the 3rd time in as many minutes on different threads!) I'm going against the majority here.

You just asked a question - why you got nasty comments & emojis, I'm not sure.

In my kids' primary school, mostly teachers remembered. I assumed they had some alert that reminded them, not that they committed 30-odd birthdays to memory. 😂

Not every teacher did. If they didn't, it wasn't a big deal, the kids would have said it.

Nothing much happened, just singing Happy Birthday & getting off homework.

YANBU. Reasonable question to ask. In a small class of 12, I'd expect the teacher to know.

I hope he'd a nice day anyway!

[IHateCoronavirus]

In my DC’s first UK school, the birthday boy/girl used to be invited to tea with the headmaster. (Sure he used to do it for the cake!) big school too, 4 form entry, so I’m sure there were a few kids everyday nearly.

In subsequent primaries they have always got to wear their own clothes on their birthday. It gives the staff a big clue.

[LaceyBetty]

Get a grip.

[EarringsandLipstick]

@LastRoloIsMine

Oh good god really. This is what you have to worry about in your day?

Are you not a tiny bit embarrassed you posted about this?

Don't be so rotten. Why should OP be embarrassed?

[jaffacakefan]

@lemonsyellow

Most schools have a birthday walk now don't they?

Never heard of this. I can’t even imagine what a birthday walk would be.

Typo..... birthday wall 😂

[ballsdeep]

@lemonsyellow

Most schools have a birthday walk now don't they?

Never heard of this. I can’t even imagine what a birthday walk would be.

I was thinking that!
I'd love to be in a school where we had time for party games!!! We don't have enough time to fit everything in we need to teach, never mind a monthly game of musical statues

[EarringsandLipstick]

@LastRoloIsMine

I would be really disappointed in a teacher who didn't wish my kids happy birthday and have the class sing for them. I'm not in the UK though. Teachers here seem to manage it quite easily

You honestly would think less of a teacher because they didn't wish your little precious happy birthday?

No wonder this generation a growing up as self involved spoiled brats

Gosh, you're pretty unpleasant. 😳

[Dishwashersaurous]

The substantive thing to take away from this is that in a really small class at no point in the day did he feel comfortable enough to say " its my birthday today ".

[Clawdy]

Most schools I've taught in have had a little celebration on each child's birthday.

[EarringsandLipstick]

@crochetmonkey74

Oh God imagine if we did make a big fuss of birthdays, then there would be a thread called 'my childs birthday is in August, how can the teacher make it up to him as he never gets a fuss made of him by school"

One of my DC's birthdays is in August. He's fine that he's not in school for it.

Doesn't mean my other 2 kids don't enjoy their birthdays being acknowledged at school.

It's not either / or.

[lemonsyellow]

Oh, I see! I was imagining some sort of conga around the classroom where all the kids greet the birthday kid.

[Disneyblue]

I'm a primary teacher.
Please put large badges on your child, get them to bring sweets or cake, and then I'll know.
I wouldn't have a clue when they are otherwise. I've got enough to do.

[DontBeRidiculous]

Some teachers might make it a priority (maybe have a class calendar with special days, holidays, and everyone's birthday marked?), but others won't. I think next time you'll have to remind the teacher, to be certain. Asking to send in sweets so everyone can celebrate is a good idea. That way, you're reminding them to wish him a happy birthday, but also making it a special day for everyone involved.

[MichelleScarn]

@lemonsyellow

Most schools have a birthday walk now don't they?

Never heard of this. I can’t even imagine what a birthday walk would be.

I don't know what it is either, but I want one for me, I'm imagining like a Macy's parade wearing a crown, while everyone is made to cheer and clap in adoration!

[LastRoloIsMine]

I am not unpleasant or mean.

I just don't see why the fact your child was born should be celebrated by anyone other than family.

It just pushes the whole " I am so special me me me" attitude everyone must celebrate my existence.

[EarringsandLipstick]

Yes Disney I recognise teachers are busy.

But the brilliant teachers my kids have had were also busy & able to remember. Generally due to charts on walls, or some other alert. Something simple.

You don't have to be so long-suffering about it. It's really not that difficult to find a way to mark children's birthdays.

Sometimes teachers didn't remember. The child or their pals would say it then. Sweets / cake aren't allowed ribbed brought in, so it was just happy birthday being sung, some homework off.

It's just a small, kind thing to do.

[EarringsandLipstick]

@LastRoloIsMine

I am not unpleasant or mean.

I just don't see why the fact your child was born should be celebrated by anyone other than family.

It just pushes the whole " I am so special me me me" attitude everyone must celebrate my existence.

Not enough eye rolls for this joyless attitude. Have a few anyway 🙄🙄🙄