To be offended that MIL said

GillBungalow · 21/04/2021 16:44

Just say 'haha what makes you think you'll be at our wedding' and see how she takes it.

Longdistance · 21/04/2021 16:46

Yes, something along the lines of ‘who said you’re even invited?!’ Two can play at that game.

SandyY2K · 21/04/2021 16:47

She obviously has a different sense of humour. Don't acknowledge when she says it...act like you've not heard it.

Timeforabiscuit · 21/04/2021 16:49

I thought that they'd taken this bit out of weddings now?

It's not a joke, I'd find it very offensive, if she says it again I'd just ask why would you object?

Has mil been OK with all the other aspects of wedding planning (who's invited etc) if she has, then it probably is just a really crap joke and awful sense of humour, and double check your dh isn't similarly afflicted!

YellowGlasses · 21/04/2021 16:50

I agree that it sounds like you just have a different sense of humour.

Just tell her in that case you won’t be inviting her to the wedding.

Amelia2021 · 21/04/2021 16:51

@GillBungalow

Just say 'haha what makes you think you'll be at our wedding' and see how she takes it.

Hahahaha love that

XiCi · 21/04/2021 16:54

It just one of those things that noone can advise on because we don't know how it was said. It sounds like a joke and your DH thinks its a joke and obvs knows her sense of humour. Maybe you just don't 'get' each other, or maybe she's a complete bitch. You're best placed to know that surely

BingBongToTheMoon · 21/04/2021 16:55

@GillBungalow

Just say 'haha what makes you think you'll be at our wedding' and see how she takes it.

Oh I’d say this!

XiCi · 21/04/2021 16:55

How long have you been together? Is there an actual wedding planned?

1Morewineplease · 21/04/2021 16:57

She's pulling your leg but it sounds like her sense of humour is a bit awry.
Unless she has any knowledge as to why you can't , legally, be married then she can't object.
Though if her sense of humour is a bit daft, she might object just to be a bit funny.

I'd let it go, but if she dared to object, then you'd have a great reason to go NC with her, going forward as well as having the knowledge that she made herself look like an absolute fool.

I doubt that she'd try, though.

Mamamamasaurus · 21/04/2021 16:58

@Longdistance

Yes, something along the lines of ‘who said you’re even invited?!’ Two can play at that game.

Please do this. Insensitive old witch.

Shoxfordian · 21/04/2021 16:58

Yeah I’d have replied with something like you assume you’re invited

Stupid woman

Ijustreallywantacat · 21/04/2021 17:01

I think its fairly obvious joke and i would give it any more thought. Make a jibe back- she'll probably laugh!

BrilliantBetty · 21/04/2021 17:05

I don't see how this is a funny joke? It's just fucking rude.

Ijustreallywantacat · 21/04/2021 17:06

It's a joke it's obviously not something thats actually going to happen.

Ijustreallywantacat · 21/04/2021 17:07

Missed the 'because' there

HowManyToes · 21/04/2021 17:07

@GillBungalow

Just say 'haha what makes you think you'll be at our wedding' and see how she takes it.

I’d love to see her face at this reply! Perfect 🤣

Chloemol · 21/04/2021 17:08

I don’t find it funny. I would be telling, yes telling your future DH he needs to speak to her and she needs to apologise

However if he won’t or she won’t apologise next time she says it I would simply reply that won’t be an issue because I won’t be inviting you, turn on your heels and leave

Anydreamwilldo12 · 21/04/2021 17:08

If she says it again just ask outright...Is that a joke? Then you will knkw how to respond

greeneyedlulu · 21/04/2021 17:13

I'd pull her up on that, is she laughing when she says it because she thinks it is funny and is actually joking?

PhilCornwall1 · 21/04/2021 17:14

@brunettebarette

she would object at our wedding? This has been said twice in front of me and I thought it a bit hurtful. For what it's worth I've always been as polite and well-mannered as I can and have never done wrong to DH so I can't see that it's anything to do with me. Future DH said it's a joke and that I'm sensitive. The first time she said it's because he's her son. Would you be offended by this or am I really overreacting? I'm too polite to say anything other than to future DH.

Just tell her, if she did that, the next service at the church (if that's where the wedding would be) would be her funeral.

warmandtoasty2day · 21/04/2021 17:32

ask her why she objects the answer is all you need to know, and take it from there.

Cherrysoup · 21/04/2021 17:38

I would tell her she’s not invited, therefore. Silly woman, is this misplaced ‘sense of humour’?

DontDrinkDontSmokeWhatDoIDo · 21/04/2021 17:47

@brunettebarette

she would object at our wedding? This has been said twice in front of me and I thought it a bit hurtful. For what it's worth I've always been as polite and well-mannered as I can and have never done wrong to DH so I can't see that it's anything to do with me. Future DH said it's a joke and that I'm sensitive. The first time she said it's because he's her son. Would you be offended by this or am I really overreacting? I'm too polite to say anything other than to future DH.

Have you asked her why?

People who make stupid comments often stop if they're pulled up on it.

SIL: ha ha, can't wait to your ceremony. When the vicar says 'who knows of any reason.....' I'm going to say 'me'!!

You: Why?

CSIblonde · 21/04/2021 18:36

'Sometimes, 'jokes' are a covert, legitimate way of expressing underlying hostility. Unless she has form for a strange sense of humour I'd be thinking she really doesn't like you. How do you get on generally, is it on the surface fine, but actually, underneath a bit fake & forced?