Sharing Prime login with wealthy sibling?

[PrimeQueen]

I have an Amazon Prime subscription which I've had for a few years. When I first got it, I shared my login with my sister when she was visiting and told her (after a few glasses of wine!) that she could use it when she got home. Her profile comes up on my telly every time I log in. I know she uses it because she changes her profile name and image every now and then.

So onto the AIBU. I'm a single parent. I earn a reasonable amount so me and my kids aren't on the breadline, but my salary is my only income, and I have to save up for big purchases like most people. My sister on the other hand is married to a millionaire (inherited wealth) and doesn't work. Her husband works a couple of days a week and they own a house in London and one in the country. They have a very comfortable lifestyle and don't ever have to worry about money.

Sometimes I feel a bit peeved that she's using my account. It doesn't cost me anything extra because she never downloads any films or anything or order any deliveries. AIB really mean spirited? Would it annoy you too?

Anyway, I'm not about to delete her from the account because that would upset her and she's really a very kind person. I was just wondering if I was being unreasonable for feeling a bit annoyed that I'm subbing her telly watching.

Wouldn't bother me 🤷‍♀️

Also want to add - is your sister gene ours although their husband’s stingy?
Ignore all the posters sayings ‘it’s family blah’ someone being blood related doesn’t preclude them from being a dick.

Just change your password so she can’t log in. Tell her you’ve cancelled your subscription if she asks.

Its very cheeky of your sister to continue using it without offering to pay half.

I use my SIL netflix, I pay my share. She's 9 years younger than me and I'm more wealthy but tbh I'd pay regardless. My other SIL on the other hand uses the subscription and refuses to pay even though she is employed, 30 years old, and lives with her parents rent free. Some people are just stingy, there's no excuse for it.

@TheLastLotus

Don’t feel guilty OP - change it! Or tell her you can’t afford , cancel and open a new account I’d assume someone was joking if they offered me this - I’d still offer to pay.

Sure, Do this and stop her watching the occasional program on prime.

But she’ll still be very wealthy. And you’ll be sitting there thinking I am so so jealous I even lied to my sister so she couldn’t watch the occasional free program on my Amazon prime.

The answer here is to deal with your jealousy of her situation.

Its very cheeky of your sister to continue using it without offering to pay half

Why? She doesn’t use it for deliveries, movies. Anything, she simply watches the occasional free tv show.

Does she have any subs she can share in return? I use my sisters Netflix and she uses my Prime! Works for us.

I was just about to say the same as a PP... suggest she get Netflix or another subscription and share that with you.

I have family, which I pay for so we can have it on multiple TVs in the house and I can order safe in the knowledge nobody else can see. Gave my password to my mum, she doesn't really order and wanted to watch something. Subsequently a sister asked to "borrow it". I don't care the least bit because it makes no difference to my life. I use someone else's Netflix. My brother logged into Disney when he came here, fairly sure he didn't log out as DP watches things occasionally - I don't think he'd pay. Its just one of those things. Standard Netflix is £5.99 a month isn't it, I've got other things to worry about.

We split it with DH sister but we split the cost, that's why we started it in the first place.

Just have a chat, surely she wouldn't mind paying the £40 a year? X

Stuff like this, where I'd be paying for it anyway I just can't get out of the mindset that actually I'm at least getting my money's worth. I have Spotify family as the kids use it... spare slots went to DP and my parents. Now tv, again all the device slots are full, used by friends and dp parents. Same with Disney+. I wouldn't pay anything less if these people didn't share so it doesn't bother me. What they earn is irrelevant, I'd still be spending the same.

Netflix we have a one screen subscription so no one else has the details but me and dp as I don't want to be told I can't watch something because someone else is using it.

There is nothing to be irked by, imo. Change the password if it bothers you but I just couldn't get annoyed by it.

I share mine with my sister too and in return she let's us use her Netflix so that works for us. For a while she cancelled her Netflix but was still using my prime which was a little annoying but it was genuinely because she couldn't afford it so I'd have never said anything. It's back now so nothing to worry about.

@Bluntness100 OP does sound a bit jealous - but it’s also fair to feel a bit better peeved that someone who could make your life easier isn’t thinking about it. And OP was drunk when they offered it so probs didn’t really mean it and kicking themselves for it.
OTOH having re-read OP’s description she says that sister is kind. If sister has been nice to her in other ways she’s being U.
Otherwise YANBU.
Since the AIBU was whether feeling peeved was reasonable.

What's her "wealth" got to do with it?

Either you want to share with your sister, or you don't. No need to use it for a reason to bitch about her being "wealthier" than you.

Are you actually allowed to do this, within the T&Cs? Netflix at least are cracking down on account sharing outside the agreement and anyone caught breaking this risks being banned from the service.

These subscriptions are priced on an 'only for one household' model and if too many people abuse it, it increases the price for everyone because they don't have as many subscribers as they should so they increase the price to cover the cost of running the service and the profit they want to make.

I do think she's being cheeky by not having her own account and I wouldn't want my preferences etc being messed up by another people using mine.

I’m glad my DSis and I don’t get irked by things like this. My DSis has access to my Netflix account because I offered it to her. My only impact is that I can change her profile pic whenever I want 😈

This is an easy way for you to be generous without it costing you anything. Why wouldn’t you do it?? It’s a shame your sister and BIL aren’t more generous themselves but you’re not like that and that’s a good thing. I think you would feel bad if you bring this up and even worse if you lie and change your subscription. I do think it’s worth asking your sister if she has Netflix or Disney+ or whatever and asking if she would mind you using the login occasionally. If she has other streaming platforms and refuses to share then that’s another story. But as a PP pointed out, why give more money to Jeff Bezos?

I would be the better off sister in this situation, due to relationship breakdowns a couple of my sisters have found themselves in dire straits financially. There is no way I would not have offered to pay half.

It’s can be a bit awkward when siblings or friends have very different incomes. It’s not even about boasting or jealousy it’s a what can we do together. Out of lockdown I love a weekend away in a really nice hotel with a mooch round museums and dinner out. My sisters cannot afford this but I miss them and we live a couple of hundred miles apart. So I have paid for a couple of weekend trips for both of them.

It doesn’t affect you one iota whether or not she uses it - the cost to you is the same.

You made a nice offer to share, she accepted, YABU to be irked by it.

I am the 'payer of tv subscriptions' in my family. All my family have profiles on my paid for subs. It doesn't matter to me, I'd be paying for them anyway.

Having said that, we're generally quite generous in our family. I might be paying for all the tv stuff but I've never been out for lunch with my mum and had to pay for it and my sister will happily help my with ad hoc childcare if I need it etc. It's give and take.

I don't understand people who get irked about things that don't make a difference to them.

Amazon Prime lets you share membership with 3 other households for no extra cost anyhow.

If you can't be generous with free stuff OP, when can you be generous? I say free, because you are giving her something without it costing you extra.
Examine how strange your feelings were posting this. A family member, who you say is a kind person, is benefitting by around £10 per month - a generous gesture of yours that costs you nothing extra - yet you are irked by that. Jealousy? Mean-spirited? Only you know.

I'd be irked about this too OP. It's not costing you any more - but it's not costing her anything at all! She should offer to contribute.

YAB a little U, only because it's your sister and you should just ask. She knows she should contribute and is just being cheeky until you make the first move.
Going down the route of asking if she would pay a different subscription would possibly sound less 'grabby' with no small amounts of money being exchanged which is what can come across as petty even though it adds up.
Can wholeheartedly recommend Disney+ if you don't have it already.

You could try telling her that you're making cutbacks and prime is one of the things that will go. If she uses it that much, she'll probably take out her own subscription, and you'd hope that if she does, she might offer you the login as you did for her.