Sharing Prime login with wealthy sibling?

[PrimeQueen]

I have an Amazon Prime subscription which I've had for a few years. When I first got it, I shared my login with my sister when she was visiting and told her (after a few glasses of wine!) that she could use it when she got home. Her profile comes up on my telly every time I log in. I know she uses it because she changes her profile name and image every now and then.

So onto the AIBU. I'm a single parent. I earn a reasonable amount so me and my kids aren't on the breadline, but my salary is my only income, and I have to save up for big purchases like most people. My sister on the other hand is married to a millionaire (inherited wealth) and doesn't work. Her husband works a couple of days a week and they own a house in London and one in the country. They have a very comfortable lifestyle and don't ever have to worry about money.

Sometimes I feel a bit peeved that she's using my account. It doesn't cost me anything extra because she never downloads any films or anything or order any deliveries. AIB really mean spirited? Would it annoy you too?

Anyway, I'm not about to delete her from the account because that would upset her and she's really a very kind person. I was just wondering if I was being unreasonable for feeling a bit annoyed that I'm subbing her telly watching.

My family all use my prime. I'm the poorest of us, but the only one who pays for it(because to them it's wasted money-to me, who can't afford the cinema let alone holidays and theatres- it's essential)

Do I begrudge them? No. I have given them my password because the only person that benefits to all of us paying separately is the owner of Amazon. Regardless of how much my siblings have- he's definitely got more.

I do the same with my now tv subscription.

@kittenkipping

My family all use my prime. I'm the poorest of us, but the only one who pays for it(because to them it's wasted money-to me, who can't afford the cinema let alone holidays and theatres- it's essential)

Do I begrudge them? No. I have given them my password because the only person that benefits to all of us paying separately is the owner of Amazon. Regardless of how much my siblings have- he's definitely got more.

I do the same with my now tv subscription.

Why? Why do you sub your family like that?

But good point about the only person making money from us having separate subs is Jeff Bezos!

I was paying for prime and sharing my log in with more well off family but it was me who wanted it. I decided last year I didn’t want it anymore as I didn’t watch anything on the streaming service and I spent too much because of free delivery so I cancelled it. Family member missed it more than me so signed up then sent me their password

So she has access to your amazon account and all your orders etc.

I'd never give my prime out to anyone for that reason.

My sister and friend has my Netflix , amazon , Disney and now Tv 😂🤣 I don’t care if costs me nothing more than I already pay.

My sister is also in a better position than I am but I allow her to use my prime account. I'm not going to be richer by £3.50 a month if I request to go halves with her. It's not going to make me rich nor leave me on the breadline.

Because I'm paying for it anyway and it doesn't in any way negatively impact me for them to use it. Yes they 100% could afford it. But they don't value they expense. I do and frankly, the more the merrier. The more my account is used I feel (ludicrously I know) that I'm getting more bang for my buck as it were. And, sometimes, when one of them watches something and texts me to says "x show is great" or "ignore dad! That film he said was good is awful!!" - it reminds me that we are siblings, and despite all I love them. Distance and circumstance divide us, but sometimes- "oooph have you seen the outlander!?" Connects us.

It isn’t affecting you at all. You say she’s really nice so why would you begrudge this.

Does she help you out at all?

You offered it, she didn’t ask, I’m surprised by a lot of the first comments, you offered it to her and you are using it yourself so makes no difference and again you literally said YOU told her she could use it. My sister shares my login for lots of places where I have signed up to free yearly delivery, why would it bother me if it doesn’t cost any extra and I’m using it anyway?

Of course you're irked, I would be.
I'd tell her that you're about to cancel it and that you're sorry about this
She'll either offer to pay instead or she can get her own.

I think my response to this would depend.

Is she generous with her time, thoughts, money etc towards you and/or your children?

Or is she grabby and mean?

It wouldn't annoy me at all. My parents, and brother with his wife has been using my Netflix account for over 2 years now. They both earn more than me. Last month my mum got amazon prime and she shared with me. It's not a give to receive thing, but we are family.
It sounds like you get along with her so don't be bother.

You are very jealous. I can't imagine being so spiteful towards my sibling.

I share Netflix, Disney + and Amazon Prime with my dd. It does not make any difference to me as I would be paying for it anyway. Your sister might have married a millionaire but that really has nothing to do with you buying streaming services.

If it doesn’t cost you anything financially I’d view it as your good thing you can do.

Hopefully the love will flow and you will benefit in some way non financially as a pay back of your kindness.

Love and kindness builds more than financials IMO especially with family

You’re not subbing her you’re letting her use something that you paid for because you wanted it. Her using it makes absolutely no difference to you at all

And it absolutely sounds like you’re jealous she has more so don’t want to give her anything and would prefer she gave to you.

So sharing comes with conditions? Yabu

@1Morewineplease

Of course you're irked, I would be. I'd tell her that you're about to cancel it and that you're sorry about this She'll either offer to pay instead or she can get her own.

What? Why? The op didn’t buy it for her sister, she bought it because she wants it ans uses it. The sister using it is irrelevant.

@nanbread

I think my response to this would depend.

Is she generous with her time, thoughts, money etc towards you and/or your children?

Or is she grabby and mean?

No, she doesn't. She's not unkind but she is very wrapped up in herself. Her husband is quite stingy (he once tried to get me to add my children to a pass so they could get a family discount but didn't think he should share the saving with me) so perhaps that's colouring my emotions.

I'm not going to change anything. I was really just wondering how other people would feel

Well if you don’t like them, find her self absorbed and him stingy then just tell her you’re cancelling it.

But to be honest it sounds like you’re the stingey one, doesn’t get any stingier than this, and so jealous you can’t control it any more.

She should offer a streaming service in return such as Netflix or nowtv or britbox. Thats what I do with my parents. Means we get all services but only pay half each.

That's easy then, just change the password, you didn't realise she was still using it because she hadn't offered you anything towards it.

I only share my App details with people who also shared things with me.

Don’t feel guilty OP - change it!
Or tell her you can’t afford , cancel and open a new account
I’d assume someone was joking if they offered me this - I’d still offer to pay.