Hello all. I’ve been separated for about 18 months now from my partner of about 10 years. We have a 6 year old daughter who has taken it the separation as well as can be expected – but she does have moments where she gets a traumatic about the separation. Understandably she wants me and her dad to get back together again, which is highly unlikely.
About 2 months ago I met someone who I like, well – I’m sort of intrigued by more than anything. He’s not exactly my type physically, but he’s really nice, easy going and interesting. He knows all about my separation from my daughter’s father of course and how she’s still not completely excepting of the situation. Last night he came over for dinner and he met my daughter for the first time. They got along well. Thing is – as we were eating he asked me in front of her what the chances are of me and my ex getting back together again are?. I was aghast to be honest. I thought it was a really insensitive thing to say in front of her. She looked at me desperate look in her eye and stupidly I said “very unlikely” rather than just changing the subject. Needless to say my DD was upset by hearing me say this out loud although she’s asked me a million times the same question. She was upset when I put her to bed, she asked me about it about whether her dad feels the same way etc. I asked him to leave and I haven’t contacted him today. He’s been texting me. What should I say / do? Am I being unreasonable? Am I over dramatising?