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To call the police if this happens one more time

209 replies

PlentyPlenty · 16/04/2021 15:24

I am so sick of our fucking neighbours they just have absolutely no respect for anyone.

There have been a few issues but my biggest annoyance recently is that they and their friends just seem to think it's fine to use our driveway all the time. They have a front garden, we have a drive. They are separated by a fence but there is a gap at the top to get bins in and out of the back of the houses.

Their friends are always riding motorbikes up and down our drive, or even just pacing up and down it taking phone calls. I have gone out and asked several times that they don't do this because it sets off our dog and often wakes our baby from his naps either by the dog barking or the noise from the bikes.

They have just done it again and woken up the baby, so I went out, crying baby in my arms and asked them to stop (politely) and to use their friends front garden if they wanted to get their bike out.

I just received a load of abuse back and he continued off down my drive.

AIBU to think this is cheeky as fuck and to ring the police if I see one person from there step foot on my property again when they shouldn't be?

OP posts:
ancientgran · 16/04/2021 16:32

Or contact a local motorbike group and ask them to come round and access your property by wheeling their bikes up neighbours path?

ThorFull · 16/04/2021 16:33

I’d consider one of those spiked things laid along the floor, hidden in dry leaves. Puncture all their tyres as they come into your drive.

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 16/04/2021 16:33

Next nice sunny day take a couple of deck chairs and a picnic into their garden, lie there and sun yourself, see how they like it!

ToffeePennie · 16/04/2021 16:33

Super soaker or automatic sprinkler.
Paintball gun.
Grow poison ivy in a plant pot near the gap.
Massive decorative boulders?
And it’s totally not your fault if you happen to spill a pot of thumbtacks and they don’t give you a chance to clean it up!! 😂

Melroses · 16/04/2021 16:35

Ah - good luck with the gate.

We had similar but the passage was the neighbour's, and if we had put a fence up, then the garage which went up to the boundary would have been unusable.

Fortunately, the CF neighbours were anxious to climb the property ladder and moved on fairly quickly and all the neighbours we have had since have been lovely.

ToffeePennie · 16/04/2021 16:36

Borrow a friends vicious looking, (but soft) dog? You know the kind of dog that would quietly sit in the sun then go mental when someone walked across the gap?

MrsArchchancellorRidcully · 16/04/2021 16:39

Padlocked gate plus can you put in a fence at the front with locking gates so you can still get your cars on? So anyone using it is trapped.

Blindstupid · 16/04/2021 16:40

Cheeky fuckers!! I’d be infuriated! Haven’t got any further advice from others ... it’s just a shame most ideas will cost money ... you shouldn’t have to pay just coz they’re CF’s!

Jacketpotato84 · 16/04/2021 16:41

Put your car there. When your hubby comes back presumably into the space move it foward? Am i not imagining the space right?

LakieLady · 16/04/2021 16:42

Borrow a terrier, Jack Russell ideally but my lakeland terriers were fuckers with strangers in our garden.

The bitch was very territorial, and unless I was there and chatted to whoever was coming on to our property, she'd have a proper go at them. She was fine once I'd spoken them and told her they were allowed to be there, but a nightmare otherwise.

We never let her out the front, because we had to take the gates off to the car in the drive, but when my window cleaner came round to do the back of the house when I was out (against my express instructions!) she bombed out of the dog flap and bit him on the ankle.

She was a tiny little thing (12.5" at the shoulder and weighed about 6kg) and I could pick her up with one hand, but she was a fantastic guard dog.

Absolutely lovely to people who were invited in though, and very well behaved in other people's homes, pubs etc.

Physiometric · 16/04/2021 16:44

Dig a moat.

Reinventinganna · 16/04/2021 16:47

Get a big dog to sit in the gap

HildegardNightingale · 16/04/2021 16:47

Can you buy heavy wooden bin storage unit and put it across the space? It will be too heavy to move.

GoToSleepBabyPlease · 16/04/2021 16:51

Bastards.

UhtredRagnarson · 16/04/2021 16:51

@Reinventinganna

Get a big dog to sit in the gap
I misread this Blush
GoToSleepBabyPlease · 16/04/2021 16:55

Ooh, get a cat repellent thing that beeps. Some distant neighbours of ours have one and we can hear it very clearly- a shrill, repetitive beep. No one would voluntarily hang around in its vicinity, much less on a phone.

MrsBungle · 16/04/2021 16:59

I definitely think you should go with the large panther idea

SneezyGonzalez · 16/04/2021 17:00

It does sound like they’re doing it deliberately to wind you up...are they mainly men just out of interest? How utterly horrible to do this when they know you have a baby!

My neighbour decided to harass me by shouting at the top of his voice in his garden ALL day, drive me bloody insane and it’s definitely effected my mental health. He did it because I’ve met someone else and had another child and the jumped up idiot decided to pass judgement on my personal life. To top this, he’s a postman and I’m pretty sure he’s been gossiping about me whenever he can. Without going into detail, he’s a pretty messed up person and it appears to now be a bully who feels he can pass judgement on my decisions. Just horrid.

Some people are so fucked up aren’t they?! - just why 🤷🏻‍♀️

Get a gate and make the fence higher if it isn’t already. Do you have a car parked on your drive? Also get a camera to film all activity on your drive.

AvonCallingBarksdale · 16/04/2021 17:02

All the nice reasonable posters on mumsnet need to move to the same town - an MN takeover so we can be rid of horrid wanky neighbours.

Unsure33 · 16/04/2021 17:02

What about the front of the drive though . Will they still come on there when the gate goes on ? Do you need those pop up bollards ?

JackieTheFart · 16/04/2021 17:04

I’d put the gate up and when it’s wet drag my bins up and down their garden just to churn it up a bit. Cheeky bastards.

NeverDropYourMoonCup · 16/04/2021 17:04

So you’re not going with the panther then?

I hear they're a bit expensive per pound.

Alligators are quite cheap, though. You just need to dig a big pit and add a trapdoor.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 16/04/2021 17:05

@BeastOfBODMAS

I’d be out sprinkling handfuls of nails across my drive if someone was riding a motorbike up and down it. (With a big magnet on standby to get them back up again)
I was thinking something similar - investing in a "stinger"! Or maybe when they park, if you can do so unseen, popping a couple of nails, business-side up, into the tire treads - not your fault if you've been doing a bit of DIY and dropped a nail or two. Or get a chair and the baby monitor and sit on their garden with a cup of tea and a book

They are CFs of the worst kind. It's a bliddy cheek! Particularly as you have a baby.

Although the police can't do anything about trespass, if the lad on the drive swore at you, and you were intimidated and worried and upset, especially if it frightened your child, they will have a word with them about that, but please don't call them unnecessarily. (If you genuinely do feel frightened, it's different).

However it might just inflame matters - you don't want the buggers revving their bikes repeatedly at all hours of the day and night.

I'm so sorry - this is a rotten thing to have to cope with.

SpringtimeSummertime · 16/04/2021 17:06

Sounds like they prefer to move their bikes from the back over a hard surface (your drive) rather than the grass outside their own house.

It's really weird/rude of them. WhoTF leaves their house through someone else's garden?!

A locked gate will solve the problem. CF.