DP - ‘my life is SO boring!’

[Niceeyes]

I’m beyond pissed off! DP and I weee having a lovely text chat today then he randomly texted ‘my life is sooo boring!’ Then he quickly deleted it. I challenged him on it but he kept changing the subject. When he got home from work I asked him what he meant, he said it was meant for me but he deleted it as he’d spent it wrong....buff if it actually had zero to do with what we were texting about.
I asked him again at bedtime and he just said he’s tired and rolled over. I’m fuming! We have an amazing life never argue, do date nights, great sex life. I think he meant to text someone else

Honestly? I'm really bored at the moment. Nothing to do wit my DH or friends or family. I'm just bored and life feels very limited due to arsing covid. It's not even rational as I am doing lot of new things which I find interesting when I'm doing them but I still have this overwhelming feeling of boredom. Don't take it personally.

Some things in the diary to look forward to is a good idea! I think booking a nice restaurant (after 17 May) and a weekend away may help. But don't do it to surprise him - get him involved in choosing and planning it. The anticipation is half the fun!

I also think it was meant for somebody else, especially if it came out of nowhere and was deleted in the blink of an eye. If it's an innocent text meant for a friend then no reason to hide it and lie about it, right?

Some of us dream of a boring life.

Not sure it is your job to fix his boredom OP. Life has been boring and stressful since last March. Even without COVID, if he is unsatisfied with his life he needs to act, not you--- although you could suggest a few fun things, it needs to come from him. Perhaps he will give himself a kick up the bum now.

Isn’t everyone bored with life right now, I’ve been WFH for over a year now - not hard, but Christ it’s boring and lonely

Booking a weekend away sounds like a good idea, don’t send flowers

As lock down lifts everything will be okay again

Why is it your job to fix his boredom? You sound as if your life has to be 'amazing' because that's the image you like to portray to the rest of the world. And now your husband isn't shaping up as one half of the perfect couple, he's letting down the side. Is this about you or about him? Does he even want to be 'amazing?'

The message was for someone else.

You dont need to fix his boredom. It's his own job. You can support it and go with him to things and occasionally suggesting something. But he needs to do the work.

For sure, do nice things for him to cheer up. But, for the love of God, don't write or think things like 'I need to fix his boredom.'

Why do you think you need tofix his boredom ? Surely thats for him to work on. Yes it would be nice to say book time away now but dont make it your job.

You were able to dress up (and I for some people that can make them feel better) so why cant he ?

I do think he was maybe moaning to someone elses

He's an adult, he can figure out how to keep himself entertained. 🙄

It really isn’t up to you to fix his boredom. He is probably, like the rest of us, fed up with all the restrictions on his normal way of life.

It's not your job to fix his boredom.

I'll get called a cow but I don't think he's telling you the full story. That text was not meant for you. Who was it meant for. He's got you on a wild goose chase trying to fix a problem he's made up to make you drop your questioning. And you feel sorry for him too so that's a bonus for him.

Maybe that's how he feels- fair enough. Why can't he feel his life is boring and text people about it. A person is allowed to share their feelings, that's a good thing.

So I need to fix his ‘boredom’ no idea where to start, any ideas?

Alright Mary Poppins, maybe chill a little.

I'm sure it was nothing untoward, OP. If you look through mine and my friends chats it's full of that kind of thing rn even from the ones (Inc me) who are genuinely happy in their relationships. I can one hundred per cent understand you being annoyed though!

I’m bored bloody rigid but not saying that about my actual family. Don’t take it to heart OP x

I have great dh and we have fun.

My life is SO FUCKING BORING with the lockdiwn. I lost it few times already.

You can't fix that type of boredome unless you csn book few days trip somewhere

So I need to fix his ‘boredom’ no idea where to start, any ideas? Take him away for a night? Book a restaurant? Send him flowers at work?

Why do you still think his boredom is your responsibility? He's not a child!

You don't need to fix it, he does. Tell him to plan some fun stuff away now things are opening up.

It’s not your job to fix it but if your happy to do it then why not have a blast! Weekends away, cosy candlelight nights in, walks through the forest, sign up to a gym, take city breaks, go shopping for a lovely dinner and cook together, etc.

You need to talk about fixing it together - what ideas can you both come up with - he’s the bored one so please don’t take all the responsibility.