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DP - ‘my life is SO boring!’

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Niceeyes · 14/04/2021 22:51

I’m beyond pissed off! DP and I weee having a lovely text chat today then he randomly texted ‘my life is sooo boring!’ Then he quickly deleted it. I challenged him on it but he kept changing the subject. When he got home from work I asked him what he meant, he said it was meant for me but he deleted it as he’d spent it wrong....buff if it actually had zero to do with what we were texting about.
I asked him again at bedtime and he just said he’s tired and rolled over. I’m fuming! We have an amazing life never argue, do date nights, great sex life. I think he meant to text someone else

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GiveMeNovocain · 15/04/2021 04:50

I'm so bored at the moment. Nothing to do with my marriage. Have you reacted angrily? Maybe he's worried he'll say the wrong thing if he discusses it with you? I'd laugh and agree with dh if he sent that to me. Life is boring right now!

Iamblossom · 15/04/2021 05:23

Two sides to read this - uber suspicious side is he meant to text someone else and is slagging off his life with you to them - or he meant to text that to you then realised how much it was make you react (like you have) and wanted to retract to avoid a row.

Embracingthechaos · 15/04/2021 05:25

He probably did mean to text it to someone else, but that doesn't unnecessarily mean much. He could just have been texting his friend, brother etc

Whydidimarryhim · 15/04/2021 06:34

Just drop it for now as he will continue to be defensive.
Are you suspicious who the person is he meant it for. If so keep your eyes peeled.

sammylady37 · 15/04/2021 06:55

How many more times are you going to bring it up with him?

user1493413286 · 15/04/2021 06:57

I love my DH and my DC but I’m bloody bored at the moment! Odd that he didn’t just admit to it or if it was for someone else say that

Magnificentmug12 · 15/04/2021 06:58

I think you can think life’s great and him think it’s boring, that’s not a problem, if he has a boring life (who doesn’t at the minute) then he needs to own it and do something about it.

I’d be more worried about who the text was actually too, a mate or is something else going on?

pilates · 15/04/2021 06:59

Let it go and check his phone if you are suspicious 🤨

PeteGibbons · 15/04/2021 07:04

Everyone's life is boring atm so he's not bu to think it. But his reaction is slightly odd - why not just explain who he was messaging and give some context? I guess it depends how you asked him about the message and what your communication is like usually. Personally I'd be more upset about his refusing to explain it than about the message itself.

Everyday21 · 15/04/2021 07:05

If you're life is as lovely as you've said then you've nothing to worry about hes probably just moaning to a mate.

But, your op suggests you're jumping to something more then that?

HoppingPavlova · 15/04/2021 07:07

Probably not meant for you but I can’t see the issue with it irrespective. He didn’t say his life with you was crap, he said his life is so boring which would sum up most people’s thoughts in the recent past and even current space.

TheghostofAuntieMabel · 15/04/2021 07:12

Sounds a bit odd to me and the excuse about spelling sounds fishy. I know this is an absolute no no on mumsnet but I'd be checking his phone to try and work out who it was intended for and why.

Silverfly · 15/04/2021 07:16

I agree with pp that it sounds like it wasn't meant for you, but more likely to have been meant for a mate than an OW.

BizzyBone · 15/04/2021 07:16

As others, my life is really boring right now. I love my dc and dh and I have loads going on. We’ve tried to make lockdown as fun as possible for the dc and kept ourselves busy. But, I’m so fucking bored. Every day is the same. We’ve been so limited in what we can do. The lack of socialisation. Omg, I’m so bored.

I don’t think that text was meant for you. He probably moaning to a mate, as I’m sure most of us have done.

OverTheRainbow88 · 15/04/2021 07:17

I think most people I know with a happy healthy family may moan that they are bored at the moment.

I wouldn’t be worried if my OH said he’s bored because I’m bloody bored to. I want to go abroad, to huge family gatherings and weddings, I want to go to a museum; a bar, a family huge BBQ , camping with all family etc

Rewis · 15/04/2021 07:21

My life is so boring at the moment. My bf went to visit family for Christmas and everything shut so he hasn't been able to come back. We talk every day and both keep apologising how we are so boring.

Is the issue that he said it or that he didn't explain? Cause I would be annoyed about that. He could have easily said "i just feel very bored at the moment cause there is very little going on"

BloodyInternetFood · 15/04/2021 07:22

Are you about yo have your first argument?

To be honest if life is just "never argue, do date nights, great sex life" then it can be boring. You need the occasional variation to break up the monotony and there's not been a lot if that recently.

rwalker · 15/04/2021 07:22

The poor guy I honestly thought everyone has a spells of being bored irrespective of if they have an amazing partner or not .

Honestly I couldn't be arsed with shit like this over it

EasterEggBelly · 15/04/2021 07:24

Yes sounds like he meant to send that to someone else.

Oblomov21 · 15/04/2021 07:27

Text for someone else. Which is worrying.

But yes, everyone's life is tres boring atm.

Cowbells · 15/04/2021 07:28

Why are you pissed off OP? Doesn't he have a right to feel bored and express it? I'd worry more that he deleted it so quickly as he was scared of revealing a negative emotion to you. Don't fall into the trap of insisting on shiny bright emotions 24/7.

I'd ask him today if there are any changes he can make, things he'd like to do etc that would relieve the boredom. Life is so boring at the moment I feel like screaming sometimes, and I have a good life, good marriage, enjoy work, loads of gorgeous walks on doorstep, see friends but the lack of possibilities is just stifling.

BusyLizzie61 · 15/04/2021 07:33

@Niceeyes

I’m beyond pissed off! DP and I weee having a lovely text chat today then he randomly texted ‘my life is sooo boring!’ Then he quickly deleted it. I challenged him on it but he kept changing the subject. When he got home from work I asked him what he meant, he said it was meant for me but he deleted it as he’d spent it wrong....buff if it actually had zero to do with what we were texting about. I asked him again at bedtime and he just said he’s tired and rolled over. I’m fuming! We have an amazing life never argue, do date nights, great sex life. I think he meant to text someone else

You believe that you have an amazing life. Doesn't mean that's how he sees it too!

Many people feel this way I think as a result of lockdowns etc where there lives have contained far less than they're used to. For some this reflection results in this conclusion. For others they see it as a positive that they have things in their life!

PurBal · 15/04/2021 07:39

@AlrightTreacle

Isn't everyone's life a bit boring atm?

This. DH says similar often. What he means is he can't do what he wants to do. I wouldn't worry about it.

TravellingSpoon · 15/04/2021 07:40

You sound a bit controlling TBH.

Why isnt he allowed an opinion, without you being 'fuming' at him?

RedHelenB · 15/04/2021 07:44

@TravellingSpoon

You sound a bit controlling TBH.

Why isnt he allowed an opinion, without you being 'fuming' at him?

I agree. Very controlling.

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