Arguments about wills

[ElleS86]

I’m not sure if I am being unreasonable but my parents have gifted me and my partner (soon to be husband) a house, we have been talking about making wills and he expects that when we both die the house will be split between his family and mine (we don’t have children) am I being unreasonable in thinking when we are both dead it should go back to my family and not his?

Just don’t marry him. You don’t need to and you’re at a disadvantage if you do. If he loves you anyway he won’t mind that. You can just be permanent “engaged” or whatever.

His opinion is why should his family benefit when he dies, assuming I die first. So he's writing a will that says it goes to someone in my family.

And if you do die first, and he remarries, or changes his will? You need something tougher than his will. He can change it (under the pressure from your in-laws or 2nd wife etc etc). People change after the death of others ...

''I'm not sure you've quite got the whole concept of marriage down, OP. It's about sharing stuff.''

which is fair enough but then that means she gets half of his property and it's passed on to both their families. And no marriage is not all about sharing;if one enters marriage with assets then they need to be vigilant.

Your parents are the ones giving it to you. Do they want it to go to you alone or to both of you jointly?
Their views might help.

I'd like to add that it is a myth that all marriage assets are split 50/50. Usually it is only money/assets gained during the marriage so he'd likely not be entitled to it anyway if it is yours.

@SpanishImposition

Just don’t marry him. You don’t need to and you’re at a disadvantage if you do. If he loves you anyway he won’t mind that. You can just be permanent “engaged” or whatever.

Imagine a man taking that view. "I'm not marrying her she'll get half of what's mine..."

@ElleS86

Yes it will have to be sorted out, it’s in my name, and obviously if I die first then he would stay in the house until he died but I don’t understand why he thinks his family should get a share of it

Surely once you marry your families unite, you become part of his family, his family become part of yours. I don't personally think he's being unreasonable

@Soothes Yeah I mean that never happens does it? Oh wait

Your parents should be giving it to you, not to both of you, no matter how much they like him.

[quote MayorGoodwaysChicken]@Soothes Yeah I mean that never happens does it? Oh wait [/quote]
Yes, but that was my point. Any woman in that position would be told, here, not to even consider marriage to such a man.