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Never ever again!!

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Hobbitjar · 13/04/2021 07:59

I let my daughter have a sleepover and never ever again!! She is 8, didn’t sleep at all. I told them lights out at 10 and they were in bed or do it seemed ok it’s a bit later but because she usually goes to bed at 8.30 -9 and is up at 8. -9 and it’s holidays plus the girls mom said she her daughter slept late so was fine. I didn’t expect this one. Il
Exhausted woke up at 1 after hearing them whisper loudly and bang around then again at 2.30 then finally slept I think but have no idea and heard them again at 7.30 wide awake.
Am I being unreasonable to say never again until she is a teenager? Sorry but my daughter would normally sleep a good 10-11 hrs and sleeps well and needs her sleep. This is a joke and never expected them not to barely sleep

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littledrummergirl · 13/04/2021 10:36

We always called them stay awake overs. I found that by asking them to keep the noise level low so that I could sleep, giving them videos and sweets and leaving them to it they would respect my need to sleep and usually have dropped off before me.

harknesswitch · 13/04/2021 10:39

My dd had a sleep over with 4 friends. We let them have blow up mattresses and quilts in the spare room, they were still up at 5am. It was hideous, food and all sorts everywhere. She was 9 at the time and isnow a teenager, and she's never had one since.

TeachesOfPeaches · 13/04/2021 10:40

You don't go to a sleepover to sleep for 10 or 11 hours Confused

KurtWilde · 13/04/2021 10:42

Sounds like a standard sleepover to me!

Notoriouslynotnotious · 13/04/2021 10:46

God I hate sleepovers, COVID is not all bad, but yes what you are describing is normal.

LysistrataVickers · 13/04/2021 10:47

I vividly remember a sleepover when I was about the same age. We didn't sleep at all and watched Grease and Dirty Dancing all night! We had to go swimming the next day and I was so tired I felt ill.

I think I've only stayed up all night once in the 30 years since!

MumofSpud · 13/04/2021 10:49

Yes - sleepovers involve NO sleep!
YABU - (and a bit naive!)

Bluntness100 · 13/04/2021 10:50

Gosh she’s not too young ans this is typical sleepover behaviour. Can’t you recall the excitement of it? Ans it’s not going to change when she’s a teen, it will get worse.

There’s no way they’d have went to sleep at ten then had a lie in. I’m stunned you’d even think that. 😂

Gobbeldegook · 13/04/2021 10:55

Welcome to the party

LST · 13/04/2021 10:56


Are we allowed to have sleepovers yet?

Triffid1 · 13/04/2021 10:58

Agree, very little sleep happens at a sleepover. However, disturbing rest f house is not on. After DS and hs BF kept the rest of us awake most of the night and then woke me up at 5am, he was banned for a while. Then Covid happened. I'll let him come back after we're allowed people overnight again but will make it very clear to them that if they make a noise and disturb me, that's it, no more.

Ditto, DS' other best friend comes here for sleepovers (covid permitting) and they get v little sleep but they don't disturb us so I don't care. But they're not allowed at the friend's house as he shares with his brother and DS and BF wake the brother up at crack of dawn. Fair enough. BF's mum has spent Covid redoing a room so that there's a room where BF and DS (or other friends) can do sleepovers without disturbing rest of house and DS is looking forward to it.

Topseyt · 13/04/2021 11:08

That is totally standard sleepover behaviour. In fact, I have no idea why they have ever been called sleepovers, as sleep has little to do with it.

I didn't have too many rules for sleepovers, just that they had to be considerate and not disturb the rest of us during the night.

thebillyotea · 13/04/2021 11:11

I have a very important rule: do not leave the house!

It never happened here, but some friends kids went "exploring" in the middle of the night Grin

Merrz · 13/04/2021 11:11

I remember we used to call them "all nighters" where we would try to stay awake the whole night. Probably a little older than your daughter but still primary school age so not much older

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