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Never ever again!!

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Hobbitjar · 13/04/2021 07:59

I let my daughter have a sleepover and never ever again!! She is 8, didn’t sleep at all. I told them lights out at 10 and they were in bed or do it seemed ok it’s a bit later but because she usually goes to bed at 8.30 -9 and is up at 8. -9 and it’s holidays plus the girls mom said she her daughter slept late so was fine. I didn’t expect this one. Il
Exhausted woke up at 1 after hearing them whisper loudly and bang around then again at 2.30 then finally slept I think but have no idea and heard them again at 7.30 wide awake.
Am I being unreasonable to say never again until she is a teenager? Sorry but my daughter would normally sleep a good 10-11 hrs and sleeps well and needs her sleep. This is a joke and never expected them not to barely sleep

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frutyloops · 13/04/2021 08:01

A sleep over on a School Night or in the weekend? Huge difference..

SnarkyBag · 13/04/2021 08:01

Sounds standard for a sleepover. Yo sound a little uptight tbh

Sparklingbrook · 13/04/2021 08:02

First rule of sleepovers-there will be no sleep.

That's kind of the point of a sleepover really, otherwise it's just staying the night.

Don't get me wrong I hated them and couldn't wait for the friends to all go home but that was my experience. Grin

ForensicFlossy · 13/04/2021 08:02

Sounds perfectly normal for an 8yo sleepover! The trick is to ignore them and let them get on with it. They will be tired and grumpy today but will sleep well tonight. Sleepovers get less hassle as they get older.

Capital76 · 13/04/2021 08:03

Really standard

Dont host a sleep over again until you can relax a bit at least

The kids sounds like standard sleepover behaviour

Rainallnight · 13/04/2021 08:03

Sounds really normal for a sleepover. I guess it depends on how much trouble they were causing. Awake and having a disco at 1am - not ok. Awake and just chatting - totally normal and ok if there weren’t keeping everyone awake.

I think it’s ok to have a bit less sleep every once in a while for a special occasion.

Did you have sleepovers as a kid?

isitjustlockdown · 13/04/2021 08:04

Totally normal for a sleepover at that age, hence why I never hosted them when I had work/appointments the following day.

I think your expectations were totally wrong, hence the stress.

Brefugee · 13/04/2021 08:05

Sorry to tell you - that sounds around par for the course although they were thoughtless banging around. (for that I used to get them all up at 8 for breakfast. Pancakes so they didn't grasp that it was punishment for waking us up. Depending on how little sleep we'd has the dishwasher was out of action so they all had to wash up.

Have a word about being considerate. And put your feet up today if you can

Hobbitjar · 13/04/2021 08:05

Yeah sorry I’m not uptight 😂 just didn’t expect this I guess. I’m naive maybe as I remember sleepovers at 12 at my mates and yes we went to bed late but did sleep through the night and late in the morning knowing my daughter who needs her sleep it’s going to be a long day lol. Maybe 8 is too young. Anyway like someone said she will sleep later

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Sparklingbrook · 13/04/2021 08:06

I too said 'never again' after the first one. But it's sooo nice when you send your own child off for a sleepover it's worth having them back. Grin
My DC would sleep most of the next day (always sleepovers on a Friday or Saturday).

arethereanyleftatall · 13/04/2021 08:08

Sleepovers are without doubt my kids favourite thing. It will be some of their fondest memories. I don't allow them anyway near a school night though! Holidays only.

FelicityPike · 13/04/2021 08:08

Oh we never slept properly at sleepovers either. Went to “bed” around 9, maybe dozed off around 1 until maybe 3 then that was us again.
Sounds perfectly normal to me too, but I would hate that now and end up with a migraine!!

VettiyaIruken · 13/04/2021 08:09

Perfectly normal and more importantly - fun! Sleepover is well known as the most inaccurate name ever.

Sleepovers should be Fridays or school holidays so you all have a minimum of 2 days to recover.

Simply sleeping at a friend's house - where's the fun in that? 😁 It should be staying up and midnight snacks followed by 2 days of walking round like a zombie.

Hobbitjar · 13/04/2021 08:09

Totally naive ! What was I thinking ? 😂 I actually thought they would at least sleep late yes and even have a lie inlol

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stoopider · 13/04/2021 08:09

Hahaha! Sorry I know you’re tired but this thread made my day. Welcome to the world of sleepovers. It’s really sweet that you think that gets better/easier the older the get! So funny. Bless you. My 11 year old had a sleepover with 2 friends for his birthday. I eventually went to bed at midnight and left them to their giggling and banging. They were then up again on their iPads at 7am. When asked if they’d got any sleep one of them said “we don’t sleep on sleepovers we stay up eating chocolate” one of them had hidden a tub of heroes in his sleepover rucksack so they were sugared up all night. My son said it’s the best birthday ever.

Long story short. They won’t sleep on sleepovers. If you want 10 hour sleep don’t have a sleepover

SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 13/04/2021 08:10

Are we allowed to have sleepovers yet?

stoopider · 13/04/2021 08:10

Just saw your update.

Lie in??!!!


bigbluebus · 13/04/2021 08:10

I've always thought sleepovers should be called awakeovers.

emilyfrost · 13/04/2021 08:11

YABVU. That’s the fun of sleepovers - why try to take that from her? Confused

I agree re. pp’s assessment of you being uptight.

stoopider · 13/04/2021 08:12

You’ll also find that some friends are the utter worst for a sleepover so choose your kids sleepover buddies carefully

Tiktokersmiracle · 13/04/2021 08:13

I take it these are kids pretty much stuck home with very little interaction for a year?
They had fun. They will remember this fondly. I hope you didn't complain at them though.
My mum did that and I never lived it down at school.

TheChosenTwo · 13/04/2021 08:13

Haha yes, very naive Grin
They are the worst (for parents) and the best (for the kids) all at once. It’s been a blessing this last year that they haven’t been able to ask for a sleepover!!

ImInStealthMode · 13/04/2021 08:14


Are we allowed to have sleepovers yet?

Always one isn't there! Hmm

Honestly you've got no concept of where the OP is, so why bother chirping up? I'm within the British Isles and we can have sleepovers. Not everyone lives in the same place as you.
EileenGC · 13/04/2021 08:15

That’s what sleepovers are for. My mum never organised any but we would go to scouts/brownie camps every 3-4 months. They lasted a whole weekend and there was school on the Monday. Up all night and waking up at 5am to sing or shout something or celebrate someone finally taking a trip to the loo in the woods. It was fab. I’m a productive adult even with a handful of sleepless nights as a child Grin

Neolara · 13/04/2021 08:18

You got off lighty.

I naively let my dc3 have a sleepover for her 9th birthday. They slept downstairs where I couldn't hear them. The kids proudly told me they counted down to midnight, 1am, 2am, 3am, 4am, 5am and 7am. They said they missed 6 am as they were all asleep. They were wrecked! I was mortified when I handed them back to parents. It was only at that point that I remembered there was a reason I'd never let my eldest 2 have sleepovers...

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