Frames above babies bed. Learn from my mistakes

[badmum82]

When my mum pointed out maybe I shouldn't have frames above my babies cot I just thought of all the Instagram nursery inspo pictures I'd seen and thought that she was being irrational. She wasn't, at some point last night/this morning my toddler either pulled down a print, or it fell down. We woke up this morning to screaming from the baby monitor, pulled the covers back to find broken glass everywhere, the frame and blood on the mattress Cuts to 4 fingers on one hand, 2 on the other, the palms of the hands, cheeks, belly. I've cried all day, been to A&E, we're home now and I'm feeling like the worst mum in the world. Please learn from my mistakes, it could of been so much worse

And @badmum82 the op is actually being responsible saying what she did and why she regrets it.

How scary OP I am a massive worrier so it wouldn't have occurred to me to hang anything above DD's cot but I can understand why you did. Glad your DD is okay.

Thank you for sharing OP, please don’t beat yourself up - and even if one person does something differently then it’s worth speaking up

Oh goodness how awful and scary for you.
I have (light plastic) framed pictures above DS's bed, DD's cot, and a Canvas above our bed.
You've definitely made me think to check how secure they are and will definitely remove the one over the cot anyway.

Poor both of you, my youngest DD was bouncing on my bed and smashed her teeth on the wooden bedstead when she was tiny, accidents happen and they make you feel awful precisely because you are NOT an awful mother.

@FTM91

An entire oil painting fell on my head when I was a baby - luckily the painting came off worse.

That must have been scary for you OP especially with blood involved, but rest assured DD is fine, accidents happen and looking at PPs some will change their nursery plans now thanks to your warning

Feel better :)

You just had to be posh didn’t you with your oil painting 😉

Oh @Isadora2007, don’t be that person.

How distressing for all of you, good thing to share as may stop someone else doing it.

You must be so relieved and definitely good to share!

I stopped putting things above the bed after a canvas print above my bed fell on me when I was in student digs. I guess until you have an accident or someone points it out you wouldn't stop and think/ don't realise how unnecessarily risky it is for anyone, let alone a baby.

@SunshineCake

I sometimes wonder if I am a worrier as I would have not put pictures above a baby's cot as I would have expected them to fall down but I'm glad now.

There are posts every year about a baby who has strangled themselves with a blind cord and the parents often do a bringing awareness post. I just don't understand why anyone would still do this.

Glad you are all relatively okay.

Can I please ask what you mean by “ I just don’t understand why anyone would still do this?”

I’m a mother to a child who went through a freak accident off a blind cord. My child is now in heaven! Bereaved parents do there best to try prevent any other family going through what we have. We try to raise the awareness for those people who don’t know. I certainly didn’t know about blind cord dangers nor did my family.

I'm so sorry for your loss @BLKS7

My comment was I don't know why people still use the solid blind cord not why anyone would raise awareness.

@SunshineCake

I'm so sorry for your loss *@BLKS7*

My comment was I don't know why people still use the solid blind cord not why anyone would raise awareness.

Ooo sorry I jumped to conclusions,

My house was rented at the time blind cords didn’t get changed by law until 2014. As the inquest to my daughter it came to sight a lot off landlords have no information in regards to blinds or a number obvious safety measures. I had my HV round a lot who didn’t notice the blind cords - I’ve attended schools, nursery’s, even NHS buildings with the blind cords of that my daughter passed away on we just try to raise the awareness because the people “high” up who can make the change basically refuse to. We can promote the safety advice but this still keeps occurring and it will do until every single house hold gets rid off these blinds. It’s not even just children who get hurt it’s animals aswell a lot off blind company’s now refuse to fit blinds unless you allow a safety device to be attached to them things are changing slowly x

@BLKS7 I am so sorry for your loss.

@LST it’s still not a freak accident when you have a boiling mug of water and a toddler around. It’s just not. Accident? Yes. Freak accident? No. I was scalded as a child in a similar way- my mum never drank black coffee or tea again and always put the milk in first so there wouldn’t be a boiling drink to spill. Hot, but not boiling. So there was a lesson learnt. She didn’t mean it- it was an accident. But it was a boiling drink with a toddler around close enough to hit something that knocked it- similar to your scenario.
Accidents do happen of course- but we should learn from them rather than write them off as freak and Unavoidable.
Like the OP and @BLKS7 are doing here which raises awareness and may well prevent other accidents happening and make people reassess their choices and their homes.

@BLKS7

@BLKS7 I am so, so sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine. I'd never heard of the blind cords thing until reading this comment, I will look into it. How horribly tragic

Thank you for so many comments, poor baby has settled ok, though has been in discomfort from the cuts. They're the small, but long thin little type of cuts that are usually the most painful and stingy. Still feel so shaken by the image of it and how bad it could of been. I hadn't realised most frames use safety plastic these days. These were just a six pack of A4 certificate frames off Amazon as they were cheap and fitted the prints. I'm feeling so guilty Lesson learnt. They've been up for over a year no problem.. but it only takes one time

[quote Isadora2007]@LST it’s still not a freak accident when you have a boiling mug of water and a toddler around. It’s just not. Accident? Yes. Freak accident? No. I was scalded as a child in a similar way- my mum never drank black coffee or tea again and always put the milk in first so there wouldn’t be a boiling drink to spill. Hot, but not boiling. So there was a lesson learnt. She didn’t mean it- it was an accident. But it was a boiling drink with a toddler around close enough to hit something that knocked it- similar to your scenario.
Accidents do happen of course- but we should learn from them rather than write them off as freak and Unavoidable.
Like the OP and @BLKS7 are doing here which raises awareness and may well prevent other accidents happening and make people reassess their choices and their homes.[/quote]
You keep saying it like you were there ffs. Literally you could have pushed the drainer at the cup 100 times more and it would have never knocked the same way again. Every accident is avoidable in some way. I do so much to raise burns awareness. I told our story 100s of time to make people aware of the dangers of anything which could burn a child. Your original comment was foul.

I did the cup of tea thing when my son was a toddler. I was just really, really tired that day and put it on the counter without thinking. Luckily, I take my tea pretty milky and he was fine. Not a mark. he just got a fright. We both did!

i think it's a good idea to have a health visitor or friend to take a look at your sleeping area. My SIL had the nappy sacks within reaching grasp of the cot and I was very worried about the baby getting hold of them and suffocating or choking. She moved them after I pointed them out.

We all make mistakes sometimes.

Oh no, poor thing. Don't feel bad tho. How about the large Command picture strips up put higher up? I've got a v heavy picture on my wall over the bed with two of them, one too & one bottom & it's not budged in years. Also, take the glass out of the frame, it makes no difference & they're lighter. I broke the glass in 2 frames moving house & they look no different tbh.

@LST I hoPe you’re ok, @Isadora2007 Is saying is awful. It was a total accident.

@SunshineCake

I sometimes wonder if I am a worrier as I would have not put pictures above a baby's cot as I would have expected them to fall down but I'm glad now.

There are posts every year about a baby who has strangled themselves with a blind cord and the parents often do a bringing awareness post. I just don't understand why anyone would still do this.

Glad you are all relatively okay.

Neither do I. I first read about this over 20 years ago when my ds was a baby, how can people still not know ?

Oh ffs learn to read- I’m also saying it’s an accident. But not a freak one. One that can and should be learnt from and even now LST herself is saying she’s spoken now about burns awareness so is even in agreement with my point! Perhaps how it was delivered wasn’t great- I will agree with that. But I do think people piling on with awwww hun it was an accident don’t worry etc type things aren’t helpful when actually it’s vital to reflect and things and learn where safety is involved. There is always room for improvement and we cannot be perfect but we can make steps to improve safety for our children... but not if we refuse to learn from things.

@Isadora2007 I agree, of course accidents will happen but I think you have to be in the mindset that the worst could happen and prepare for that to ensure it doesn't!
Your whole life is a series of mini risk assessments and it wouldn't have occurred to me to put anything on the wall near my babies cot as I would have worried it would have fallen down.

Hope your little one is OK and don't let it go to your mum's head that she was right .
Mine is awful. Don't let children have lamps or lights near their bunk bed or bed that are not fixed and designed for that purpose, as the bulbs can get very hot. Dd age 6 came in one morning and said 'I don't know what happened'. There was a hole burnt right through her duvet and mattress (thank you non flammable materials so glad I didn't buy a dud). She had left her lamp on, propped up on her bed, it must have ignited, she 'felt hot' in the night and 'sat up' and must have thankfully extinguished the fire by her duvet flopping forward over it. Then she went back to sleep. The lamp we had just bought from IKEA to replace her clip on bunk bed one and had been planning to fix it. We felt horrendous. So so lucky that night. Coincidentally same child came back from a neighbours house with a burn from the light bulb of a bedside lamp after going on the other girls bunk beds. They are out to get her .