Frames above babies bed. Learn from my mistakes

[badmum82]

When my mum pointed out maybe I shouldn't have frames above my babies cot I just thought of all the Instagram nursery inspo pictures I'd seen and thought that she was being irrational. She wasn't, at some point last night/this morning my toddler either pulled down a print, or it fell down. We woke up this morning to screaming from the baby monitor, pulled the covers back to find broken glass everywhere, the frame and blood on the mattress Cuts to 4 fingers on one hand, 2 on the other, the palms of the hands, cheeks, belly. I've cried all day, been to A&E, we're home now and I'm feeling like the worst mum in the world. Please learn from my mistakes, it could of been so much worse

[RaeCJ82]

Why would you even take the risk? Put it at the other side of the room if you must but right above the cot...I wouldn't.

[winifredwells]

I am all for being cautious, but frankly, unless you use blue tack, you can fix bunting safely and it won't move until you really yank it!

If you feel safer, of course don't put anything, but if you can be trusted for assembling a cot safely, you should be able to hang a light item safely too.

Frames and shelves are different, most are not that secure.

[GrumpyHoonMain]

Maybe use this as an opportunity to baby proof the house.

[RaeCJ82]

@winifredwells Well if that bunting falls into the cot and the baby or child manages to get it wrapped round their neck, it'll be a dead baby/child!

[icedgem85]

Thank you for sharing, you’ve probably spared another baby! And yours will be just fine. Don’t beat yourself up! X

[BrieAndChilli]

When my eldest was 1 I popped to the loo, he managed to make his way into the lychee, open the recycling and cut his finger badly on a can!

[winifredwells]

@RaeCJ82

I can never believe it when people hang bunting above their baby's cot!

it's a baby, not a spider!

[RaeCJ82]

I can never believe it when people hang bunting above their baby's cot!

[Rewis]

I won't have anyhting above the bed or the sofa. I'd be too worries about things coming down.

However, don't beat yourself up. Stuff happens and you need to just learn form them. Main thing is that everyone is fine.

[BashfulClam]

At least it wasn’t more serious but when your mum mentioned it she wasn’t being paranoid and it is a stupid thing to hang over a cot. I cringe when I see it online.

[RickiTarr]

@RevolvingPivot

I get what your saying:

Freak accident - happens unexpectedly there is no way you could have predicted it / nothing you could have done

Accident - something you didn't intend to happen but something you did could have contributed even if you didn't mean it too

Exactly.

No way anyone on the Internet (or their mum) can issue warnings to help you avoid a freak accident.

[Isadora2007]

@RevolvingPivot exactly. 👏🏻

[RevolvingPivot]

That reply was to @Isadora2007

[RevolvingPivot]

You're -

[RevolvingPivot]

I get what your saying:

Freak accident - happens unexpectedly there is no way you could have predicted it / nothing you could have done

Accident - something you didn't intend to happen but something you did could have contributed even if you didn't mean it too

[RevolvingPivot]

I've always thought this when I see lots of glass frames / wall hangings on Instagram.

I'm not saying you do this op but most of the items in babies room on Instagram are just for show / to look good in the photos and not practical at all.

I hope your baby is ok x

[Rainallnight]

Sending you OP. It’s horrible when they’re hurt. Don’t beat yourself up.

[GoToSleepBabyPlease]

@ivfbeenbusy

A few Harsh lessons to learn there OP and for everyone I should think

1- sometimes our mothers do know best

2 - you shouldn't live your life through Instagram

3 - wall stickers are the way forward

(I've not long decorated my twins nursery - so many nice things to hang above cots but discounted it straight away.....)

To be fair to *@Isadora2007* whilst this was an awful accident it was a preventable one but I'm sure the OP doesn't need anyone to tell Her that

Did you read PP's post about her baby nearly choking to death on a fallen wall sticker?

[GoWalkabout]

Hope your little one is OK and don't let it go to your mum's head that she was right .
Mine is awful. Don't let children have lamps or lights near their bunk bed or bed that are not fixed and designed for that purpose, as the bulbs can get very hot. Dd age 6 came in one morning and said 'I don't know what happened'. There was a hole burnt right through her duvet and mattress (thank you non flammable materials so glad I didn't buy a dud). She had left her lamp on, propped up on her bed, it must have ignited, she 'felt hot' in the night and 'sat up' and must have thankfully extinguished the fire by her duvet flopping forward over it. Then she went back to sleep. The lamp we had just bought from IKEA to replace her clip on bunk bed one and had been planning to fix it. We felt horrendous. So so lucky that night. Coincidentally same child came back from a neighbours house with a burn from the light bulb of a bedside lamp after going on the other girls bunk beds. They are out to get her .

[lulujuju]

@Isadora2007 I agree, of course accidents will happen but I think you have to be in the mindset that the worst could happen and prepare for that to ensure it doesn't!
Your whole life is a series of mini risk assessments and it wouldn't have occurred to me to put anything on the wall near my babies cot as I would have worried it would have fallen down.

[Isadora2007]

Oh ffs learn to read- I’m also saying it’s an accident. But not a freak one. One that can and should be learnt from and even now LST herself is saying she’s spoken now about burns awareness so is even in agreement with my point! Perhaps how it was delivered wasn’t great- I will agree with that. But I do think people piling on with awwww hun it was an accident don’t worry etc type things aren’t helpful when actually it’s vital to reflect and things and learn where safety is involved. There is always room for improvement and we cannot be perfect but we can make steps to improve safety for our children... but not if we refuse to learn from things.

[knitonedropone]

@SunshineCake

I sometimes wonder if I am a worrier as I would have not put pictures above a baby's cot as I would have expected them to fall down but I'm glad now.

There are posts every year about a baby who has strangled themselves with a blind cord and the parents often do a bringing awareness post. I just don't understand why anyone would still do this.

Glad you are all relatively okay.

Neither do I. I first read about this over 20 years ago when my ds was a baby, how can people still not know ?

[OwlBeThere]

@LST I hoPe you’re ok, @Isadora2007 Is saying is awful. It was a total accident.

[CSIblonde]

Oh no, poor thing. Don't feel bad tho. How about the large Command picture strips up put higher up? I've got a v heavy picture on my wall over the bed with two of them, one too & one bottom & it's not budged in years. Also, take the glass out of the frame, it makes no difference & they're lighter. I broke the glass in 2 frames moving house & they look no different tbh.

[BlackCatShadow]

I did the cup of tea thing when my son was a toddler. I was just really, really tired that day and put it on the counter without thinking. Luckily, I take my tea pretty milky and he was fine. Not a mark. he just got a fright. We both did!

i think it's a good idea to have a health visitor or friend to take a look at your sleeping area. My SIL had the nappy sacks within reaching grasp of the cot and I was very worried about the baby getting hold of them and suffocating or choking. She moved them after I pointed them out.

We all make mistakes sometimes.