I have a cousin the same age as me. Her parents divorced when she was young (like mine). Unlike mine, hers both kept contact and spent years trying to spoil her more than the other. She has a long history of giving me (and my sister) really cheap and nasty gifts - like, tat from the market, free branded stuff she has been given at conferences. If she was cheap with everyone, I wouldnt mind, but she gives lovely presents to my parents, and boasts about how much she has spent on her only daughter and on herself. So, it was my birthday a few days ago and I got a box of chocolates from her, (and according the to note her child and their partner - her child is late 20s and has never bought anyone except her mother a present in her life). The box is tiny, like the ones you can add to a bouquet or other gift as a small addition. I've seen it online, it costs £5. And no, before you ask, she is not furloughed, is in a secure job, owns a house in London with a tiny mortgage, and has professional job with a lucrative second income coming in.
So, here is my question. She and child have birthdays coming up, which she is always very careful to call and drop hints about. I usually send them both a thoughtful gift and now the childs partner too. But for some reason this time, I am really annoyed at this.
So, heres my question - should I rise above it again and do what I usually do, or send her and child a similar box? Or send the same kind of box to all 3 of them?
YABU - rise above it and be the better person.
YANBU - send the same kind of box back to them.