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Am I lazy? Aibu ?

51 replies

hotncolds · 07/04/2021 13:42

I do my friend favours all the time,yet when I need a favour she is Mia.
I will pick her things up from supermarket and drop them off at her house.
She lives 5 mins walk away from mine so it's no trouble really,but she never thinks about saying il come and collect them.

It's her cousins birthday and a few weeks ago I mentioned I had a unused soap and glory gift set that I didn't want.
She asked if she could have it and I said of course.
I said pop round anytime you want.
She was meant to come yesterday (she didn't )
Then she said "will you be passing mine tomorrow,can you drop that set in?"
I said no I wouldn't be I didn't think as I was busy today.
I've just been food shopping and because I'm without a car at the min I have to get the train to the supermarket and obviously carry the heavy bags back.

She's just text "can you drop that set around please today"
I replied "hi I've just got home,manic today,I won't be near your house today,feel free to collect when you can"

She replied "how lazy,it's literally 5 mins round the corner,I'm not even dressed yet"

I'm flabbergasted
Aibu am I ?

OP posts:
minipie · 07/04/2021 13:44

I can only think she meant to type “how lazy am I”

FourTeaFallOut · 07/04/2021 13:44

Tell her to get fucked, cheeky cow.

Atalantea · 07/04/2021 13:45

Why are you even asking?
It's a non question

She replied "how lazy,it's literally 5 mins round the corner,I'm not even dressed yet"

Message back, say who is being fucking lazy? At least I'm dressed. its outside, get it when you want to.

BaggoMcoys · 07/04/2021 13:46

Most yanbu of all the yanbus.

CheeseCakeSunflowers · 07/04/2021 13:48

I think I would deliberately misunderstand her message and reply something like, Yes, it does sound like your having a lazy morning, let me know when your on your way.

AnneLovesGilbert · 07/04/2021 13:51

She’s not a friend is she?

TristantheTyrannosaurus · 07/04/2021 13:51

She's not a friend. She's a using, demanding, selfish bitch. STOP enabling her. Wake up! Tell her to get knotted. Stop doing favours for her, she's nothing but a CFer and you deserve better.

'Offer withdrawn. Decided to keep the set myself. You need to buy your own present.'

Chocolateismakingmefat · 07/04/2021 13:52

Send back:
Pot
Kettle
And back away.

UhtredRagnarson · 07/04/2021 13:53

She is very clearly the lazy one! Does she realise that it’s only 5 minutes for her too? Or does it take 4 times as long for her to do the same journey? Hmm

idontlikealdi · 07/04/2021 13:53

Fuck that. Tell her you've changed your mind you are going to use it then step away from the "friendship".

GreenSlide · 07/04/2021 13:54

I'd reply saying lol you're lazier than me if you're not even dressed, and leave it there (forever)

Original poster
hotncolds · 07/04/2021 13:57

She just can't be arsed to walk around.
I think she thinks I'm at her beck and call.
She can whistle for the set now.

OP posts:
MalibuandOrange · 07/04/2021 13:58

Send back: excuse me says the one who can't get off her lazy bottom to come pick something up for FREE and isn't even out of their PJs pass midday.

I'd ditch her. Bad vibes off that one.

Taikoo · 07/04/2021 13:58

Ditch her.
She's no friend.

BronwenFrideswide · 07/04/2021 13:59

Reply that yes, it is extremely lazy for you not to get dressed and come round to collect something that you want. I am now withdrawing my offer, suggest you get off your backside and go to the shops.

AnneLovesGilbert · 07/04/2021 14:00

She can whistle for the set now.

She can whistle for the skivvy now. Ask her what her last slave died of then block her.

BronwenFrideswide · 07/04/2021 14:01

@hotncolds

She just can't be arsed to walk around. I think she thinks I'm at her beck and call. She can whistle for the set now.
You have been at her beck and call, but good for you saying she can whistle for the set, make sure she whistles for everything else as well, stop letting her use you.
Zancah · 07/04/2021 14:03

Real friends don't do things like that. She's using you for what she can wheedle out of you.

SummerHouse · 07/04/2021 14:04

I would have to get to the bottom of this with a make or break reply. "Are you calling me lazy for not dropping off the set?"

Stage two: update thread with her reply.

Blueskytoday06 · 07/04/2021 14:06

I need to know what you replied with!

Navilana · 07/04/2021 14:07

Why does she not drive you to the supermarket, get her own stuff too, and she could take the set when she has dropped you and groceries off at your place? THAT is what a friend would do. What a nasty lazy piece of work she is!

Bluntness100 · 07/04/2021 14:07

I’m sorry but that made me chuckle. She thinks you’re th lazy one but she equally can’t be arsed walking to you?

Just text back and say “lol, I’m sure you’re not dressed for a reason, and defo not lazy, don’t put yourself down like that, pop round when you’re ready 😂😂😂”

Natty13 · 07/04/2021 14:09

I'd text back "hahaha guess we are both lazy then. I'm not bringing it round, if you want it come and get it."

I've said something similar to a friend who expected me to come to her area 100% of the times we meet up. I've had enough and am not budging, friendship is a 2 way street.

Chocolateismakingmefat · 07/04/2021 14:10

Mention on fb later your lovely bath night!!

PyjamaFan · 07/04/2021 14:12

The cheeky cow!

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