To be annoyed about too many cars

[imyoung]

My boyfriends dad just buys cars, I came home from work and saw a new car on the driveway and my boyfriend tells me it's his dad's. We don't need this many cars, my boyfriend has a car, his mum has a car, his dad already has a car in the garage we don't need this many cars it's ridiculous. I live with them and when I go to work there just so many cars on the drive and it's unnecessary. I don't understand the reasoning behind this. Only 3 of them drive, my bf, his mum and dad drive but they have 4 cars? My boyfriends little brother lives with us but he's 11 so too young to drive. Its just unnecessary.

I do I try to focus on my own life but it's just silly I come home and our driveway is filled with cars and also the sounds of everyone going to work in the morning. I don't see why the can't share cars. I don't know the makes of the cars, I just know one of my my boyfriends dad's cars is a sporty one and the new one he's bought is this red one.

I would speak to my bf about moving out although money is a bit tight at the minute. His dad most likely isn't going to sell anything any time soon either. Its is upto to him but just because he's allowed doesn't mean he has to

Stop whinging, move out if it offends you that much.
Whatever you pay in rent is enabling them to buy so many cars.

You are welcome to move out. It isn't your house, it isn't your life. Get over it.

So until now each adult has had 1 car each? That is pretty normal by any standard, especially outside of london/big cities as public transport outside of city centres is pretty abysmal!!
They might all work at the same place at the moment (and I do agree it would be better to all go in one car of starting and finishing at the same time) but what happens in the future when someone moves companies, or one has a day off and want o go on a day trip or even away for a weeks holiday, what happened if the 11 year old needs urgently picking up from school and taking to the doctor, or someone needs to leave work early to go to the dentist, or a supermarket shop is needed to be done on the way home from work? There are loads of reasons when each adult needs thier own car, not least for the freedom from each other!!!
It could be that the dad is planning to get rid of his old car? If he has just bought this car and doesn’t normally have more than one car himself then you are jumping the gun abit!

Cars are apparently his hobby. Could be worse.

Are you happy living there? Any plans to move into your own place? Do you ever travel as a passenger in your BF's car?

Op do you walk to the supermarket to carry your food shopping back?or do you go in the car?

It's a bit of an odd one to have an issue with seeing as your living in their house which will be subsidised by them

And that's helping you save for a place of your own right?

Can't even understand why it's an issue.

My in laws are like this (BIL lives with them). Totally unnecessary. And 2 of the 3 of them could get everywhere they needed to go easily by public transport but instead there are 3 cars + a work van there all the time and 50% of their chat is complaining about the traffic.

On a row of terraced houses this might be quite difficult.

Then you use a public charger.

Not practical, they take about about an hour a time. Think of the queues. You'd be there all day.

As a general concern that private cars are environmentally problematic and as a society we need to consider lowering our reliance on driving solo, YANBU. But you are personalising it to this one family because you happen to be attached to them when what they are doing is not at all unusual and doesn't impact you more than anyone else doing it and in the sense YABVU.

I find it odd that you have chosen to live with your BF's family but are rude about their lifestyle choices. Presumably you are an adult, why don't you move out and live independently?

@Gazelda

Cars are apparently his hobby. Could be worse.

Are you happy living there? Any plans to move into your own place? Do you ever travel as a passenger in your BF's car?

Right, cause having 4 cars and polluting the earth is a perfectly ok hobby

Surely though it's only the dad whose hobby it is and he has 2 cars. The other adults have their own car each. When I lived at home, we had 5 cars due to 5 people who were 17 and over. It's not unusual for an adult to have their own car.

With regards to the environment it doesn't matter if a person has 1 car or 20. They can only drive one at a time.

You sound a bit preachy OP.

If you don't like it move out.

4 cars is hardly polluting the earth 🙄

I'm sure people don't sit on their drives with all their engines running all at the same time.

Im with you OP. Its fine to have a collection of cars but would rile my eco friendly buttons to see them driving in separate cars when they could car share perfectly easily.

But ultimately its none of your business so although it would be an issue that would also push my buttons YABU.
If it bothers you this much........... time to find a new boyfriend.

I empathise with your enrivonmental concerns, especially when it comes to not car sharing the same journey.

It doesn't sound like your values and your boyfriend's values align though if he is more aligned with his parents' outlook.

@Pumpkinstace

With regards to the environment it doesn't matter if a person has 1 car or 20. They can only drive one at a time.

The manufacture of cars has a significant environmental impact, equaling the impact of exhaust emissions from driving. So having 2 cars and sharing the driving between them could increase environmental impact by 50%.

Yabu we are a 3 person household and have 4 vehicles incl a motor home

We all drive and need to be in different directions at the same time. Also public transport where I live is shit

This would annoy me too.
Bad for the environment- and it looks cluttered too!

@grafittiartist

This would annoy me too. Bad for the environment- and it looks cluttered too!

It's not op's property. She's free to stop freeloading and move to her own uncluttered premises if she wishes.

You’re so entitled
It’s not your house so it’s not your business if they have 20 cars and a tank on the drive

We don't need this many cars
My boyfriends little brother lives with us but he's 11
our driveway
The way you speak is very strange.
Nothing about this is "we", it's their cars, their issue, up to them what they have on their driveway.
You are a lodger. Even the way you speak about the 11yr old is bizarre.

Why not go in your bf car to work?
What if you have children, it's always a good skill to know how to drive. You kind of limit yourself if you can't drive.

@seashells11

On a row of terraced houses this might be quite difficult.

Then you use a public charger.

Not practical, they take about about an hour a time. Think of the queues. You'd be there all day.

One charge lasts about 250 miles so you don't need to be constantly charging. And workplaces will also be installing Charing points. But mainly, for this kind if town living the focus will be on huge improvement to public transport and thus negating this issue (or non issue as it really is)

Are they all insured? If they are there is not much I think you can do. Being a saddo petrolhead man who has insecurities about the size of their manhood is not a crime.

I agree- not her property.
But she's allowed to say it gets on her nerves and have a moan about it.