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To be annoyed about too many cars

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imyoung · 04/04/2021 17:07

My boyfriends dad just buys cars, I came home from work and saw a new car on the driveway and my boyfriend tells me it's his dad's. We don't need this many cars, my boyfriend has a car, his mum has a car, his dad already has a car in the garage we don't need this many cars it's ridiculous. I live with them and when I go to work there just so many cars on the drive and it's unnecessary. I don't understand the reasoning behind this. Only 3 of them drive, my bf, his mum and dad drive but they have 4 cars? My boyfriends little brother lives with us but he's 11 so too young to drive. Its just unnecessary.

I do I try to focus on my own life but it's just silly I come home and our driveway is filled with cars and also the sounds of everyone going to work in the morning. I don't see why the can't share cars. I don't know the makes of the cars, I just know one of my my boyfriends dad's cars is a sporty one and the new one he's bought is this red one.

I would speak to my bf about moving out although money is a bit tight at the minute. His dad most likely isn't going to sell anything any time soon either. Its is upto to him but just because he's allowed doesn't mean he has to

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baubled · 04/04/2021 18:26

If you don't like how they live, move out.

If you don't like having a boyfriend that has a car, leave him.

If this is the biggest concern in living with another family then you're in a good position, you can dislike them having that many cars for whatever reason you like but yab MASSIVELY u expecting that they should get rid of/not buy cars. If they thought you wore too much make up/nail varnish/had too many clothes (or anything, you get my drift) would you think it's acceptable for them to want you to not buy more or get rid of them, of course not!

Tinydinosaur · 04/04/2021 18:28

YABU you live in their house. Be grateful and stop judging them for stuff that has nothing to do with you. It's not your house, or your drive, they're not your cars. So there's no "us" or "our" about it.

Rinoachicken · 04/04/2021 18:29

YABU.

You all work together and live together. Sounds like time in the car is the only time any of them get any time to be alone!

anon12345678901 · 04/04/2021 18:31

You keep saying we don't need this many cars, our driveway, boyfriends brother lives with us. It's not your house or driveway, they aren't your cars.
If you don't like it when you live there, move out on your own. It's really not your business how many cars they have. They may all work at the same place but I'm pretty sure in normal times they would be going to other places separately. It's their money, their choice to buy the cars. It's your choice to walk.

Batshittery · 04/04/2021 18:32

@SleepingStandingUp

Exactly, I don’t even have a car, I probably will never get my licence, I walk 40 minutes to work, I would prefer it if my boyfriend didn't have one because we would walk to work together and spend more time with each other but it is what it is with that I guess. We need less cars not more so you and bf work together but he drives off in the car and you walk?
This ^^. Really? You walk to the same place that he's driving to? What a load of tosh
pheasantsinlove · 04/04/2021 18:33

Well when you've got your own house and your own driveway you can chose not to park anything on it. YABU.

MammaMiaWallace · 04/04/2021 18:33

YABU! From later posts it seems you’d rather your boyfriend didn’t have a car so he can walk with you? And what when you wanted to go anywhere else?

This is like a weird reverse of the very understandable dislike of people without cars expecting lifts and never being DES. But the shoe on the other foot and a strident walker disliking the mobility options of others 😂

Wolfiefan · 04/04/2021 18:37

None of your business if they have a car for each day of the week. Not your money. Not your driveway.

Starlightstarbright1 · 04/04/2021 18:37

Your problem is you are trying to put your values on everyone else..

TristantheTyrannosaurus · 04/04/2021 18:37

You don't sound very compatible with your boyfriend and his family, or at any rate, for living with them. They like cars, you don't. It's a free country. You can't expect your boyfriend to change that he likes cars.

TristantheTyrannosaurus · 04/04/2021 18:38

He doesn't try to impose his values on you, try to pressure you to get a license or stop walking to work.

steff13 · 04/04/2021 18:39

So if you and your boyfriend are going out to dinner or a movie or something, he drives and you don't ride with him?

StrugglingToBeStylish · 04/04/2021 18:40

Stop whingeing and move out then OP
Hmm

Sirzy · 04/04/2021 18:41

If you have such issues with how they live then you best move out. I am sure you can carry all of your stuff in a few Trips walking to your new place!

Blackcat21 · 04/04/2021 18:47

Good on you for caring about the environment OP, we genuinely need more people like you.

Too many rude people on this thread jumping down your throat to mind your business, move out or you’re just being unreasonable, pay not mind to it.

You have an opinion and you’re entitled to it.

I agree having that many cars is just silly. Far enough it’s their own money, but that many is Confused

XingMing · 04/04/2021 18:48

They clearly enjoy cars, and you are not interested. I'm not either, but my DH loves them, and sometimes buys one as an investment; we currently have four plus mine. And as a PP said, one person can only drive one car at a time.

Womencanlift · 04/04/2021 18:48

You do sound like a bit of a martyr OP saying you don’t get in his car. It’s not your house so YABU. If you have such an issue then get your own place so you don’t have to look at them

MavisDaviss · 04/04/2021 18:51

@coogee

You plug them in. Like a phone.
God help them if there was a power cut Grin
coogee · 04/04/2021 18:58

My husband actually looked at how long one would take to charge using our generator. 36 hours.

Chickenlickeninthepot · 04/04/2021 18:59

So he won't give you a lift to work? Is that what this is about?

SavannahLands · 04/04/2021 19:06

Maybe they buy to deal privately and make a bit of Money doing so? At least they have a Drive to park them on. Locally we have a problem with people who live in a row of large terraced houses that have no parking facilities of their own other than on the Roadside. Most of them are 4 bedroom type places over 3 Floors, and occupied with extended families who likewise own several cars.
When everyone’s at home in these places, it becomes a real problem, as it’s too narrow due to the double parking on either side of the road to allow the Emergency services or Bin collectors to get through when needed. It’s within a world Heritage conservation area, so nothing can be done about it.

Broken Door mirrors in the mornings are rife, and feuding neighbours over parking spaces outside their homes often results in fights where the Police are called to intervene, or someone’s car gets vandalised overnight. If the OPs family have the space and are not causing a nuisance to anyone in their community then let them get on with it, it’s no ones business other than their own!

GreyhoundG1rl · 04/04/2021 19:14

If your boyfriend’s parents don’t live the way you would have them live, you could always move out...
Why did you move in, in the first place?

Jumpers268 · 04/04/2021 19:19

Not your house, not your driveway, not your business.

Ginger1982 · 04/04/2021 19:22

I* don't really go in his car.
*
What does this even mean? Do you refuse to get in his car?

mbosnz · 04/04/2021 19:25

It is not 'our' driveway. It is 'their' driveway.

'We' may not need that many cars. 'They' can have as many cars as they want.

He 'doesn't have to', but he 'can if he wants to'.

Just as they don't have to have their son's girlfriend living with them, but they very kindly do so.

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