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To be annoyed about too many cars

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imyoung · 04/04/2021 17:07

My boyfriends dad just buys cars, I came home from work and saw a new car on the driveway and my boyfriend tells me it's his dad's. We don't need this many cars, my boyfriend has a car, his mum has a car, his dad already has a car in the garage we don't need this many cars it's ridiculous. I live with them and when I go to work there just so many cars on the drive and it's unnecessary. I don't understand the reasoning behind this. Only 3 of them drive, my bf, his mum and dad drive but they have 4 cars? My boyfriends little brother lives with us but he's 11 so too young to drive. Its just unnecessary.

I do I try to focus on my own life but it's just silly I come home and our driveway is filled with cars and also the sounds of everyone going to work in the morning. I don't see why the can't share cars. I don't know the makes of the cars, I just know one of my my boyfriends dad's cars is a sporty one and the new one he's bought is this red one.

I would speak to my bf about moving out although money is a bit tight at the minute. His dad most likely isn't going to sell anything any time soon either. Its is upto to him but just because he's allowed doesn't mean he has to

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seashells11 · 04/04/2021 17:57

My worry is, what about when all the cars are electric. Has anyone given any thought to how they'll all be charged.

Northofsomewhere · 04/04/2021 17:58

While I think it's odd they don't share if working the same hours at the same place I don't think it would irritate me either living in the house or as a neighbour providing they parked the majority of them on their drive. I understand the environmental side of things but I assume they use their cars outside of work and even if you did move out your BF would take his with him so there'd still be 3. I also know of people who have a sporty car for those rare summer days to go off tripping somewhere in so it's used rarely, if they have the space for it why not? It just seems an odd thing to focus on and be considering moving out because of - do you enjoy living there otherwise and the cars are just a contributing factor.

Roszie · 04/04/2021 17:58

Move out if it annoys you that much. I think it's strange that it bothers you.

Sinner10 · 04/04/2021 17:58

Some people likes cars as a hobby. If they’ve got the money and space for them then I really don’t see the problem.

thebillyotea · 04/04/2021 18:01

I try to focus on my own life

you might want to start with getting your own place?

SleepingStandingUp · 04/04/2021 18:03

Exactly, I don’t even have a car, I probably will never get my licence, I walk 40 minutes to work, I would prefer it if my boyfriend didn't have one because we would walk to work together and spend more time with each other but it is what it is with that I guess. We need less cars not more so you and bf work together but he drives off in the car and you walk?

midnightstar66 · 04/04/2021 18:04

I just am quite conscious about the environment.

But they can only drive one at a time. It's totally reasonable to go to work separately as independent adults. They may want to go somewhere after plus even if there was only one car each this could be the same. You live in their home so have no say. If it were your drive you could bring the matter up.

coogee · 04/04/2021 18:05

You plug them in. Like a phone.

coogee · 04/04/2021 18:06

Duh!

That was in response to this...

My worry is, what about when all the cars are electric. Has anyone given any thought to how they'll all be charged.

midnightstar66 · 04/04/2021 18:06

My worry is, what about when all the cars are electric. Has anyone given any thought to how they'll all be charged.

At this point they might be forced to cut back 🤷🏼‍♀️

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 04/04/2021 18:06

You should split up from your boyfriend. You are not a good fit with this family.

seashells11 · 04/04/2021 18:07

consider someone else.

Sometimes they come home at separate times but sometimes they come at the same time and are all driving in a row behind each other

A bit like a funeral cortege? Grin

DriftGames · 04/04/2021 18:07

Me and my DH have 8 cars. Between two of us. Because we like cars.

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imyoung · 04/04/2021 18:10

@SleepingStandingUp

Exactly, I don’t even have a car, I probably will never get my licence, I walk 40 minutes to work, I would prefer it if my boyfriend didn't have one because we would walk to work together and spend more time with each other but it is what it is with that I guess. We need less cars not more so you and bf work together but he drives off in the car and you walk?
I don't really go in his car
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seashells11 · 04/04/2021 18:10

@coogee

You plug them in. Like a phone.
On a row of terraced houses this might be quite difficult.
FireflyRainbow · 04/04/2021 18:11

Op YABU eat an easter egg.

RedGoldAndGreene · 04/04/2021 18:11

Yabu
Lots of people have a car per adult or a car and work van.

SmallPrawnEnergy · 04/04/2021 18:12

Have you posted about this before? It’s not your house so it’s not “our” drive. Do what you can to ease your own environmental guilt but you can’t demand or even expect your boyfriends family to get rid of all their cars just because you don’t like them. Curious if you’re planning on having children? They’re terrible for the planet.

toocold54 · 04/04/2021 18:13

Why are you living with them?

toocold54 · 04/04/2021 18:15

I do find it strange when people have more cars than they need though - surely it must cost a fortune in mot, insurance etc

Oblomov21 · 04/04/2021 18:15

Eh? Everyone is allowed a hobby, or to collect what they like! Be it coins, Lego, or cars. Why does this bother you?

EmmaGrundyForPM · 04/04/2021 18:17

YABU
Their house, their cars.
DH and I had a period with 3 cars between the two of us. I had an old 4x4 which was very fuel hungry but was brilliant for where we live. I got a job 50 minutes drive away and bought a small, fuel efficient hatchback to do the commute. However we kept the 4x4 because we live rurally and its a great workhorse, DH does cross country running and the races often start down bumpy tracks etc which his sports convertible can't cope with, we do a lot of cycling and have a tow bar plus bike carrier on the 4x4. So we had all 3 cars on the go. I've now sold the hatchback because I'm primarily wfh.

As others have said, you can only drive one car at a time.

Howshouldibehave · 04/04/2021 18:19

I don't know the makes of the cars

What has that got to do with anything?!

These people let you live in their home, and you are complaining about them-nice.

I think you need to focus on earning enough money that you can live on your own and then you can make decisions about what happens in your house and in your drive-I think you should move out if it bothers you.

thebillyotea · 04/04/2021 18:23

I don't really go in his car

ok....

coogee · 04/04/2021 18:24

On a row of terraced houses this might be quite difficult.

Then you use a public charger.

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