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Laundry Dilemma

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JustALittleBitClueless · 04/04/2021 13:18

Please be kind, this is my first post and I would appreciate some guidance.

DH and I have been married six months (and nine days) and I'm really struggling with the laundry. Up until now, I've had to hand wash on the sink and do our sheets and pillowcases in the bath. It's a big effort to wring everything out, and some days I can't peg out on the line. I have an old wooden clothes horse and it's not up to much.

Well now we have bought a second hand twin tub, which is amazing, but I still don't have a clue what I am doing laundry wise.

Should I put the immersion on first and then connect the hose to the hot tap, and fill? Or should I connect the hose to the cold tap, and then use the twin tub heater? Which is more economical?

When I've washed the whites, do I need to add more powder when I put the coloureds in? Does anyone know? I'll be doing DH's work overalls last, of course.

Will it be okay to do the first spin back into the wash tub and then fill the spinner water tub with cold water from the tap, and move the output hose, so that the spinner water goes back into the sink? And how many times would I do the cold water thing? Until the water runs clear, I guess.

Sorry for all the questions, my mind is in a whirl. I could ask DM, but she lives three bus rides away and neither of us has a phone installed. Although we hope to have one once we've paid off the bank loan on the Cortina.

To add to the situation, I'm expecting, due on 1st July, I hope it's a boy. I don't know if it would be hygienic to wash the nappies first, given that they will need the hottest wash. But what about the other washing? I thought if the nappies were soaked in a bucket of Napisan and sluiced off beforehand, I could wash them first, and then do the baby's nightgowns, rompers, matinee coats, bonnets etc, towels, sheets and pillowcases, our clothes, then overalls last. I'd probably need to wash twice a week then.

But at the moment, is a weekly wash going to be enough, given that it might take several days to get things dry? We have a gas fire in the living room and a wall heater in the bedroom, so I probably need another clothes horse. I'm still working Monday to Friday, so have to do my housework at the weekend. At least DH spends Saturdays and Sundays fishing, which gets him out of my hair.

Reading this back, I may be overthinking things. But you'd think I'd be able to find a system that works. It's 1979, for goodness sake, not 1879. And I'm 19, with two 'A' levels, so I have a brain.

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thebabessavedme · 07/04/2021 10:14

Oh for gods sake will someone tell my mum its 1979! I'm 17 now and she still thinks I'm a kid one minute and an adult the next, I can cook a roast dinner and work the bloody twintub, I know how to get the carpet sweeper out after dinner and how to hang knickers on the middle of the new whirlygig and the sheets at the front so the neighbours cant see the knickers, she is making me buy things for my bottom drawer from my wages from the pub so that I am 'set up nicely' when I get married (I'm engaged) Then she says I can't have him stay over in case I get into trouble and I should know what men are like, she worries about what time he drops me off, (she can hear his motorbike, its a big Norton and goes like the clappers, we can be in Southend in no time) She dosent like what music I listen too, says its too loud, its only Led Zepplin for gods sake, she hates joss sticks (I am going to have these in my own house, I dont care what she says, besides it covers up the smell of the joints my fiance likes)
Anyway, got to go and have a look at the wedding dresses in Debenhams, mum likes them!

JustALittleBitClueless · 07/04/2021 10:24

We are martyrs, aren't we?

DH says I can have the Family Allowance on top of my housekeeping, once the baby is born. It will help towards the bills I have to pay. The milkman, the newsagent (for DH's paper), TV licence stamps from the post office every week, and the jar for the gas and electric bills. So I'm grateful for that.

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JustALittleBitClueless · 07/04/2021 10:54

I know @thebabessavedme, parents just don't understand.

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Rukaya · 07/04/2021 11:00

Compared to the levels of luxury many of us expect nowadays we loved in poverty

Your "poverty" would have been luxury to many of us, and long after the 70's. You had a car and a phone and a tv? We only had the tv (black and white) and did washing in the bath....this in the late 1990's.

JustALittleBitClueless · 07/04/2021 11:19

That is shocking @Rukaya, and unfortunately would have been the norm for lots of people.

I don't want to derail my own thread, which is a good natured look at the past, and some fond memories of being newly married and a first time mum, but you have a valid point.

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ElinoristhenewEnid · 07/04/2021 11:28

Just finished my weekly shop in town - went to FineFare, Liptons and Tescos. I make a note of the special offers and also the money off coupons I have collected - it is amazing how much you save by shopping around - about 65p this week - perhaps I will be able to have that pack of biscuits after all (or even two)!

Wingedharpy · 07/04/2021 11:42

That'll be 13 shillings in old money ElinoristhenewEnid.
Good saving.

JustALittleBitClueless · 07/04/2021 11:46

Well done @ElinoristhenewEnid. Going to three different shops, it would never have occurred to me. What a great tip. I suppose shops take a customer's loyalty for granted, so it really does pay to shop around.

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AWamBamBoom · 07/04/2021 19:29

I hope you all remembered to collect your Green shield stamps, it all mounts up
Debbie is after some clackers for Christmas and the catalogue has them

Frickssake · 07/04/2021 23:55

Went to Hillard's and Somerfields for my shopping. Had to get a few bits from the co op though. Which I don't mind as I'm saving up the stamps.
Bought some Dr Whites and the assistant put them in a brown paper bag for me so it wasn't obvious what I'd bought on the way home. Wasn't that nice?
Thinking of getting a Walkman for Christmas. Has anyone heard if they're any good?
Can't decide whether to get the Abba album on LP or cassette.
Dad's torn between the Austin Allegro or the Datsun Sunny. For my birthday he's asked me to choose between Berni Inn for tea or Wimpy for lunch! What shall I choose?

JustALittleBitClueless · 08/04/2021 07:41

DH says neither @Frickssake. Don't touch the Allegro with a barge pole. As my lovely grandma would say, 'I'd rather go on Shanks's pony'. And the the Sunny will turn to rust before your very eyes.

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JustALittleBitClueless · 08/04/2021 08:03

Those clackers are a bit dangerous @AWamBamBoom. A spirograph would fit the bill, I think.

You don't want to end up in casualty with her, with a broken wrist. Plus, they could easily take an eye out. Sad

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Lemmeout · 08/04/2021 08:09

What now? I don’t get it?

Iwouldlikesomecake · 08/04/2021 08:33

I love the Spirograph! Also it’s quiet so it can still be played with when the smaller children have gone to bed or without disturbing the neighbours in the evening.

JustALittleBitClueless · 08/04/2021 09:29

I had Frustration when I lived at home. DM wouldn't let us play with it in the evenings as it got on her nerves.

I gave it to my little brother in the end. It's his problem now Grin.

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ElinoristhenewEnid · 08/04/2021 10:36

Off to local butchers today for some pork cheese for hubby. Also some pigs fry - tasty cheap meal. Cleaned out meat safe in the pantry before going to the shops.

JustALittleBitClueless · 08/04/2021 10:57

@ElinoristhenewEnid, we call that brawn. DH likes it, and haslet. Sometimes he asks for tripe. I find them all a bit revolting, the thought makes me a bit queasy. Give me a slice of Kraft cheese any day.

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Frickssake · 08/04/2021 13:18

Kids have their Christmas lists already! Etch a sketch, kerplunk, a chopper bike and roller skates!
I've just eaten a marathon and some opal fruits and feel a bit sick now.
Apparently you can get hedgehog flavour crisis now!

Frickssake · 08/04/2021 13:18

*crisps!!!!!

ElinoristhenewEnid · 08/04/2021 13:32

@frickssake
I prefer a Swisskit. Love the ad jingo 'will you risk it for a Swisskit'?

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