To think that holidays are non essential?

[Silliantro]

The amount of whinging about missing out on holidays here and elsewhere has been shockingly irritating. Will missing out on a couple of trips to Megaluf/bland med cruises REALLY be the end of the world? It's such a shocking tone-deaf and privileged way to live your life.

Will staying at home and talking to your DC/learning a language/read a few books really be the end of the world? It's pretty grim absolutely NEED trips abroad or the seaside to to distract yourself from your own life.

Or then ?

Holiday may not be essential but they are fun and something to look forward to if your working hard and thats your reward pr thing you look forward fo
Life is also about having fun and doing things you enjoy to
Strictly speaking a lit of food er have are luxuries not essentials as a lot of things are we have in out homes

YABU I need a holiday hth

The op has probably decided to go on holiday after all.

'Holidays are not essential. Most people if they are honest, don’t really enjoy them'

Speak for yourself! I enjoy every holiday I have had in the past. Even its a static caravan at the seaside somewhere.

Its a break and I like going to different places

Learn a new language?

What’s the point if you never get to the Country whose language you have so piously learned?

You are talking bollox OP.

Also, where is your source regarding most people don’t enjoy holidays coming from?

Not projecting a bit/a lot are you?

Um, I'm not saying never take holidays (I love holidays), but simply that they're not essential for your wellbeing. 1-2 years without a trip abroad from the pandemic shouldn't be a big deal and the whining about it has been off the charts. You know 80% of humanity manage fine without this extreme luxury?

If you need to holiday abroad to escape the brutal grind of your daily existence, you're really doing your life wrong. What's more grim than viewing your everyday life as something to endure with the desperate hope that a holiday will make you feel joy again?

@Cocomarine

If they’re not essential!

But you’re a right fucking joyless fun sponge, aren’t you?

And snobby with it - you don’t approve of “bland Med cruises then?”

I really hope you don’t bother going on holiday yourself, as I’d really hate to bump into you on one 🤣

I'll broaden this out to be more inclusive then: bland med cruises/swiss chalet trip/"trekking with hill tribes" (bleeergh).

We do lot of things we don’t NEED to do to enjoy our lives.

I was looking forward to a weeks break with my family last year, in this country as we haven’t been anywhere for 3 years, will I survive, yes, doesn’t stop me wanting to go on 5 holidays when it is safe to do so!

Well your return doesn't make you sound any less unpleasant @Silliantro. Your attitude stinks.

In the last year as well as al the normal stresses of the pandemic that everyone has faced I have had to spend the year shielding DS.

He has also in that time had another diagnosis to add to his ever expanding list. This one for a condition that without quick treatment could kill him meaning I have had to be trained in emergency injections.

We have had numerous a and e trips for various things.

I have battled the LA to make sure his placement for secondary school is right and his ehcp contains what is needed.

That’s before going into the health issues of other family members over the year. And it’s only the tip of the iceberg with Ds.

So yes too fucking right I need to escape the daily grind. I won’t be going aboard (Ds isn’t allowed to fly so cruises are our only option to get aboard with him and so hopefully in 2022!) but I need to get to a caravan in Wales for a few days just for a change of scenery and an escape from some of the daily shit.

OP's attitude is 'other people don't do life or fun like me so they are doing it wrong'.

Sorry, but you're wrong. To me, my holidays and breaks away are essential. They're what have kept me going through the worst 6 years of my life. They've been my lifeline, my way of escaping my home, my sanctuary. How dare you tell me, and others, what is essential and what is not?
You know nothing about the lives that others are leading and why they might be desperate to get away for a while.
I live in a flat, in a city, no garden etc. I also live with a family problem that's not going away anytime soon. Before the pandemic, my husband and I were able to escape for a couple of days every month, we can't do that now.
He's not struggling so much, but I am.

Holidays/trips to the seaside etc may be non-essential to you, but to me, they've saved me from going down a very dark road. I've had that taken away from me, and I'm fed up with it now. Especially with all the talk of 'vaccine passports'. I've had my first jab, my husband hasn't. I can see that even the breaks we've got planned for later this year might be at risk - that's really upsetting me. But, you stay on your high horse and tell us all that we're basically being tone deaf.
I don't even go abroad, we always stay in the UK - apparently I'm wrong for even wanting to do that?

@Silliantro

Um, I'm not saying never take holidays (I love holidays), but simply that they're not essential for your wellbeing. 1-2 years without a trip abroad from the pandemic shouldn't be a big deal and the whining about it has been off the charts. You know 80% of humanity manage fine without this extreme luxury?

If you need to holiday abroad to escape the brutal grind of your daily existence, you're really doing your life wrong. What's more grim than viewing your everyday life as something to endure with the desperate hope that a holiday will make you feel joy again?

You're a very smug person, aren't you? Your post makes me very angry. You have no empathy for other people. You don't know why they may be focusing on being cross about not being able to have a holiday. Maybe walk a mile in their shoes before you judge them so harshly. You might be surprised at what you learn.

Holidays aren't truly essential - if we are being totally frank only food, shelter and clothing are. However , that would be basic food, basic clothing and basic shelter. We can argue that nothing over the basics is essential, yet we don't live like that. Life is for living and we have now seen our lives ripped to bits - little things we took for granted have been destroyed, social interaction , hobbies, travel all gone. Whilst not essential to life all these are things are essential to living, I believe that the choice is essential, we have been denied that and if holidays are part of that choice to some individuals then yes they are essential

and for some of us who have a 'brutal daily grind' we simply do not have the luxury of choosing to change it.

Sorry OP. I am usually very interested in how others think (which is why I like MN), but you are close minded and smug and also quite arrogant to think that you have the key to life and how to live it. You may be fortunate to have agency over your own life and choices but many many many do not.

Nothing wrong with a trip to the seaside. I agree OP. Not necessary to travel abroad.

Sitting at home learning another language sounds a bloody awful dull life and I pity you and other fun police.

I learn lots at work which affords me money to spend on anything non essential and quite fancy a nice cocktail or two on a beach.

@blowinahoolie

Nothing wrong with a trip to the seaside. I agree OP. Not necessary to travel abroad.

Of course it’s necessary to travel abroad. How else are you going to embrace new cultures, expand your horizons, experience new foreign food and decor?

@emilyfrost

So what if it isn’t essential?

They can go without for a year or two during a pandemic, without it being a 3 act drama.

Serious lack of empathy here, OP.

Most people I know need a break for their mental health. Fair enough, going overseas is probably off-limits for most this year. But begrudging folks a day at the seaside is just bloody miserable.

Vaccines should reduce risks to manageable levels by the summer and, by that point, a low level of ongoing risk is just something we're all going to have to accept. For both social and economic reasons, we have to get e country back to some semblance of normality this year. I'm not spending another year cut off from my family.

I agree OP. The people whinging about holidays annoy me so much. I rarely go on holiday as I cannot afford it. It most certainly isn't the be all and end all. They come across as totally entitled brats.

I have stayed at home and learned a language this last year, my Spanish is no where near perfect however will certainly help me on future holidays.

Holidays to me are essential as they have a positive impact on my physical health, my disability and chronic pain much improve in hot countries and in my last GP appointment he recommended holiday as soon as they are legal.
I also love exploring new places and cultures, whilst that may not be an essential I think it’s definitely worthwhile?

Chocolate isn’t essential either but I still like to have it, people prioritise different things

If you need to holiday abroad to escape the brutal grind of your daily existence

@Silliantro your OP makes absolutely no mention of being specific to holidays abroad.

Does your OP only apply to people going abroad?

Is it OK to have a holiday in the UK then?