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to expect to have more disposable income than single mums claiming benefits

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newnails · 09/11/2007 20:21

i no longer know why me and dh bother, he works full time and i work part time so that i can juggle the child care.

i know of 3 single mums who stay near me who seem to have more money than i can dream of, out every weekend, always shopping and 2 of them manage to run cars.

i know the benefit system is needed by some people but it seems to be a complete joke these days, the wasters in this country are leading the life of reilly while the rest of us are left to slog our guts out to pay for there existence.

no doubt i will get flamed for this post but i have been out xmas shopping today trying to work to a budget then i stand next to these people at the school gates and hear about all the grants they are entitled to so they can buy xmas presents, one of them has even cut back the last 2 months and managed to save £800, it would take me bloody months to save that up.

ok rant over, deep down i am glad i am not one of these people and i do actually work for what i have but it still pisses me of.

OP posts:
ivykaty44 · 10/11/2007 19:45

If she is recieving maintenence and benifit she is on the fiddle - you can't have both. You get £10 of maintenence from the NRP if you are on benifit and it has to legally go through the goverment department.

ivykaty44 · 10/11/2007 19:47

So she needs reporting - this is stealing and she is stealing from tax payers money. When will you be reporting her?

nightowl · 10/11/2007 19:48

inthegutter, my posts are not about your opinions, dont take it personally, i have just replied to you a couple of times and then ranted about the whole thing in the same post!

mamazon · 10/11/2007 19:51

i was earning a shed load when i left my ex.

when i left i had to move into a refuge 80 miles away from work. i had no one to care for my children as we were in teh middle of no where.

i couldn't go back to my job as he would have been able to find me there.

i cannot work now as my son has SN and i no longer have teh support system around me to allow me to work in the job i love.

you cannot judge others by YOUR life

MALO · 10/11/2007 19:53

I'm actually quite envious of those on benefits.

My kids don't see their Dad from Monday morning through to Friday evening because he leaves at 6am and isn't home until well into the evening.

He is a very skilled guy in his job and works very hard. When he does get home he is so tired he's normally asleep before he has his tea.

I run around all week like a complete idiot - I'm in and out my front door all day with the kids and work and I also work weekends.

If I could choose I'd much rather have my dh at home more - with me and our kids enjoying quality time (ie when we're both wide awake and not permanently knackered)but we CHOOSE to work, hence why our lifestyle is the way it is and I know whilst we are always so short of money we would struggle even more if we chose to both become unemployed and we would, for a start, fall behind with our mortgage and lose our home.

KerryMum · 10/11/2007 19:55

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MALO · 10/11/2007 19:55

kerry:

onlyjoking9329 · 10/11/2007 19:56

Surely you are not envious of us
i don't mind swapping our situation with anyone

Bectheneck · 10/11/2007 19:56

By MALO

'This is why this country is full of people who CAN work and choose not to work because they are financially better off by not working and it is those people who I object to.'

Surely then it's the system that's wrong not as much fun objecting to that though I bet.

"If dh lost his job - he'd get another one! If we split up - I'd increase my hours at work and palm my kids off to various friends/family!!!!"

Nice to know that your life would adjust to any major change so easily as well. Just hope you never have to find out what it's really like.

Theclosetpagan · 10/11/2007 19:57

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"because I personally know of two other mums whose kids are at school, and therefore have the spare time during the day, who could work and choose not to because they are receiving more in benefits than they would in any job".

How sad that they have no option BUT to be on benefits. If the only way of earning enough to keep the roof over their heads, food on the table and the bills paid is by benefits then that is shocking. Any job should pay enough to make it worth coming OFF benefits. I think this says alot about how crappy the minimum wage is.

onlyjoking9329 · 10/11/2007 19:57

oh yes we know how to live

KerryMum · 10/11/2007 19:58

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inthegutter · 10/11/2007 19:59

For god's sake read my posts - the CHILDREN receive financial support from their father.

onlyjoking9329 · 10/11/2007 20:00

And that is the key thing you can't really know someones situation just by looking at them

edam · 10/11/2007 20:01

There were some reports recently about a study into happiness which showed that

KerryMum · 10/11/2007 20:02

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Bectheneck · 10/11/2007 20:02

You really don't have a clue do you inthegutter?

You think the DSS don't count maintenance as income just because it's for the children? If the absent parent pays maintenance and the parent with care is on benefit then the PWC will only keep £10 of it.

inthegutter · 10/11/2007 20:02

No but you can know what they tell you. Ivykaty44 - if I have clear evidence that someone is committing a crime then of course i would report them.

MALO · 10/11/2007 20:03

OJ - I'd rather hoped you knew me better than that? x

mamazon · 10/11/2007 20:03

we CHOOSE to work, hence why our lifestyle is the way it is and I know whilst we are always so short of money we would struggle even more if we chose to both become unemployed and we would, for a start, fall behind with our mortgage and lose our home.

So why do you say that these people choose to stay on benefits? you state that those on benefits live a life of riley and yet here you say that youw ould struggle.

i think you need to think about your position properly.
you either feel teh benefit system is a soft touch and we are all having a great time or that (as is more the fact) we are all struggling and have to go rummaging through car boot sales to cloth our kids.

KerryMum · 10/11/2007 20:04

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inthegutter · 10/11/2007 20:04

Thanks for that Bectheneck.I don't know their care/custody arrangements. I know the children are at the woman's house a lot and sleep there quite often. I know they stay with their father quite regularly. I know they also stay with another relative quite regularly. OK???

KerryMum · 10/11/2007 20:05

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MALO · 10/11/2007 20:07

Bectheneck - I'm not saying it'd be easy to get another job etc etc but I'd be determined to do so - is there any harm in that? I'd try my hardest to cope on my own and if it means asking family and friends to help me out then I will and if the help isn't there then I'd find a job that would fit around my kids schooling etc etc. Where there is a will...there is a way!

nightowl · 10/11/2007 20:07

lol!

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