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To be expected to clean poo skid marks from my kids toilet???

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Mylittlepea · 01/04/2021 21:03

ALL THE BLOODY TIME????

Clearly I need to get out more (but.......Wink) I lost it today with a big shouty rant........the DC have a family bathroom that generally me & DH don’t use so I know my DD15 or DS10 had a massive dump in this toilet without cleaning up with the loo brush & bleach afterwards. It’s like they sit sideways or something and deliberately aim at the side of the bowl instead of the water.

This is a daily occurrence and neither is owning up to it. I’m on leave from work this week and I’ve been keeping busy sorting the garden, spending time with them but also slaving away like a f**g maid tidying the kitchen, serving up endless meals and snacks and picking up crap as I go. DH is brilliant around the house and has been doing some huge DIY jobs so no worries there.

AIBU to expect the little darlings to help out a bit. The skidmarks have pushed me over the edge so I’m now self medicating with wine....

OP posts:
HamFisted · 01/04/2021 21:09

Whoever is doing it is probably not checking the toilet after they've flushed so genuinely doesn't know it's them. They put the lid down, presume the flush will take care of any residue and walk away without checking.

Short of becoming a cartoon-esque villain with an unhealthy obsession who lurks on the landing outside the bathroom in order to pounce on those leaving with a shriek of, 'Is the toilet clean?!' I don't know what the answer is.

PinkingScissors · 01/04/2021 21:12

Your situation reminds me of this

arethereanyleftatall · 01/04/2021 21:14

So often when I read things on mn I think I must be really strict! I wouldn't tolerate that whatsoever, and haven't since they were 5 or 6 years old. Disgusting.

MouseInCatsClaws · 01/04/2021 21:16

Hmmm. The 15 year old should be well able to clean that up. A 10 year old, I'd have more patience with. Maybe make it part of the bedtime routine? Brush teeth, squirt bleach in the loo? Not sure, I am a completely indentured slave to my 4 kids under ten, so might be too accepting of toilet awfulness

MouseInCatsClaws · 01/04/2021 21:17

@PinkingScissors that video made me sad for those lovely kids

HotPenguin · 01/04/2021 21:20

You may not want them to use bleach, but why not provide some washing up liquid? Teach them to check the loo after flushing, if there are skid marks apply washing up liquid/ flush again/ use brush.

HeckyPeck · 01/04/2021 21:21

I would send them back in to clean it every time.

They're both old enough to clean up their own poo!

And to do other chores too.

Cocomarine · 01/04/2021 21:24

If they blame each other, make them responsible every other day each for cleaning it. If one of them gets unlucky with the other child’s skid marks, they’ll give their sibling shit far more effectively than a “nagging” parent.

15 and 10 both old enough to clean a loo 🤷🏻‍♀️

No way would I be doing it.

dementedma · 01/04/2021 21:28

The woman in that video is gross.

ColourfulElmerElephant · 01/04/2021 21:31

It’s their bathroom, so leave them to deal with it.

crankycow80 · 01/04/2021 21:32

That woman is awful - swearing at her children and being so aggressive, poor girls.

KingdomScrolls · 01/04/2021 21:34

What expectations have you and your husband had of them growing up? Surely if regular chores had always been part of their routine they'd be used to it by now? Why are you constantly making snacks and picking up after children of that age? Just stop doing it

mrurddhasabitpart · 01/04/2021 21:37

I too read this and think perhaps I'm too strict? Mine are 8 and 10 and we're taught from 5 onward how to deal with this. I can't remember the last time I had to clean others shit. It's disgusting and such a basic skill. Prior to marrying dh, I ruled partners out based on three markers- one was whether they ever left my toilet dirtier than they found it, and expected me to sort it. It's a trait that lacks basic self dignity, basic consideration and respect of others and betrays a huge sense of entitlement imo. Yanbu.

ThatsNotTheTeaHunty · 01/04/2021 21:58

[quote PinkingScissors]Your situation reminds me of this

[/quote] DISGOOSTANG.

That video never fails to make me laugh.

In the word from IceCube "Chickity-check yo self before you wreck yo self." ✋ 🎤.

Honestly OP that's actually rank and I wouldn't clean their skidders. I'd make them do it.

fizbosshoes · 01/04/2021 22:08

my DC are 11 and 14 and Ive never expected them to clean to the toilet (even though I very rarely use the family bathroom)
The only bathroom related chore they are expected to do is that DD(14) is expected to either tell me, or (preferably) empty the bathroom bin

WhereYouLeftIt · 01/04/2021 22:11

They are fifteen and ten - plenty old enough to be cleaning up after themselves.

I'd be standing both of them in the loo whilst I took them through the new, compulsory, instructions.

  1. Put lid down.
  2. Flush.
  3. Lift toiled lid and inspect pan.
  4. Clean side of pan with toilet paper if necessary and return to step 1.
  5. if toilet is clean, wash hands and leave.

And then I'd put a big poster on the wall behind the loo with those instructions, possibly in the form of a flowchart. And maybe a second copy on the door so they see it before they leave the room.

Take no shitGrin from them on this point.

smallgoon · 01/04/2021 22:18

Do people actually have a loo brush? The thought of them make me want to barf.

AlCalavicci · 01/04/2021 22:25

A good tip to stop it from sticking is to wet the bowl 1st , DS can pee CARFULY around the bowl to wet it all ,DD will need a cup / jug or they could just flush it 1st but that it wasteful of water.
I learnt this trick when visiting friends that did not have a brush , or any other obvious ways to clean skid marks

icelollycraving · 01/04/2021 22:28

The woman on that video is bloody horrible. Poor kids.
Ds has bowel and bladder issues and I’m used to cleaning up after him. He’s same age as your youngest. Doesn’t bother me particularly. He has a go but I wouldn’t let him use bleach etc.
At 15, I’d be less tolerant.

rosegoldivy · 01/04/2021 22:28

[quote PinkingScissors]Your situation reminds me of this

[/quote] DISSSGUSSSSTTTAAANNN

that video has honestly changed the way anyone Scottish says disgusting.
Cracks me up every time. 🤣🤣🤣

masterofthechef · 01/04/2021 22:29

if it is everyday , i would be seriously looking at getting more fibre in their diet .

HoppingPavlova · 01/04/2021 22:33

I couldn’t get disturbed personally. We had a toilet only the kids used when they were young. I just used to go in hazmat style once a week and clean it with boiling water, bleach etc. They were the ones that had to put up with the filth for 6 days as they caused it. I was a very busy working parent but it was way quicker doing it that way than constantly checking it and nagging and having them all blame each other and fight over it.

onlythewildones · 01/04/2021 22:39

That video was so sad :( I honestly don't get what's funny about it?!

Anyway. From the time my kids are old enough to wipe their bums they are taught to clean the loo after themselves. DD7 and DS4 both always leave the toilet clean. If they can do it then yours definitely, definitely can!

MrsJBaptiste · 01/04/2021 22:39

@smallgoon

Do people actually have a loo brush? The thought of them make me want to barf.
Absofuckinglutely 🤢

But it's a divided issue on MN...

m0therofdragons · 01/04/2021 22:41

Honestly, my 9 year olds don’t even flush - drives me nuts but I don’t know who it is and yelling doesn’t make a difference!