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To be expected to clean poo skid marks from my kids toilet???

69 replies

Mylittlepea · 01/04/2021 21:03

ALL THE BLOODY TIME????

Clearly I need to get out more (but.......Wink) I lost it today with a big shouty rant........the DC have a family bathroom that generally me & DH don’t use so I know my DD15 or DS10 had a massive dump in this toilet without cleaning up with the loo brush & bleach afterwards. It’s like they sit sideways or something and deliberately aim at the side of the bowl instead of the water.

This is a daily occurrence and neither is owning up to it. I’m on leave from work this week and I’ve been keeping busy sorting the garden, spending time with them but also slaving away like a f**g maid tidying the kitchen, serving up endless meals and snacks and picking up crap as I go. DH is brilliant around the house and has been doing some huge DIY jobs so no worries there.

AIBU to expect the little darlings to help out a bit. The skidmarks have pushed me over the edge so I’m now self medicating with wine....

OP posts:
JackieTheFart · 01/04/2021 22:45

My action of choice when one of my boys does something disgusting, is to shout them to the bathroom - all three of them - and make them clean it. I don't care who cleans it, I don't actually care really who's made the mess, but someone needs to clean it and it won't be me.

They don't like being rousted from Fortnite to clean their own mess so it doesn't happen often!

tinseloatcake · 01/04/2021 22:46

Am I really the only one who couldn't be interested in this. Whoever cleans the bathroom cleans the loo. I wouldn't even notice a skid.

That said my kids are much younger and they know how to clean up after themselves and get their own snacks.

Passthecake30 · 01/04/2021 22:49

I’ve carted my two back to the loo before (11&12) and explained how to use the toilet brush (yes I know...!) and the skids have reduced, I think I embarrassed them, but it worked.

StrawBeretMoose · 01/04/2021 22:50

@Mylittlepea I don't understand why you're cleaning it (or fetching all the snacks) , I would leave it for them to at least scrub the sides of the loo.
I used to be a private tutor in a lovely home but the kids' bathroom could sometimes have an unpleasant surprise like that!

@mrurddhasabitpart you sound very wise, can I be nosey and ask what were the other two deal breakers?

OysterMonkey · 01/04/2021 22:55

If they have their own bathroom they can take alternate responsibility to clean it (every weekend) and the loo (daily). Never too early to start taking responsibility for cleaning their own shit (literally). 😂

MiddlesexGirl · 01/04/2021 23:02

@masterofthechef

if it is everyday , i would be seriously looking at getting more fibre in their diet .
Ime more fibre means more skid marks.
dottiedaisee · 01/04/2021 23:04

TBH I actually really don’t care who is the culprit...I just give the loo a good clean daily...life is too short to care !

user20211 · 01/04/2021 23:07

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This is awful and sad. Poor kids Sad

Gwenhwyfar · 01/04/2021 23:09

@smallgoon

Do people actually have a loo brush? The thought of them make me want to barf.
You know very well that people have loo brushes as you must have seen them in houses, public toilets and for sale in shops. I hope you're not trying to start another argument about it.

OP - doesn't it mean too much fat in the diet?

Hotelhelp · 01/04/2021 23:12

Skid marks has to be one of the most awful phrases known to man

mrurddhasabitpart · 01/04/2021 23:19

Strawberetmouse- I'm not wise, but the other two are - send him to get super tampons. If he can't/ won't/ squirms- he's a child and or misogynist. Drop.
How does he treat barmaids/ waiters/ waitresses. How you treat those that serve you , is more about you than them. Imo you can learn a lot about how a person treats those that serve them.

Sceptre86 · 01/04/2021 23:19

I think this is an overreaction. You aren't doing anything millions of other parents don't do. Yes at 10 and 15 they are old enough to clean the loo but have you or your dh ever taught them how? If not start, make a rota so they each clean the bathroom and then check to see of they are. At 10 and 15 they can also grab their own snacks. Maybe you and your dh need to sit down with them and give them a chore list and set out your expectations?

Credenhill22 · 01/04/2021 23:23

3rd world problem.
Get a grip.
Is that you're biggest gripe about you're kids?
What amazing kids they sound.

FinallyFluid · 01/04/2021 23:28

My DH is pretty good these days, DS even better.

We use a Steradent tablet, leave it a few moments and a toilet brush.

When DH and I first started living together, he was very badly house trained, we had guests one weekend...............

I had checked the bathroom before they arrived, sparkling (see Steradent) they hadn't needed the bathroom, I did, I went up to have a wee and it was not clean.

I went down and said to DH, C& J have only just arrived, they haven't used the bathroom yet, neither have I, it was sparkling half an hour ago..........we will be on the patio having a drink, see you when you are done.

It didn't happen again for years........... Grin

Italiangreyhound · 01/04/2021 23:29

I use these...

Duck Toilet Fresh Brush

RedcurrantPuff · 01/04/2021 23:30

We only have one toilet in the house and I am so fed up of skid marks. That’s what comes of living with 3 males I guess. 🤬

Workinghardeveryday · 01/04/2021 23:33

My 10 year olds do well to flush, no way would I trust them with bleach!!!! My 15 year old flushes but wouldn’t consider bleaching the loo.
Maybe I am old fashioned and probably get abuse for saying but I don’t think it’s a kids job to clean the toilet!! 15 year olds with loo brush yes, bleach mum job...

mathanxiety · 01/04/2021 23:34

Give them an every-other-day rota for loo cleaning. Teach them how to clean up after themselves.

Put snacks in a snack box on the counter and one in the fridge. You could have sliced bread, deli meats, cheese, fruit, yogurt for them to snack on. When it's gone, it's gone.

They are both old enough to get their own snacks and clear up afterwards. You don't need to supervise or act the kitchen maid.
They can take turns cleaning up the kitchen too.

They are also old enough to rinse all the plates and glasses, etc they use and put them all in the dishwasher.

Also old enough not to put empty containers of milk, etc back in the fridge, and to add items to a family shopping list.

Twintub · 01/04/2021 23:40

My DH insists on loo brush I know he uses it all the time how the hell is he aiming ? I rarely need to do it but I prefer toilet paper than stinky loo brush barf the ONLY good thing is DS is equally unable to aim bit has been taught by bloody DH to use the disgusting loo brush. So it think your kids can do it :-)

mathanxiety · 01/04/2021 23:42

We only have one toilet in the house and I am so fed up of skid marks. That’s what comes of living with 3 males I guess.

Stop enabling this selfish and entitled behaviour.

Boys and even men are able to learn to use a loo brush and mop up splashes of pee. Tell them what is acceptable and what will happen if you find people are not making the effort. Do you cook/grocery shop/meal plan? Wash clothes for them? Make sure they have what they need for school or work or sport? They need to be made aware of all the work you do for them and stop taking you for granted. Stop doing all the work that they rely on if they are not going to contribute.

Don't throw your hands up in the air and leave it to some girl now growing up to spend a lifetime cleaning up after your sons.

alexdgr8 · 01/04/2021 23:47

but why do you make yourself a servant to your children generally.
you can hardly expect them to be responsible in this way now if you have not brought them up to be responsible for daily chores around the house.

Mango101 · 02/04/2021 00:00

@RedcurrantPuff

We only have one toilet in the house and I am so fed up of skid marks. That’s what comes of living with 3 males I guess. 🤬
You're suggesting this is a thing restricted to males ?!
OysterMonkey · 02/04/2021 00:11

@RedcurrantPuff

We only have one toilet in the house and I am so fed up of skid marks. That’s what comes of living with 3 males I guess. 🤬
No it doesn’t. Males can clean up their own shit too.
OysterMonkey · 02/04/2021 00:15

@Workinghardeveryday

My 10 year olds do well to flush, no way would I trust them with bleach!!!! My 15 year old flushes but wouldn’t consider bleaching the loo. Maybe I am old fashioned and probably get abuse for saying but I don’t think it’s a kids job to clean the toilet!! 15 year olds with loo brush yes, bleach mum job...
Oh come on. I was working in a hotel at 13/14, cleaning bedrooms and bathrooms etc.... I’m sure you can trust your own kid to clean the loo in their own house. Use Toilet Duck and a loo brush if you don’t trust them to squirt bleach accurately. (🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️)
youvegottenminuteslynn · 02/04/2021 00:17

@RedcurrantPuff

We only have one toilet in the house and I am so fed up of skid marks. That’s what comes of living with 3 males I guess. 🤬
But why tolerate this?!

Having a penis doesn't mean you can't clean up after yourself.

This is teaching boys that it's a woman's job to clean up a man's shit.