Aibu to find this a bit odd from bf?

[Tatiana30]

Feel free to tell me if I'm being a bit over the top.
Boyfriend and i live together but also spend some time alone which is important. He's really good at communicating usually.
We usually drop each other a text to say what time we're back roughly, arrangements for tea etc.

He went on a walk today with a male friend who he's not seen since last year apparently, it's an hour away, think they've met up halfway.

I texted him something short at 10am and not had any reply.

Still isn't back or said anything at all all day which is weird. Obviously wouldn't expect someone to be with their friend and spend their time texting me, everybody needs a break, but nothing to even say he's gonna be back late etc.
We usually have tea around 6.

They've been somewhere in the countryside but it's pitch black now and I'm thinking what would they be doing at this time, there's nowhere to go? No pubs etc.

I've never met this friend but he seems a bit off to me, I can't explain it but I saw my boyfriend and him messaging on messenger once and there was just something off in the way he was writing, it sounds so ridiculous I know.

He went for a walk yesterday with another friend and he seemed like a cool guy, he was back after about 3-4 hours.

Just something feels off?

It's been a gorgeous day today in most parts of the country.

So he’s driving under the influence of drugs potentially? Also your relationship doesn’t sound like a relationship to me. Why on earth would you not have just text him and asked when he’d be home. This is really weird.

Why are you tiptoeing around this guy?

You live together. It's OK to ask him questions, it's OK to expect him to be reliable and in contact if you two already have that pattern established.

Sounds like you've been around too many men who treat you like shit then gaslight you into thinking you're a nagging harpy for mentioning it.

OP you’ve been watching way too much Poirot. Most people just call or text their boyfriends if they want to know what’s going on.

The important thing is that he is OK, hasn't had an accident or been lost on the moors or something.

@Tatiana30

Ok.. thanks.

Is there a sign that someone's been smoking weed ? Apart from the smell, I recall coursemates who did it had red eyes but is there anything else?

Well as PP have said how did you know the person you used to date smoked it daily if you have to ask this?

OP why are you scared to speak with your own boyfriend?

If you wouldn't even call to ask him what time he will be home I highly doubt you'll ask him if he's been doing drugs.

I think you’re suspicious for other reasons.

I think your lack of ability to communicate confidently and openly with your boyfriend about today’s events is the bigger issue than whatever has actually gone on today.
Why are you worrying about phoning him, why can’t you ask him questions? All the guesswork is ridiculous.

I’m so confused as to where the drug taking part came from

a bit too bohemian

What's the outcome?

This is bizarre. Your boyfriend went and met up with a friend they have not seen for a while. He’s been out for several hours. Instead of thinking he has just been caught up in catching up you have kept to the fact he is off his head on pot and possibly pills and don’t trust he would be honest with you. If I was him I would rethink this relationship as you sound like a suspicious, controlling nutter. If I were you I would rethink the relationship as you don’t appear to be able to trust him.

I feel like I needed this nonsensical thread today.

How utterly bizarre.

OP are you sure you haven’t been dabbling in extracurriculars today?!? I’d say the signs of smoking weed are paranoia, not making sense, and other things, so just about most of what you’ve posted here