To not let him eat McDonald's everyday?

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I know I'm bu but I'm posting here for traffic

My grandson is 18 and lives with us. Ever since he was young he's been a fussy eater and when he was at secondary school he never ate breakfast (he'd occasionally have toast) and he wouldn't eat any lunch but he would always eat anything I cooked for dinner. And he'd always eat a Sunday roast without any problems. Lockdown last year he didn't eat much in a day but he would always eat dinner. He went back to college and he was the same as before. Recently he's wanted McDonald's everyday for dinner and he says he 'doesn't like' what I cook even though he previously ate it. Today he said he doesn't want a Sunday roast for dinner and he wants McDonald's. I've said no (he said he doesn't have any money so I'd be paying for it) and he said he won't eat then. I obviously want him to eat and he is underweight but I don't want him to only eat McDonald's! When I asked what he does like he says he doesn't know

I'm at my wits end!

You need to stick to your guns. A MacDonald's diet is very very unhealthy. If he is hungry he will eat, he is trying to blackmail you. Stay strong.

As above, leave his Sunday roast on a plate, he'll eat if he's hungry.

There are clearly some sensory issues going on here. If you can get him to eat a roast I'd be doing roasts about 3x a week! He is entitled to bodily autonomy but he can't expect you to be buying fast food multiple times a week. It is hard as some young people won't eat if they can't have "safe" food, but it seems as if his "safe" list is getting shorter.

@Love51

There are clearly some sensory issues going on here. If you can get him to eat a roast I'd be doing roasts about 3x a week! He is entitled to bodily autonomy but he can't expect you to be buying fast food multiple times a week. It is hard as some young people won't eat if they can't have "safe" food, but it seems as if his "safe" list is getting shorter.

What a load of shit. Sensory issues?

He is just being an 18 yo pushing his luck op. Stick with what you are doing and do not give him money for McDonald's.

He's an adult. Unless there are special needs in the picture, I would pitch it like: I'll be having x for dinner, let me know if you want me to cook for you or if you are sorting your own dinner.

He needs to watch the film Supersize Me; if he's got any sense, he'll soon snap out of craving such revolting food.

Get him to watch Supersize Me and he'll change his mind on McDonalds every day.

YANBU to not spend your own money buying him takeaways. Of course you can't stop him spending his money when he has it.

At 18 he should be cooking for the family regularly.

Of course he can't eat McDonald's every day. Every kid in the land would like to eat McDonald's every day (cue anecdotes of children who only eat broccoli and lentils). Tough. He can't.
'I'm making lasagne. Do you want any?' And then, your input is complete.

Why are people saying make him watch supersize me? This is just an 18yo lad being a dick, op never said he was overweight ffs.

My teens would eat Mc Donalds every day too if they could but not allowed of course, there must be other food he can eat as Mcd all the time is unhealthy, and you can pay out for it every day!

Bollox . Leave the dinner on a plate or he can make his own money. Seriously,whining at 18 to your grandmother for a McDonald's. The embarrassment.

Why not ask him to design a menu for the week with home cooked meals that he can he can learn to cook himself. He could actually do a lot of home cooked versions of Mac Donald’s meals with a healthy twist

And hes telling you he wont eat,to make u feel guilty and give in. Hes using the tactics of a small child..
If you do give in and go...buy him a happy meal. Kids get kids meals

He's 18, he can go buy himself whatever he wants. But I wouldn't be bringing it for.him or paying.

Also educating him so that he understands long term health implications is important so that he can make educated decisions.

Sounds like an eating disorder.

Tell him to do the cooking and menu planning. Tell him not to be so rude and ungrateful.
If he wants takeaway continually, he needs to buy it himself with money he has earned. Even then he needs to be courteous.

My ds is fussy with food and goes in and off things (he's autistic)

What I find when he goes through the "just want McDonald's/kfc" etc stage is to mirror those meals at home.

So I make him the 5% fat burgers with some fries and salad sticks, egg and bacon muffin or a chicken wrap.

Or we have pippin chicken from supermarket with veg sticks and coleslaw.

It works for us so he gets what he fancies without the cost or the empty calories of fast food.

Honestly op just laugh, tell him he has more chance of being bitten by a daffodil and dont give it ant more head space,

@SpacePotato

Sounds like an eating disorder.

Get a grip.

What does he cook? At 18 he's old enough to do menu planning, food shopping and cooking.

Yanbu. He can't eat burgers every day.

@itsgettingwierd

My ds is fussy with food and goes in and off things (he's autistic)

What I find when he goes through the "just want McDonald's/kfc" etc stage is to mirror those meals at home.

So I make him the 5% fat burgers with some fries and salad sticks, egg and bacon muffin or a chicken wrap.

Or we have pippin chicken from supermarket with veg sticks and coleslaw.

It works for us so he gets what he fancies without the cost or the empty calories of fast food.

He's 18 not a toddler!

You can give him the choice of whatever you are cooking or going without.

If he wants McDonald's every day, tell him to pay for his own heart attack.

Stick to your guns.

What’s the back story here?

If he has food issues he’s an adult now and old enough to make his own decisions about what he eats BUT equally it’s his problem to fund his own bad eating habits.

If he won’t eat what’s on offer at home let him figure it out for himself don’t let him guilt trip you into buying macdonalds everyday