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To want to drink my own drink?

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shoutyshouter · 28/03/2021 12:57

Please tell me I'm not the only one who's husband constantly drinks their drinks?
It drives me absolutely bloody mental.
I'll make a pint of squash, have a few gulps, leave it on the side and 20 minutes later it's all gone with just an empty glass left.
I open a can of coke and will have a few sips, an hour later it will be empty in the recycling bin.
His excuse for 10 years has been "well I only wanted a few sips" or "I didn't want a whole one"
This happens at least 3 times a day and I am literally at the end of my tether.
Stop drinking my bloody drinks Angry

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SummaLuvin · 28/03/2021 12:59

maybe put in a dash of vinegar

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shoutyshouter · 28/03/2021 12:59

If I catch him in the act then he'll act like I'm making a fuss over nothing, because he'll make me another drink.
We have at least 12 glasses and 3 bottles of squash in the cupboard.
Make your own drink and leave mine alone.

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activitythree · 28/03/2021 13:00

YANBU. It's not even about the drink at this stage. He is not listening to or respecting you.

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shoutyshouter · 28/03/2021 13:01

I don't know how he copes all day at work, having to make his own drinks.
Maybe he just takes swigs from his co-workers cups throughout the day Hmm

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LittleGreenGoblin · 28/03/2021 13:03

I can see how it would be annoying, but it would also annoy me if my husband left glasses of drink sat around for 1 hour plus. The squash wouldn't really bother me because I'd rather have a fresh one instead of one that's been sat out in a warm kitchen for 20 mins. The coke would annoy me if it's the last one but likewise - wouldn't you prefer another straight from the fridge that's still fizzy instead of one that's been sat out for an hour?

WeatherwaxLives · 28/03/2021 13:03

When he says 'I didn't want a whole one' do you say 'well I did!'? Do you ask him to make you another squash / get you another can? I presume he's doing it because it's easier for him to drink yours than get his own, so make it so it's not easier?

And no, my DP doesn't drink my drinks. He does many very irritating things, but not that.

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shoutyshouter · 28/03/2021 13:06

I just leave one glass of squash in the kitchen at the back of the worktop. I like to sip throughout the day!
I do tell him that I wanted a whole drink and then he will replace it.
But it's the principle of having to ask him 5 times a day to make me a new drink because he's drank mine. It's very very irritating after 10 years of it!

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SummaLuvin · 28/03/2021 13:06

@LittleGreenGoblin

I can see how it would be annoying, but it would also annoy me if my husband left glasses of drink sat around for 1 hour plus. The squash wouldn't really bother me because I'd rather have a fresh one instead of one that's been sat out in a warm kitchen for 20 mins. The coke would annoy me if it's the last one but likewise - wouldn't you prefer another straight from the fridge that's still fizzy instead of one that's been sat out for an hour?
Why would it annoy you that your husband took an hour to finish his drink? I regularly take 1-2hours to finish drinks. Yes, they are a bit warmer, and if they are carbonated less fizzy, but since I'm not forcing anyone else to have my slightly warm and flat Fanta I don't see why they would take issue.
Exhausted4ever · 28/03/2021 13:14

I'd have lost the plot with him 9.9 years ago

Biancadelrioisback · 28/03/2021 13:25

Ah DH and I do this to each other. Unless the glass is with the other person ie at their desk, on bedside table etc then we'd ask for a sip, but if it's in the kitchen or living room, it's fair game

WisestIsShe · 28/03/2021 13:28

He is BU. Although in our house if one person is getting a drink and the other is about we offer to get them one too. Would that help?

SomeWittyName · 28/03/2021 13:30

Yes, he thinks every glass of water in the house is his. Which also means that when he's taken mine away, there are often no clean pint glasses left as he will get a new one, forget the ones he already has. I've bought more glasses to compensate, it hasn't helped. He used to get annoyed if I tell him he's taken my water. After 14 years together, he now sometimes remembers to say "is that my water or yours?"

Honestly thought I was on my own with this one, it's amazing to me that someone else has a similar issue!

Fortunefavours1 · 28/03/2021 13:30

Put a post it note on your drink 'get your own bloody drink'. Yes you shouldn't have to, but here you are.

I don't know how you've put up with this for so many years. It's disrespectful and entitled on his part.

cooldarkroom · 28/03/2021 13:33

put salt in it.... he's a lazy tosser

Mellonsprite · 28/03/2021 13:36

This is very weird to me.... I wouldn’t want to drink out if anyone’s drink. It’s just a bit bluergh!
He should 100% leave your drinks alone!

CoffeeBeansGalore · 28/03/2021 13:38

Get a metal water bottle & keep it in the same spot whether or not it has a drink in it. Your drink will stay fresher & he probably won't realise it is there. Hidden in plain sight 😊

londongirl12 · 28/03/2021 13:38

Make a glass of juice and put a load of salt in it. That'll teach him. I would be so pissed off!!

Beautiful3 · 28/03/2021 13:39

Mine doesnt drink my drinks, but always throws them away and washes up. Because it's been an hour!!! I like to sip water through out the day and have a can of pop at the weekend! Had half a can tipped away!!!

ButIcantsitonleather · 28/03/2021 13:41

Put Tabasco in the next one. Stir it through. Leave it. Report back with the results.

NotSorry · 28/03/2021 13:42

I’d have to hide it - it would drive me mad too

YANBU OP

linerforlife · 28/03/2021 13:43

We have our own drinks bottles to avoid this. One litre sized, with flip up straws, used for drinking squash throughout the day (we have different ones for water for by the bed at night). Therefore your DH can't claim he only wanted a "bit" of a drink as he will have his own litre bottle made up with squash available all the time!

Justilou1 · 28/03/2021 13:46

Eeeew! Doesn’t he know there’s a pandemic??? 😱😱😱😆😆😆

ineedaholidayandwine · 28/03/2021 13:50

I would also make a drink and put something in, vinegar/salt/hot sauce.
I also second the metal insulated bottles, i have one and it's great, stays cold for hours!

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 28/03/2021 13:54

Laxatives

MizMoonshine · 28/03/2021 13:56

My DP finished my bottle of water once when I was pregnant.
I kicked up such a stink he went out, bought 80l of water and hasn't touched my drink since.

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