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Have I left it too late?

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Needsleeeeepsendheeeelp · 27/03/2021 18:34

Not really an AIBU, but. I have a 5mo baby, and for various reasons I haven't got round to arranging thank you cards to send out to people that sent gifts etc. The thought of not sending them doesn't sit well with me, but I've put it off for so long that I'm worried that people will just find it weird getting a thank you card after so long.

So... Would you find it weird? Or would you appreciate it just as much after such a long time has passed?

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saraclara · 28/03/2021 19:30

Yes, everyone who sent a present got a personal thank you text, and when baby has worn an outfit or started using a toy (for example) I've sent a message to the sender as an extra acknowledgement

That's plenty! There's no way I'd expect anything more from new parents. Life is hectic, and it's not like they'll have spent wedding present type money. If I've sent a new mum a babygro and some nice shower stuff, I won't expect anything more than a thank you text. And a photo of baby in the clothing would just be a nice bonus.

TurquoiseDragon · 28/03/2021 19:31


You’ve already thanked them all personally and sent a photo, definitely no need to send a thank you card as well. I would find it odd to receive a thank you card after 5 months if I’d already been thanked and been sent a photo since giving the gift.

Same here.
LookAChicken · 28/03/2021 19:31

Most people will understand.

LookAChicken · 28/03/2021 19:32

Your messages are enough for all but the most traditional.

Lanique · 28/03/2021 19:44

I'm quite old fashioned about these things but even I would be happy with a personal (not group) text to say thank you. I would see any follow-up photos as a delightful bonus. It sounds like you've done enough. If you feel there are certain (older?) relatives or friends that you feel would appreciate a letter, especially if you're not likely to see them for ages, then perhaps send them something. But anyone else, just say something in person next time you see them!

Apatosaurus20 · 15/03/2022 17:53

Ahh this is me now with an almost 5 month old baby and only half written thank you cards! I’m almost there and I’ve just stumbled across your post, I’m so relieved it isn’t just me!

Also, if anyone reads this, which I doubt they will a year on, I’ve got to write a thank you card for my work department, I work in a very small team (me and my boss really) in a big department (approx 100 people), most of whom I no longer know or have close relationships with due to working from home and lots of movement in the last year or two. I was gifted £100 voucher very kindly and want to thank those who contributed meaning any thank you will go to the whole department - I am not sure what wording to use as it will be shared with lots of people I don’t know (I’ve already done personal thank yous to those colleagues who have given me gifts directly and my boss). Any advice on wording greatly received!

DoWhatYouLike · 15/03/2022 18:15

It's not weird and not too late to send Thank You notes. The people who bought things will be glad to get a note and a photo of your baby.

I sent a couple of really lovely (not cheap) outfits to my husband's relative when their baby was born last October. We didn't even get a text, which I think is really rude.

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