I would be grateful if some of you would gently (I've just been diagnosed with depression) tell me if I am being unreasonable. For the last few weeks, DH and I have planned a Friday night date night but each time, we have a meal, sit down for a cuddle and then DH either falls asleep or announces he is off to bed (in a very matter of fact way, not a suggestive 'come to bed with me' way). Then as soon as his head hits the pillow he's asleep, around 10.30. We haven't DTD for two weeks when it's usually at least twice a week.
I understand he works hard, but I can't help but feel rejected that he can't be bothered to stay awake for quality time just once a week. With my depression at the moment I rarely get more than 4 or 5 hours of sleep, whereas he gets 8 hrs uninterrupted. I'm tired, but I value the time with my DH more.
I tried to explain respectfully that it upsets me when he falls asleep so early on a date night but then he turned his back to me and mumbled sleepily that I always complain about everything and so he doesn't care anymore. He's gone to sleep now but I feel so upset as he knows I have been recently diagnosed with depression and have really been struggling to be optimistic.
AIBU to feel he should be making an effort for intimacy (eg. chatting or massage or sex) together on a Friday night or should I just accept that I'm obviously not very good company at the moment and leave him to it?
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PurplePeach83 · 27/03/2021 00:08
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Am I being unreasonable?
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You are being unreasonable
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You are NOT being unreasonable
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