I don’t want mummy to come

[Helookslikeamuppet]

Got period today so realising I’m probably being completely ridiculous/over sensitive...was upstairs getting ready to go for a walk with Dp, dog and toddler Dd when heard her say to dp ‘I don’t want mummy to come for a walk, I want her to stay at home and not come, I don’t want her to come, only daddy’
Was just a bit sad 🙈12 hours per day doing everything and the dad sweeps in and always gets all the glory!

It was probably for some really superficial reason. Toddler logic. I'd much rather be sitting at home eating nachos than going for a walk with a toddler so I think you had a lucky escape there OP .

Today I decided to finish work early and go with DH on the school run as a fun surprise for the kids. As soon as DS (7) saw me he burst into tears and said he didn't want me there. Apparently when it's just daddy on the school run DS is allowed to sit in the front seat of the car. Bloody charming.

I was just (most likely) being overly sensitive/paranoid as Dp and I haven’t been getting on and hoping she’s not sensed any awkwardness etc 🤷🏻‍♀️

Toddlers are gits. Someone I worked with got a 'I don't need you anymore Mummy' on the first day she dropped him off at school and he walked in the gates.

When I was heavily pregnant and had got in from a hard day at work, my then 2 year old literally barred me from the house and wouldn't let me through the door (my mum had been looking after her). I cried and went and sat in my car.

She's 11 now and all is good 😌

My toddler told me I was very squashy with hair like candy floss... so that’s great

Did you give her the wrong colour cup earlier op? 🤪🤪

Yeah, they're such delights sometimes. 😒

DS spent a lot of time today asking me when his dad could take him to the park while he was in the park with me. He also said DH was better at pushing him on the swing than me while I was pushing him on the swing. So much gratitude.

My two year old will cheerfully shout "bye Mummy!!" or "bye Daddy!!" and shut the door in our faces when he wants one of us to go away. What a delight.

Woohoo jump for joy, run a bath and crack open a bottle of wine!

Honestly I dream of hearing these words, I even encourage not inviting mummy along 😂

Don’t take it personally. Kids say these things, it’s nothing against you x

When one of my DSs was little he was inconsolable after someone said he looked like me, sobbing and yelling "I don't want to look like mummy, I want to look like daddy, it's not fair" etc etc for a long time! Charming All good now - but I do remind him sometimes

@SootyandSweepAsleep

When I was heavily pregnant and had got in from a hard day at work, my then 2 year old literally barred me from the house and wouldn't let me through the door (my mum had been looking after her). I cried and went and sat in my car.

She's 11 now and all is good 😌

Wait until she's 15

My toddler said the same thing about his dad the other day. Then I brushed his hair and I was in the bad books and he wanted to go with Daddy instead.

My almost 2 year old is like this. I’m the one that drops her off at nursery and picks her up, I do the cooking, I put my career on hold for her!, I’m the one that pushed her out of me but DH is her favourite🙄.

popularity amongst your own children is very overrated.

My 3 year old prefers granny if she’s there, calls his daddy by his first name and tells him off! And has ranked the family pets in order of preference saying I don’t like gus but I love beano, and nasty patty for the cat because she’s a bit wild.
If I tell him off he usually shouts I want granny. She tells him off too but gets away with it.

Be careful he doesn’t always make you the bad cop with his being lax on the rules. As a toddler it’s fine, but when they’re older it’s a pain.

At least yours wanted Daddy. One of mine used to scream blue murder when I picked her up from nursery. Actually would yell “Nooooo mummy!” and once stood in from of them door so I couldn’t open it as she “want stay with Lucy”. Great. The real kicker was that Lucy, as lovely as she was, worked one day a week and yet my DD2 still massively preferred her 😂

my friend's daughter used to do this and her (now ex)'D'H used to be all smug until she just basically handed over all responsiblity for their DD and she did the Disney parent bit. They broke up for other reasons but he (and the OW) were really miffed when she said "EOW isn't much fun for DD, let's make it 50/50"

@hiccupgate

My two year old will cheerfully shout "bye Mummy!!" or "bye Daddy!!" and shut the door in our faces when he wants one of us to go away. What a delight.

My 2 year old drags me to the front door shouting ‘bye mummy’ and tries to push me out of it when he’s sick of me!

Meh... DD4 just pick daddy for bedtime (as per usual) and I was dismissed with a ‘but you can kiss my toes before you go’! Thanks tiny empress!

She knows you’ll be there when she comes back. She trusts you and knows she can depend on you.

I suppose there is a slight possibility that it has something to do with the tension between you and your husband. Come to think of it, your emotional fragility is probably being triggered by this rather than your period.

What's going on- would it help to talk about it?

When DS was little he patted me on the shoulder and said " That's enough , I'm done cuddling you now Mummy"...

Little buggers cut the ubilical cod with a rusty knife

(He's 21 and lovely now )

I used to feel slightly sorry for my ex while we were together as ds3 (youngest prefers me) then he became a total knob head and we split he never tried to build a relationship with him and ds has responded in kind

Kids are so cruel to their mummies!!! I do the majority of child-rearing, pretend playing, taxi provision, feeding, dressing, bathing. And then dad comes in & it’s all running forward with outstretched arms with joyful faces; cries of “daddy you’re home, we missed you!” Whilst I sit there on the floor abandoned and discarded onto the scrap-pile of lost and unrequited love.

Yeah it’s really annoying!

My dd (3) goes a step further and says "Mummy go to the kitchen and cook for me and I can go with Daddy to the park"