To think I’ve been more than fair here and to tell him to eff off

[bagpuss90]

Okay I’ve worked free lance for this guy for around 15 years. We’ve had our ups and downs but generally have a good working relationship . I also do work for other people . Note free lance - so I’m self employed . My DP is retired and I turned 60 in January. I’ve decided to take early retirement . Maybe do a little bit of work now and then. We want some quality time together - he had a health scare last year. I don’t have to give this guy I do work for any notice at all- but out of courtesy I’ve told him that I won’t be doing anymore work for him from July. So he has just over three months to find someone else. I’ve had abusive texts - calling me selfish and unreliable. Telling me I’ve left him in the shit. I think I’ve been more than fair. I’m tempted to tell him I won’t be doing any more work as of like now . I wouldn’t send my hairdresser or plumber of whoever abusive texts if they told me they were retiring .

Please don't give him any notice at all. Don't reward his shitty behaviour by doing any further work for him.

Text him back your new increased schedule of charges, with immediate effect.

What a vile man!!!

Outrageous

Agree with the professional courtesy email and don't do a stitch more work for him.

Stop working for him instantly, he's shown his true colours. Block him too

Completely outrageous. Keep evidence. Sever ties.

Agree with others. Finish anything you are doing now and no more work for him, you don’t need this shit

@VettiyaIruken

I think you should tell him that you will no longer be offering your services with immediate effect due to his abusive messages.

I agree

Interesting! What sort of business is it?
Have you already started working on a particular project that won't conclude before July?

If this guy has a boss, I'd have no qualms whatsoever in sharing those texts with them.
Prize twat sounds like he needs bringing down a peg or two.

You've been fair to this man by telling him you won't be available after a certain time, you owe him nothing. Just ignore and move on.

All good wishes for your retirement, good things are ahead.

What an arsehole and an idiot. Does he really think sending you these messages will make you think, oh hang on, I really love working for this guy and I don't need to spend time with my DP after all, I'll carry on working for this twat face indefinitely for as long as he might need me, in perpetuity, for ever and ever. I bet he'd give you no consideration whatsoever were your positions reversed.

I'd be telling him, in no uncertain terms, that due to his abusive messages I'd no longer be doing any for their work for him, sod the three months notice.

If he has a boss I'd also be expressing my dissatisfaction and disappointment in his professionalism

If you’ve had more than one abusive text this is viewed as harassment as far as I am aware and you could sue him. Maybe you could sue for loss of wages until July as well, I’m not sure. He definitely should not get away with this sort of thing. It’s deplorable and appalling.

You've effectively given him four months notice which is perfectly fair. I would point this out to him and add that you do not expect to receive unprofessional and unreasonable communications like that, then block.

Being self employed has some upsides to counter all the downsides, and being able to sack rude people off is one of them. When you don’t get sick pay/holiday pay it’s important to protect your health in other ways, and dealing with abusive people is major stress that you just don’t need. He’d be kicked off a gp list or escorted off retail premises if he started talking to the staff there like this so no, he doesn’t get to do this to you. I’d send a polite and professional response stating that in light of his abusive communications you can no longer work with him with immediate effect, and further correspondence from him will be deemed harassment and dealt with accordingly.

You have him plenty of notice when you didn’t need to give any, and then he acts like that?

Walk away with immediate effect.

Block and ghost.

Dont even message him to say anything

He crossed a line!

I'd also be extremely wary of doing any further work, lest he decides not to pay you!

I would definitely reply saying you will not he doing any more work for him following his abusive messages with immediate effect. Tell him you’d given three months notice to be as fair as you could, but that is now revoked because of his behaviour. Then block and enjoy your retirement away from clients like him!

Gosh, what an effective new way to persuade someone to keep doing work for you! Or... maybe... not so effective. I'm in the "that's the last piece of work you'll be getting out of me now, matey" camp. I doubt it will make much difference to whether he will badmouth you to other prospective clients, as the sort of person who will take it as a personal outrage that you are retiring will probably do it anyway. Well, fuck him.

Enjoy your retirement and I hope your DP keeps well. A good partner is priceless, whereas rude business people are ten a penny.

He's an absolute bell end. I bet it suited him that you didn't get paid holiday or sick pay.
What you've done is more than fair. Most people only have to give a months notice to end a permanent job. It's not your problem that he has to find someone else.

Wow. What on earth is wrong with him?

Sounds like he wasn’t paying you enough!

AlCal has it in one. Do that. Wouldn't work with someone who is abusive.