I know it's Facebook and I should scroll on past but what goes through people's MINDS!?

[FortunesFave]

Before anyone says "Well you don't sound like you like her much!" about my friend who this is about...you're wrong, I love her dearly. BUT for some unknown reason she keeps posting photos of herself in her workout gear on FB and saying "I've honestly never been happier with my figure" and "My young body was ok but now I do X sport, my 40 something body is so much better!"

I mean...it's embarrassing isn't it?

AIBU? She is fit and it's lovely...but it's just not something you have to crow about! I'm fit too...I do another sport but I'd never post this sort of thing because I imagine my mates who struggle with their weight would feel terrible about it!

Or even if they didn't, they;d think I was a bit of a wanker wouldn't they?

Or is this sort of thing ok now? Am I out of touch? My friend always has a lot of likes on her posts but they drop considerably on these ones...so others must feel the same...why doesn't she notice!?

When I was ten weeks post partum I posted a photo with a tagline about the 30 day shred. Why? Because I was proud of myself and getting my figure back and feeling fit again after six weeks of not being allowed to exercise (c section).

Another one of my friends is really into running and another one has lost loads of weight through exercise. I love seeing their updates and how good they're feeling about themselves. Seems a bit mean spirited to find it annoying.

It doesn't matter to me, man or woman looking happy i am happy for them. They are my friends hence why they are on my fb, some I haven't seen since school and others I see daily but I like them all. I can't understand the bitterness on this thread tbh

I dont post selfies but at this time of year I do post a lot of photos, my hobby is wildlife photography, and yes I post them to 'show off' im proud of my work and sometimes after tracking a bird sound for days, working out where it is then sitting for hours waiting for a capture damn right I want to show it off. I dont see the difference between my passion and someone else's fitness/workout passion.

Be proud of your achievements and dont knock others for being proud of theirs.

OP, I have a friend who once posted a gym selfie and the caption said something like “in case anyone needs some inspiration”.

I do find the " give me praise " posts cringy too.
I mean, if someone sent you a text with a pic of themselves saying ' Soooo proud of what I achieved' - you'd be like 🤔
It isn't confidence- people who are truly confident have no need for other people's approval.

This is 80% of social media isn’t it? Look at meee, give me likes, tell me how amazing my life is.

@RebeccaCloud9

Is she about to start flogging juice or aloe shit that has helped her get that body?

This. It’s the classic precursor to a reveal of a change of “career”. This happened to a friend in FB recently. She’s now some life affirmation expert and receiving discounts for wearing/promoting certain items whilst making said affirmations.

Also MLM klaxon.

Take your pick.

I know what you mean op. I have a lovely friend that has moved abroad so I don't see her much in real life. Her Fb posts are sometimes so smug and obviously set up to invite compliments. I know she's genuinely lovely but her online really persona is so different and it puzzles me why she does it?? She's not remotely insecure or a show off in real life.

A friend of mine lost 9 stone and really got into fitness because of it. Losing the weight helped her have her much longed for baby so I pleased to see her photos. She has worked flipping hard to get the body she has and is very proud of what she has. I'm hoping that it'll motivate me to do something about my weight

One of the nicest fitness instructors at my gym has just started flogging Herbalife. It's not just photos of her, it's photos of her mates and their very uncomfortable 'but incredibly transformed!!!!!' hubbies in their pants too.

Good luck to them all, but I've snoozed her.