To request ex takes holidays with child on his week?

[TootsyPops]

Myself and my ex have a court order in place where he has our daughter for 5 overnights per fortnight and he gets 1 week holiday twice per year while she’s pre school age. This is a brand new order and I’ve been thinking about holidays. His contact is bunched into one week from Friday to Friday. The following week (Friday to Friday) she is solely with myself and my other children.

Because it has been set up like this I’m thinking of asking him to agree that neither of us takes holidays (unless absolutely necessary) on each other’s “weeks”. So I won’t take his contact time and he won’t take mine effectively. Or should the two weeks holiday per year be 14 extra days for him? I would be considerate of his contact and wouldn’t book a two week holiday, nor would I book a one week holiday on his weeks even though I technically could.

AIBU to ask him to show the same consideration where it’s possible?!

Let the child have a week holiday with dad.
Many places do 7 days only.
Then you have week holiday with dc.
Simple .
Each time it might bite into the other s days. No big deal.

He gets 14 extra days for holiday OP. From what you wrote that is very obvious.

Just remember your also blocking yourself from having a 2 week holiday.
You need email proof on any alterations on holidays, so he can't use it against you.

@Onlinedilema

Again you are misquoting me. I have not said that fathers are less important than mothers. You have quoted me as making an appalling statement. What I have written is fact. Explain to me why a government would spend millions of pounds on a system trying to ensure feckless parents pay towards the upkeep of their own children, if the vast majority of NRP willingly and voluntarily contribute financially. Just because you are, or happen to know (or think you know because actually unless you are the mother or father you don't know do you) a handful of 'good menz' you really are cluelees. The majority of men do not want full custody. The majority of men do not want shared custody. A good proportion of men don't want much contact at all, or want to be Disney Dad. Don't talk bollocks, deal with facts. Check out the facts. The vast majority of NRP 's which are men whether you like it or not, do not willingly pay child support. I can't remember the exact figures but it's around only 1 in 4 or less pay the recommended amount. Some thing like 50% paid nothing or the minimum £5. Of the NRPs who do pay the recommended minimum amount, this 25% or less included everyone who has made ' a payment'. So in reality includes those who start paying them stop and those who might skip payments etc etc.

I haven’t actually quoted you at all, in either of my posts. But here’s some quotes now:

• there are a huge amount of feckless fathers
• a huge number of men neglect their children
• The majority of men do not want full custody. The majority of men do not want shared custody. A good proportion of men don't want much contact at all

Where do you get your statistics from?

To quote you again - Don't talk bollocks, deal with facts. Check out the facts