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This woman. Covid!

109 replies

Bbee29 · 24/03/2021 09:23

There is a woman in fb friends with. She’s not really a friend but she lives nearby and I would say hello. Kids go to school together.

She’s very active on social media. She’s a complete covid denier, doesn’t believe in the virus, masks, the vaccine etc. That’s her choice of course. She posts a lot of conspiracy theories on her Facebook.

Anyway...

She has posted that she feels unwell. Fever, cough, throat etc. There’s nothing to say this is covid as other viruses still around but you don’t know until she’s got a test.

People are telling her she needs to get a test but she is refusing as she doesn’t believe in it. She’s sent her kids to school etc. One is in my DS’s class 😒

Obviously it might not be covid but there’s no way she knows without a test and she’s refusing to do one. Wouldn’t be so bad if she wasn’t out and about and sending her kids to school.

She’s been in trouble before. She was told she had to isolate (she posted that online too) but was seen out and about.

This sounds extreme but she is crazy and I feel like this could cause a massive outbreak in the school community. A community which has lead practically zero cases!

Aibu to be just a little bit peed off with this? I’m not sure where this post will get me. But I feel like I need to vent!

I just feel so annoyed at this attitude tbh. Would you say anything or tell the school? Or just leave it?

I can’t be the only one who’s annoyed at this. We have quite a few mutual friends who live locally who will probably see it.

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NerrSnerr · 24/03/2021 09:24

I would email a screenshot of her FB page to the school.

Foobydoo · 24/03/2021 09:25

I would contact the school with your concerns. They may ask her to keep her children home until she has a negative test or for ten days if she does not want to test.

MRex · 24/03/2021 09:26

You can tell the school so that they can at least be aware and send the kids home if there's any tiny suspicion of illness. I honestly don't know what anyone can do about it to make her get a test, I'd have reported her not isolating though.

Bbee29 · 24/03/2021 09:27

I don’t want her to know it was me though. Or sound like a busy body to the school. Never had to do anything like this in my life! 😒

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LatteLoverLovesLattes · 24/03/2021 09:29

I would email the school screen shots of her FB page for a start.

Plus Drs if you know where she goes.

Not sure what/who else you could report to, but I'd look to see if there's anywhere on the council website.

drspouse · 24/03/2021 09:31

I doubt you are the only person with links to the school who is her FB friend. Send them a screenshot and mention that you don't want the source named.

LatteLoverLovesLattes · 24/03/2021 09:31

Surely the school will keep it confidential!

I wouldn't care if she knew it was me though, I'd sooner try to keep others safe from her.

hardboiledeggs · 24/03/2021 09:32

Contact the School and sent a screen shot if needed. Maybe a fine will convince her!

hardboiledeggs · 24/03/2021 09:33

Tell the school you want to be kept anonymous. You might find you are not the only one who reports her.

Bbee29 · 24/03/2021 09:34

Thanks all! I just feel so torn. She seems nice enough just a bit crazy as in believing all the conspiracy’s (not just about covid) but wanting to keep the school staff and kids safe. If her kid was to catch it and say it was covid that’s one of mine in isolation!

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Glitterblue · 24/03/2021 09:34

The school would keep it confidential, I would definitely email them. Sounds like plenty other people have seen and commented on the post so it wouldn't be obvious that it was you.

AquaBlue32 · 24/03/2021 09:35

If her child has transmitted the virus to a family with a vulnerable family member they could potentially die. Nice or not I would contact the school without a second thought.

Felifox · 24/03/2021 09:44

If she's daft enough to post it on fb it's not private so it shouldn't be any surprise to her that the school pick up on it.

But the fact that despite all the publicity and stories of those who've lost loved ones she is such an arrogant selfish cow is astounding. It only takes one prat like her to cause devastation for others

rainbowfairydust · 24/03/2021 09:45

Why should everybody else have to isolate and test, but not her? We're all in this together so report her to school and ask them not to name you. She is stupid for putting it on social media too or wanting to cause drama!

Felifox · 24/03/2021 09:46

Yes do as @LucyLocketsPocket suggests

MRex · 24/03/2021 09:46

@Bbee29

Thanks all! I just feel so torn. She seems nice enough just a bit crazy as in believing all the conspiracy’s (not just about covid) but wanting to keep the school staff and kids safe. If her kid was to catch it and say it was covid that’s one of mine in isolation!
No, she isn't "nice enough". Nice people don't risk other people's health in this way.
Sandgrown1970 · 24/03/2021 09:49

In my hometown two members of school staff died from Covid in the same week because a parent sent their kids in with Covid. Neither were high risk or elderly.

Report her and stop worrying about anonymity. The only person that would be pissed off would be her. Everyone else would be grateful. The school will not name you. Please don’t be a bystander.

babbaloushka · 24/03/2021 09:53

The key thing to remember is that she's posted this online. You're not betraying her trust or privacy, you're making the school aware that she's putting people's kids at risk. There will be kids who are at additional risk due to underlying health conditions (not CEV), and she could endanger their lives or their families lives. You cannot let her get away with this, tell the school.

Ikora · 24/03/2021 09:56

Make another email account, no one need know the email was from you.

recklessruby · 24/03/2021 09:59

Report her. It's people like her that cause further outbreaks and more time in lockdown.
I work in a school and we have had no positive cases for weeks because everyone is working hard to stick to the rules and protect each other.
A colleague works at a breakfast club elsewhere and caught the virus in December. She s coming up to retirement and now has long covid, maybe she wont ever be back full time as she has serious breathing difficulties.
The woman you're talking about is stupid and dangerous.
She can believe what she wants but she has no right to infect and potentially kill innocent people.

DameEdnasNeighbourhoodWatch · 24/03/2021 09:59

I like Ikoras advice - this is life or death to a lot of people - screenshot and send !

GladysTheGroovyMule · 24/03/2021 10:00

Tell the school, offer to send a screenshot to them. I would put money on other people also telling the school. I would without a doubt. It’s not being a busybody- her kid is in your kids class and potentially has covid too. From my point of view I have a partner with a compromised immune system so I would be very concerned and not feel at all bad. Even without that, no one wants to have to call in to work because their kids have to be off for 10 days self isolating. Even if you or your kids don’t get ill it’s a ball ache.

Plumbear2 · 24/03/2021 10:01

Report to the school. I'm certain the head and staff will be greatfull.

Comefromaway · 24/03/2021 10:02

I would absolutely tell the school. How irresponsible of her to risk other peoples lives by sending her kids into school.

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