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This woman. Covid!

109 replies

Bbee29 · 24/03/2021 09:23

There is a woman in fb friends with. She’s not really a friend but she lives nearby and I would say hello. Kids go to school together.

She’s very active on social media. She’s a complete covid denier, doesn’t believe in the virus, masks, the vaccine etc. That’s her choice of course. She posts a lot of conspiracy theories on her Facebook.

Anyway...

She has posted that she feels unwell. Fever, cough, throat etc. There’s nothing to say this is covid as other viruses still around but you don’t know until she’s got a test.

People are telling her she needs to get a test but she is refusing as she doesn’t believe in it. She’s sent her kids to school etc. One is in my DS’s class 😒

Obviously it might not be covid but there’s no way she knows without a test and she’s refusing to do one. Wouldn’t be so bad if she wasn’t out and about and sending her kids to school.

She’s been in trouble before. She was told she had to isolate (she posted that online too) but was seen out and about.

This sounds extreme but she is crazy and I feel like this could cause a massive outbreak in the school community. A community which has lead practically zero cases!

Aibu to be just a little bit peed off with this? I’m not sure where this post will get me. But I feel like I need to vent!

I just feel so annoyed at this attitude tbh. Would you say anything or tell the school? Or just leave it?

I can’t be the only one who’s annoyed at this. We have quite a few mutual friends who live locally who will probably see it.

OP posts:
Frazzled2207 · 24/03/2021 13:29

well done for emailing. I really am not sure the school has the power to do anything other than perhaps speak to her and try and persuade her to keep the kids off unless she has a negative test. But you did the right thing anyway.
Sadly I think there's loads of people like this. Posting about it on facebook is odd though. If you didn't believe in Covid and were ill surely you'd just keep quiet!

andyoldlabour · 24/03/2021 13:32

Comefromaway

"Secondary children are but not primary. And it's not compulsory, a covid denier is hardly likely to give permission for her child to be tested."

Cheers, didn't know that. I also agree with you that deniers will be unlikely to test their chidren.

Thirtyrock39 · 24/03/2021 13:35

Hmm I'm not sure the school can actually do anything though and it will put them in a really awkward position. I wouldn't envy the member of staff who had to ring the parent about this and the kids are presumably already in school? It would really annoy me as well but I actually think it would be better to comment on her post reminding her that she needs to isolate her household to be on the safe side- maybe something passive aggressive like 'oh well at least you can get tested and isolated before the pubs open' ...

MatildaMainly · 24/03/2021 13:45

@Bbee29 please stop feeling anxious. As adults and particularly as a parent, there is a time when we have to get out of our comfort zone and do the right thing regardless what we fear other people might think of us.

This woman's right to her beliefs doesn't trump the medical and government regulations or the potential safety of everyone in school, their families and associates.

All you've done is make school aware so that they can decide what they need to do next. If this woman gets upset it's no one's fault but her own.

KillingEvenings · 24/03/2021 13:46

The school can send kids home if they show any symptoms, so if nothing else they will be on high alert (and if anything like some of the teachers at my school, they may hear a cough or two when pershaps there wasn't one.)

TheCrowening · 24/03/2021 14:14

@Just4thisone

I'm not a full believer in the covid. Kind of on the fence. But that is my thing . And I won't put that on to others. If I had symptoms I would still get a test even if I don't believe in it. Because weather I believe it or not its not worth the risk of me spreading it about if I am wrong which I could be . Suppose im saying she should air in the side of caution.

Could you ring the school and tell them but make it clear you don't want the person to know it came from you

What do you think all these people are dying of, then?

I genuinely can’t understand what sort of bubble people need to live in to even start to think this might not be real.

190190tnt · 24/03/2021 14:15

Tell the school! She is being totally selfish.

Just4thisone · 24/03/2021 14:39

@GloGirl
@thecrowening

Sorry I should have put it better. I did say I'm not a full believer and I'm on the fence about it. I did also own my thinking on it so it's just my own thing I'm not saying other people are wrong. Hence why I would still take precautions. So what I think is not a massive issue as long as I'm not using it to put others at risk. Just because I'm In 2 minds does not mean I don't follow guidelines or that I would put others at risk

QuestionEverythingOrBeASheep · 24/03/2021 14:40

Are your school testing the children twice a week? Our school does. This would quickly catch any positive tests before they become a problem.

Hellohello53452 · 24/03/2021 14:41

Not usually one to tell tale but in this case I would tell the school as there will probably be some child or adult at school who could be really ill if they get COVID ( underlying conditions )

QuestionEverythingOrBeASheep · 24/03/2021 14:43

@Cadent

Covid-deniers don't generally post on FB about their fever, coughs and sore throats during a pandemic.

It's probably a cry for attention, the effect of lockdown. She probably isn't sick at all. I wouldn't worry unduly.

This. Maybe it's a test to see how people respond. Some people have a very weird sense of humour.
listsandbudgets · 24/03/2021 14:43

Normally, I'd say mind your own business... but the trouble here is that she's made it everyone's business

a) by posting it on facebook so everyone can see it
b) by putting the wider community at risk.

This isn't about possible benefit fraud or applying for a school place with fake information (don't approve of those either) This is about potentially killing someone or making them seriously ill. Its also about the possibility of sending an entire school bubble home for a fortnight with all the ramifications of that for families and education.

I hope the school take notice OP. How selfish of her.

StarCat2020 · 24/03/2021 15:08

Her stupidity does not stop her Covid from infecting other and I think that people who cannot understand that (like this woman) need to be reported.

I can understand wanting to stay anonymous so setting up a new email account might help?
protonmail.com/

Teasgonecoldagain · 24/03/2021 16:09

For anyone that hasn't RTFT, OP has already emailed the school.

Bbee29 · 24/03/2021 16:17

@QuestionEverythingOrBeASheep

Are your school testing the children twice a week? Our school does. This would quickly catch any positive tests before they become a problem.
Not here. It’s a primary school 😊
OP posts:
BiggerBoat1 · 24/03/2021 16:18

Well done OP you've done completely the right thing.
She's an irresponsible nobber. Children and teaching staff have a right to feel safe in school.

FlyingBurrito · 24/03/2021 16:20

[quote Just4thisone]@GloGirl
@thecrowening

Sorry I should have put it better. I did say I'm not a full believer and I'm on the fence about it. I did also own my thinking on it so it's just my own thing I'm not saying other people are wrong. Hence why I would still take precautions. So what I think is not a massive issue as long as I'm not using it to put others at risk. Just because I'm In 2 minds does not mean I don't follow guidelines or that I would put others at risk[/quote]
I'm interested in which bits you don't believe in, can you expand a little @Just4thisone

BrownEyedGirl80 · 24/03/2021 16:20

What a prick yanbu

Bbee29 · 24/03/2021 16:20

@Just4thisone

I'm not a full believer in the covid. Kind of on the fence. But that is my thing . And I won't put that on to others. If I had symptoms I would still get a test even if I don't believe in it. Because weather I believe it or not its not worth the risk of me spreading it about if I am wrong which I could be . Suppose im saying she should air in the side of caution.

Could you ring the school and tell them but make it clear you don't want the person to know it came from you

Absolutely. We all have our own opinions on it which I respect but the issue with her isn’t about whether she believes in covid or not, is that she’s not getting a test so you sound responsible. If she didn’t want a test and was isolating then I wouldn’t care but it’s just sending the children into school! 😒
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islockdownoveryet · 24/03/2021 16:28

She sounds barking mad , it’s her opinion but what does she expect I’m not well but I’m not having a test and I’m not isolating putting it on Facebook.
She must expect some sort of backlash . I don’t go on Facebook any more too may idiots like your friend but it would really annoy me especially as my son is on his 3rd isolation .
I wouldn’t worry about her thinking it’s you who’s reported her to school others will think the same you may not be the only one to report .
I really hope they give her a good telling.

ODFOx · 24/03/2021 16:30

Even if the school aren't testing you and the rest of the family can still do twice weekly lateral flow tests. Collect them from your closest testing centre( or look on gov website). All family of teachers of pupils are being offered the twice weekly test.

EugenesAxe · 24/03/2021 16:33

Definitely NBU and you should tell the school. That's so irresponsible of her 😠

BluebellsGreenbells · 25/03/2021 09:01

Hmm I'm not sure the school can actually do anything though and it will put them in a really awkward position

Have you met a school secretary? They are a fierce bunch and have no qualms about ringing parents to fetch the kids!

Seriously they deal with this shit all the time and no doubt have a robust covid policy to fall back on!

SimplyMarvellousDarrrrrrling · 25/03/2021 11:25

You did the right thing
She is being totally irresponsible and shows a lack of regard for your children, you and the staff

GabsAlot · 25/03/2021 12:19

Do you know if her child has turned up today op

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