To feel like a hypocrite, standing outside my house at 8

[Breastfeedingworries]

My mums just called asking if I was going to respect the 8pm Covid acknowledgement of lives lost and I don’t know if it’s right.

I haven’t stuck to the rules, I’ve seen unhappy stressed out friends, my friend whose single with twins has needed me when she left abusive partner. I’ve also saw close friends of mine. I just wonder if I’m disrespecting the dead. :/

I could’ve been a cause of loss of life and I regret my actions the past year, I’ve been foolish and selfish. Feeling lonely and seeing people, just wanting life to be normal for me and dd, I stopped listening to the news, got on with the life I had, saw people. I’m sadden buy what I’ve done the past year but I was trying to keep positive for dd. Lot of changes this year, some good and bad and I just don’t want to be a hypocrite.

Sorry rant over.

[Chunkymenrock]

Bloody hell. It's never ending the idiotic excuses people come up with to justify their selfishness. What part of stay at home could you not understand?

[Tossblanket]

Virtue signalling tripe.

[maddiemookins16mum]

YANBU, I said as much yesterday at work (in clear earshot of a colleague who has ignored all rules for a year and spent Christmas in and out of different houses). So much so the whole family got very sick and one died. She just doesn’t get it.

[MacDuffsMuff]

@Inthevirtualwaitingroom

what do you want from this thread.?

I'm guessing for everyone to say that she hasn't done anything wrong and to absolve her of any responsibility for her own behaviour? Weird isn't it.

[EarringsandLipstick]

@Chunkymenrock

Bloody hell. It's never ending the idiotic excuses people come up with to justify their selfishness. What part of stay at home could you not understand?

But in August, that wasn't the guidance?

I'm at a loss to understand the OP's self-flagellation and the response.

If she had appointments when these businesses were open and allowed to trade i.e. the level of risk was assessed by public health & considered acceptable, then she did nothing wrong

I know she's talked about not following the rules, but she hasn't been clear about how she hasn't.

(I'm in Ireland, have absolutely followed the rules; I'm going on what other posters say the rules were in the UK at that time).

[RickOShay]

Fil died of covid last June. @Breastfeedingworries I do not blame you for his death!

[EarringsandLipstick]

@Breastfeedingworries

In fairness, the Dentist surgery where I got those treatments done was open and taking clients and legal, just not ethical. :(

Why not ethical? What was wrong with what they were doing?

[EarringsandLipstick]

Want to own everything I’ve done this past year.

You say this but haven't been clear what this means.

All the actions you mention could have been permitted at certain times or under certain conditions.

You haven't been clear if you broke rules by doing these, and have actually been unclear, saying you got nails / hair / Botox done in August, when that was permitted.

So what's with the chest-thumping? What is it you are trying to 'own'? 🙄

[Inthevirtualwaitingroom]

I went to eat out to help out!

but I could, it was allowed, positively encouraged.
i am not demanding forgiveness

[CuthbertDibbleandGrubb]

The best thing you can do is your behaviour now and in the future, until everyone has been offered the second dose of the vaccine. I have not had a spurious visit to someone claiming it is 'work', for example.

[MsTSwift]

But in the summer and early autumn everything pretty much open. Most of us got haircuts and went out? Why do you need to give yourself 50 lashes?

Sorry but dh from the outset found the stand outside thing empty cringeworthy virtue signalling and over time Ive come to agree with him.

[Ohwhataprogramme]

Yes when were you getting your nails done etc? If when we could that's fine, not so great if clandestine but the posters saying this is the most shocking admission they've ever read on here then they need to get out more, oh wait.....

[Houlyerwhisht]

YANBU re the virtue signalling.
YABU - vote given for "rant over"

[MacDuffsMuff]

@EarringsandLipstick I would assume that the OP can't mean the hair and nails etc when salons were open because there's nothing wrong with that, it wasn't against any rules or guidelines at that time so by saying that she 'tried to live life as though CoVID wasn't happening', it does sound like perhaps there were many other times when perhaps she wasn't following guidleine? I'm making assumptions of course but I can't work out the point of the thread in the first place if the OP just means that she had her hair done when it was allowed and had a socially distanced meet up with her neighbour. 🤷

[lorca]

I went to Eat out to HELP out. It was legal and morally right to help out the local businesses.
I had my hair done. It's my hairdresser's career and income.
I shopped. In non-essential shops! which were open.

I did not spread Covid - BECAUSE I DIDN'T HAVE COVID to start with. Never had it.

No one's granny has died because I had my hair cut.

And I didn't stand on my doorstep last night either - I don't know anyone who's even had Covid seriously, let alone died from it.

[TangoWhiskyAlphaTango]

@LegAndSparkle

Yes I think it would be hypocritical of you to do that. Well done for recognising your mistakes and the harm you have caused. Maybe you could write a letter expressing your sorrow to the dead instead, that might feel more meaningful.

Are you serious?

[RosesAndHellebores]

Some people have clapped on their own doorstep 8pm on Thursdays op. You have crapped on yours. You need to find a way to be happy with what you've done. I'd be more distraught at the crassness of both and fillers tbh.

Three medics in this road. Every medic household has had visitors - again and again in breach of covid regs. They don't clap either.

[Cadent]

@Breastfeedingworries

Sorry it did sound like I was doing a woe is me post, tbf I picked an example which was self exonerating. I have broke other rules throughout lockdown which weren’t worthy and I have no excuse for.

I’m doing to confess them now and take the abuse and I won’t explain any mitigating circumstances, plus some are purely selfish.

I saw my neighbor throughout the first one,

I saw my single mum friend of 1 (while still mixing with my neighbor, I did tell her and we distanced)

As time went on, I went and had my nails done, I’ve had filler appointments and Botox in august.

I’ve seen all my closest friends this year at least once, I’ve had my hair done, took my dd to play dates and birthday gatherings (that was once)

I’ve generally tried to live my life as though COVID wasn’t happening and I am sorry for what I’ve done.

Feeling very disappointed in myself.

Want to own everything I’ve done this past year.

This seems much more honest and genuine, OP. Sorry I called you faux-woe-is-me!

I don’t think anyone has followed the rules 100%. Even my mum, who has shielded for a year now, despite having have had the jab a while ago, has slipped up occasionally.

You do seem to have been a bit more lax than others! have you turned a new leaf, OP?

[AnaofBroceliande]

@RosesAndHellebores

Some people have clapped on their own doorstep 8pm on Thursdays op. You have crapped on yours. You need to find a way to be happy with what you've done. I'd be more distraught at the crassness of both and fillers tbh.

Three medics in this road. Every medic household has had visitors - again and again in breach of covid regs. They don't clap either.

😂

Distraught.

I wouldn't have given it a second thought.

OMG, medics had visitors! I knew some medics who met their affair lovers all the way through.

Give over, OP, move on and live your life.

[roguetomato]

Deeply unpleasant post disguised as something else. I wish I didn't read this first thing in a morning.

[Cadent]

@RosesAndHellebores

Some people have clapped on their own doorstep 8pm on Thursdays op. You have crapped on yours. You need to find a way to be happy with what you've done. I'd be more distraught at the crassness of both and fillers tbh.

Three medics in this road. Every medic household has had visitors - again and again in breach of covid regs. They don't clap either.

Are you the Neighbourhood Watch on Clapping?!

Who gives a shit who claps!

[EarringsandLipstick]

@MacDuffsMuff

I guess you are right - but didn't she specify August? So that was ok? Also she clarified the dentist who provided Botox (this is a thing in the UK?!?) was legally open. So I'm struggling to see where she has definitively broken rules.

Clearly the OP has some agenda here but I'm missing it entirely!

[Buckingafout]

OP, I think you are brave to admit all this! Well done for taking the time to reflect on it.

[bastaebasta]

I'll be honest - I didn't even know about the 8pm thing, only the 12noon silence. And I found that out in the morning.

They seem to keep announcing arbitrary clappy things with no notice during lockdown, then wondering why no one takes part. When many people aren't reading news on a daily basis anymore (because it's so damn depressing), how do they expect people to know about it?

I'm past all that anyway. I clapped the first time only, and it felt nice to hear all my neighbours from many streets away taking part - people I hadn't seen in such a long time - after that, it felt hollow. Clearly, everyone agreed because the noise stopped. Repeat a gesture repeatedly and it loses its power.

[AnaofBroceliande]

@roguetomato

Deeply unpleasant post disguised as something else. I wish I didn't read this first thing in a morning.

What difference does that make? As opposed to say, the My cat shit in the fire thread?