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WTF? Strangers Making Babies TV show
Doyoumind · 23/03/2021 18:42
Just read about this programme which starts on Channel 4 tonight where single people wanting children are matched with a stranger they could coparent with without a romantic relationship.
I don't even know where to start.
Am I being unreasonable?
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Doyoumind · 23/03/2021 19:23
Setting aside the complete disregard for the child in all this, surely even a selfish would-be parent can understand it's difficult enough to parent successfully within a relationship, or within a relationship that has broken down amicably, never mind with someone you meet only for the purpose of having a child together.
When you have a child with someone you are tied to them forever and will have to make decisions about your child with them until the child is at least 18.
NiceGerbil · 23/03/2021 19:28
How far do the program background check the people?
Are these to be conceived via sex or sperm donation or what?
Will they live near enough to each other to co-parent?
How will the costs of raising the child be split?
I mean just so many questions.
How will these children feel when they find out (which lets face it they will).
What happens in the event of the foetus having a condition incompatible with life? Will that be followed for the prog? Or a disability and they don't agree on whether to proceed?
What if worst case the woman dies?
What a grim idea for a TV prog.
MorganKitten · 23/03/2021 19:43
@Doyoumind
When you have a child with someone you are tied to them forever and will have to make decisions about your child with them until the child is at least 18.
You are not tied to them forever, my biological dad is proof of that.
What an unselfish way for a single person who wants a child to have one then?
WonkyCactus · 23/03/2021 19:49
Look, not everyone is lucky enough to meet the love of their life and conceive a child with them. I admit it's not the best subject for a TV show because of the children involved but if it opens people's eyes to diverse families then that can only be a good thing. Frankly it sounds like some posters on this thread could do with tuning in.
Warrickdaviesasplates · 23/03/2021 20:00
@MorganKitten I would think it would be better to co-parent with a long term friend or go down the sperm donor route and do it alone.
Surely either of those options would be better than a reality show matching you with a stranger and you making a huge life long decision with someone you don't even know.
All these dating shows (Married At First Sight being the main one) that match people up surely show how rarely it works out in the long run. Yes I certainly found the recent series of MAFS entertaining, but bringing a new life into the world isn't about entertainment, it's a serious thing that shouldn't be trivialised.
MorganKitten · 23/03/2021 20:20
[quote FightingTheFoo]@MorganKitten Sorry but there isn't one. [/quote]
So every one who has been a single parent by choice is selfish?
To me that’s highly judgemental, you don’t know how good a parent they will be. Your calling every women who chose to raise a child alone - no matter how they are conceived selfish, yet they could be amazing parents. In fact I know several who have raised fantastic children and haven’t been stuck in a place they don’t want to be.
Also women who chose to adopt as lone parents - your calling them selfish, what about giving that child a good home?
MorganKitten · 23/03/2021 20:21
[quote Warrickdaviesasplates]@MorganKitten I would think it would be better to co-parent with a long term friend or go down the sperm donor route and do it alone.
Surely either of those options would be better than a reality show matching you with a stranger and you making a huge life long decision with someone you don't even know.
All these dating shows (Married At First Sight being the main one) that match people up surely show how rarely it works out in the long run. Yes I certainly found the recent series of MAFS entertaining, but bringing a new life into the world isn't about entertainment, it's a serious thing that shouldn't be trivialised.[/quote]
It’s up to the person having the child - if they can co parent well why does it matter?
. Are there no levels to which they won't sink in their desperate attempts to find new LifesNotEnidBlyton · 23/03/2021 20:33
There are dating sites like this that I've heard about. One was the really rich, people like the sons of nobles and the like who aren't married and want a son but dont want to do all the work when the child is young, and high flying career women who want their child to have a title and their school fees paid, who could meet and make a deal where the woman would undergo treatment to see that it was a boy and the man would pay for education and connections because of his title.... I don't have the link now but it was a few years ago. Its worrying and Channel 4 making a programme on the same type of thing, this looks like us more commoners though not lord and multi millionaires, is just more ways we're now making babies as commodities and making reality shows like it's an odd competition of who can make the most "unusual" and "modern" family.
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