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To be offended by the thing oh said whilst dreaming last night..?

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Peppaismyrolemodel · 21/03/2021 11:21

For context he is scared of wolves and often dreams about them.

And also for context my mother has the kind of issues which make her decidedly unpleasant in close relationships.

So should I be offended that last night he turned to me, whilst clearly dreaming, and with quite some anger, said ‘you are really JUST like your mother’.
And then growled. (!)

Do you think I’m being unreasonable to take this personally, or should I tell myself dreams are not to be taken seriously by those who happen to hear..?

Make me feel better: hit me with the weirdo things your partner has told you whilst asleep..😳

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Notsoaccidentproneanymore · 21/03/2021 18:24

I still remember my dream of one of my work colleagues being a zombie and chasing me up a tower. I was shouting for one of my other colleagues to come and help me (he didn’t). I was shouting really loudly, but dh said I was just whimpering in my sleep. He woke me up to check if I was ok (the only reason I remember it).

I told my colleagues who thought it was 😂

UltimateBlends · 21/03/2021 18:27

This thread has absolutely had me howling.
And very nice to hear others stories.
I've got so many. I used to suffer awful night terrors, the ones when you can't move and can see and old lady or demons holding you down. Eyes wide open, room visible, you can see your OH but can't communicate with them effectively.
I regularly have dreams where DP is having an affair.
DP regularly wakes me up, muttering to himself, on the few times I've questioned him I usually get manic laughing and smiling in his sleep - which is bizarre as in waking life he can be a right miserable knobhead Grin

I regularly dream of ex bfs/old jobs, which drives me insane as I really don't want to be reminded, particularly about the ex relationships!

I also regularly dream of people I went to school with (mid 30s so left school quite a while ago, and no SM to be reminded of them) whats most confusing is the people I dream of in school, can be people I had nothing/very little to do with! I wake up thinking "wtf is that about"

Then wonder if I ever feature in dreams of others!!

UltimateBlends · 21/03/2021 18:29

An interesting question that I'm genuinely curious about, does anyone think your dreams reflect your waking life? Or have a insight into your mind?
Reading back on other experiences I'm inclined to say no.

Tlollj · 21/03/2021 18:38

I woke the whole house once. I dreamt someone was messing my bookcases up. I screamed ‘no they’re in chronological reading order’. Furious when I eventually woke up absolutely furious.

Slackarse · 21/03/2021 18:50

A friend once woke up when her then boyfriend (now husband) flung himself over her, screaming at her to duck. Turned out he woke up and saw the red little light on the tv, and because of something he had dreamt he thought someone was aiming at her with a gun..

Cowgran · 22/03/2021 08:52

When I was first dating my husband he used to sleep talk a lot. Once he woke me up to tell me he'd put my bra in the microwave. Another time he was just shouting "argh" over and over again really loudly. Apparently he'd got his foot trapped in a snare. He also frequently woke up, jumped in the shower to get ready for work at 2am or thereabouts (he had a normal 9-5 job).

Peace43 · 22/03/2021 09:03

My partner had a conversation with my about all the doors being connected on Friday night. Apparently he could hear them and it would upset the dog. I wasn’t 100% sure he was asleep to start with but he just kept repeating himself on a loop until I told him it was all ok at which point he slumped back into the pillow. Remembered nothing the next day. He’s talked to me about trucks before, held up ceilings that were falling in and generally been really freeky

PinkiOcelot · 22/03/2021 09:07

A few months ago my DH shouted out “you shouldn’t have fucking sold it!!”. Apparently I’d sold his classic car for peanuts. He hasn’t got a classic car.

cricketmum84 · 22/03/2021 09:11

DH once sat height in bed and shouted "DD put that bloody ketchup down!!"

DD was a year old and fast asleep in her cot. I ended up waking him up by laughing 😂

I also regularly fall out with him if the dream version of DH has done or said something mean 😳

LongHairDontCare38 · 22/03/2021 09:35

How long have you got? DH often chatters about-
Jaffa cakes
A Hi-Fi system he had 20 years ago
"You can deal with my Wife!" Apparently he was trying to return something & he thought I'd get a better response?
I'm working on exercise 003 & there's only been X amount of expressions of interest etc
He was once sat on the loo in the en suite, fell off & blamed me for pushing him. I was breastfeeding the baby in bed.
No LongHair you can't work the washing machine

He's chattier in his sleep than when he is awake 😂

MissJeanLouise · 22/03/2021 10:22

My DH regularly sleeptalks, but most of the time it comes out as mumbling, with an occasional high squeak which is when he’s trying to scream in his dream but it won’t come out properly. In amongst the mumbling, you usually get the occasional very clear word. My favourite, during what was afterwards explained to be a dream about pirates, was him suddenly sitting up and spitting out disgustedly the insult “You... OATCAKE!” 🤣

sendinallthesheep · 22/03/2021 10:24

About six months into my relationship with now DH, he turned to me in bed one night, loomed over me and whispered menacingly into the darkness "I'm keeping an eye on you..."

It was quite alarming at the time but nearly 15 years later his night time nonsense barely registers.

ArwenTheGreat · 22/03/2021 11:51

DP talks loads. Random rubbish, but the most frequent mutterings are either a very cross "fuck off you cunt" or a proper deep and belly laugh. The last one is obviously much nicer to hear!

thelegohooverer · 22/03/2021 11:53

I have been very off with dh sometimes because he’s a right bastard in my dreams. He feels very hard done by and takes no responsibility for his behaviour in my dreams. My reasoning is that if he weren’t such a lovely person in real life, my subconscious wouldn’t have to supply the opposite to balance him out. So it really is his fault after all

JackieTheFart · 22/03/2021 12:01

I don’t really have anything funny to report, but I did have a really intense, really good sex dream the other night and I hope to god I was silent during it Blush

therocinante · 22/03/2021 12:37

Oh mine talks constantly.

"What are you doing? I've told you a hundred times not to put the hoover there" (he has, to be fair).

"This IS my bed, it's society that's wrong" (Asleep on the sofa)

"Well you're no peach" (?)

"On grounds of unreasonable BEHAVIOUR" (sleep divorcing me? Who knows)

It's always in a slightly irritable, serious tone which really tickles me, too.

therocinante · 22/03/2021 12:40

@sendinallthesheep

About six months into my relationship with now DH, he turned to me in bed one night, loomed over me and whispered menacingly into the darkness "I'm keeping an eye on you..."

It was quite alarming at the time but nearly 15 years later his night time nonsense barely registers.

Laughed out loud at this one. I love weird sleep talking, I find it fascinating.
Newestname001 · 22/03/2021 12:51

@Peppaismyrolemodel

Yes he does sometimes sing too- hymns mostly (misspent youth). This is much nicer and sometimes coincides with ds waking to request ‘more sing-sing daddy’ .. which daddy obediently supplies 😬
That's very cute.... I wonder if he thinks all dads do this!

I once shared a room with a friend who sometimes sleep-talked. She once sat bolt upright and said, very clearly whilst still fast asleep "That's QUITE enough of THAT!!" before settling back, still fast asleep! 🌹

CorianderBee · 23/03/2021 00:02

My best friend has snored and sleep talked since she was a child. I became quite used to waking up at sleepovers to her saying 'Coriander, the buildings on fire' and sometimes 'well that will be the FBI' - she's never lived in the US and the building has never been on fire.

MargaretThursday · 23/03/2021 00:16

Dh once started packing the house up to move. He started with his radio alarm clock, which was still plugged in. I woke to ding him tugging hard at it.
I pointed out we'd moved 3 weeks ago and he'd be better to go back to sleep.
So he did.
He's very obedient when asleep. 🤣

OohImBlindedByTheLights · 23/03/2021 00:36

My DH had a dream that his cousin was pinning him down and tickling him, so lashed his arm out and whacked my nose twice! 'Woke up' and cried that he had hurt me and hugged me tight.

In the morning when he actually woke up, he asked why there was blood on the pillow!!!!!

To be fair; he felt horrific and really did make it up.

OohImBlindedByTheLights · 23/03/2021 00:37

Make it up to me that should say

OohImBlindedByTheLights · 23/03/2021 00:47

DH has a peach of a recording of me speaking in god only knows what language. He nudges me and I open my eyes and really glare at him. I then snarl and say "I MUST GET BACK TO THE GIRAFFES IN THE PATIENT ROOMS".... I don't even work in a hospital or a zoo.... or a vet 🤣🤣 the funniest thing about the video is our cats at the bottom of the bed just looking at me as if I've gone mad.

ChampionOfTheSun · 23/03/2021 00:49

Oh no, this has reminded me of the night when DH woke me up by shaking me: "can you see them??"
Me: "See who?"
DH: "Over there, there's someone there"
Me: silently panicking
DH: "I heard a noise and then they were there"
rolls back over and starts snoring
I was then awake terrified for quite some time Grin

ChampionOfTheSun · 23/03/2021 00:51

@OohImBlindedByTheLights

My DH had a dream that his cousin was pinning him down and tickling him, so lashed his arm out and whacked my nose twice! 'Woke up' and cried that he had hurt me and hugged me tight.

In the morning when he actually woke up, he asked why there was blood on the pillow!!!!!

To be fair; he felt horrific and really did make it up.

DH has done this too, he elbowed me in the nose when we were first together! He was totally oblivious and I was covered in blood ConfusedGrin